I am monogamous.
I am not interested in casual sex or FWBs.
I am not a practitioner of polyamory nor am I a golden unicorn. If I make an exception to this rule (and I typically do NOT) I will contact YOU. Please, no messages asking me to pair up with you and your partner. I'm not here for casual sex with one person, let alone two people.
If I gave you a high rating, I very likely found something in your profile amusing or of merit. I don't necessarily want to hump your leg. Please do not be butt hurt if you see the stars, come looking for a date, and I decline.
I am a widow. I lost my soulmate and life partner, Eric Bloodstorm, unexpectedly In Dec 2012. Anyone who contacts me hoping for a love connection must understand that I am still in the grieving/healing process. You must be comfortable with that. You must be comfortable with me talking about the man I lost. If you were a friend of Eric, please reach out. I would be happy to hear from you.
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR:
--people who like to cuddle (and nothing more)
--people who are emotionally available
--people who are truly single (unmarried, unpartnered, no recent divorces, splits, or ex-drama/hang-ups... I'm not into rebound relationships)
--highly intelligent, deliciously witty, ambitious, motivated and successful people. You take care of yourself and are happy with your life situation.
--someone I am very physically attracted to. Call me shallow. But attraction is important for me. When I say attractive, I mean that you typically garner attention from other reasonably attractive individuals. And yes, intelligence and an awesome wit makes you more attractive.
--physically and mentally HEALTHY people. (if you have a mental illness, but are actively treating it, and can function normally, I am chill with that).
--STD free individuals. I can show you medical paperwork attesting that I am STD free and expect same.
--people without substance abuse issues. The occasional social drink or smoke is fine, but I don't 420 or beyond this and my ideal partner doesn't, either.
--someone solvent. What does this mean? Someone financially secure, not drowning in debt, who is striving to achieve the goals they have in place. I prefer you have your own place, not live with your mom, rent a room, or couch surf, but I am emphathetic to personal circumstances.
--someone who is kid friendly and understands that I put my children first. This may sometimes mean that you will see less of me than you'd like. Ideally someone who already has their own kids and/or doesn't want more.
--ultimately, someone to take care of me. I am in some ways traditional. I take care of my guy in a very 1950s household sort of way, and he wants for absolutely nothing. I want to be taken care of in that same way, adored, cherished, protected, loved and nurtured. I have an Achilles for Alpha males. Note that I didn't say sugar daddy. Big difference.
--someone spiritual, but not religious. Someone who understands energy work, as I am an energetic being. You can run energies and get high off of me. I have been called a human battery...
I have to say these things because they are important, not because I am a raving cunt rag. Let's just get this out of the way as painlessly as possible, shall we?
Please pass me by if: you are merely responding to this profile because you liked my pictures, if it is clear we have little in common, or that you can't imagine ever being with someone like me long term, if you want me to be monogamous but won't commit to being my partner in a relationship (yes, I have had this happen)... if your goal is NOT to fall insanely, insatiably in love... if you are a Boston Red Sox fan (okay, that was a joke...sort of... go Yanks!)