I am looking ultimately for someone extraordinary. I am very discerning and don't mind being single or alone until I find the person who is right for me. I am not looking to date a new person every week, to meet up at countless bars for conversation, or to find FWBs.
I am not a practitioner of polyamory nor am I a golden unicorn. If I make an exception to this rule (and I typically do NOT) I will contact YOU. Please, no messages asking me to pair up with you and your partner. I'm not here for casual sex with one person, let alone two people.
SO I GAVE YOU HIGH RATINGS ON QUICKMATCH. DOES THIS MEAN I WANT TO DATE YOU?
I will often give others 4-5 stars. I could find something you wrote pithy, or admire the ill fitting tiara you placed on your head in the pic, which says to me you don't take this site so seriously. This DOES NOT MEAN I want to date you or necessarily even hear from you. Please do not be butt hurt if you see the stars, come looking for a date, and I decline.
I AM A RECENT WIDOW: In Dec 2012, I lost my soul mate to a cardiac arrest. I am in mourning. If you knew my Eric Bloodstorm, please give me a shout out. I love meeting more of those he touched in his too brief lifetime... Anyone who contacts me hoping for a love connection must understand that I am still in the grieving/healing process. You must be comfortable with that. You must be comfortable with me talking about the man I lost who was my world.
MY SEXY BRAIN: I am very intelligent. I am starting a Master's program this fall in Library Science. I love educated and naturally intelligent men and women, and consider myself sapiosexual.
MY SEXUALITY: I am a bisexual woman, openly kinky, and I identify submissive. I am NOT, however, looking for a D/s dynamic at this time. Yes, I do have a fetlife...
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR:
--people who like to cuddle (and nothing more)
--people who are emotionally available
--people who are truly single (unmarried, unpartnered, no recent divorces, splits, or ex-drama/hang-ups... I'm not into rebound relationships).
--someone very physically attractive. Call me shallow. But attraction is important for me. When I ask that you be attractive, I don't mean that you should be hardbodied and Abercrombie pretty. But women--good looking ones, not your mother's friends--should generally find you attractive and/or approach you. If you are just above average, have something else to bring to the table (perhaps you have amazing sex appeal? you can turn on my sapiosexual brain with your extraordinary intellect and engaging wit?)
--physically and mentally HEALTHY people. (if you have a mental illness, but are actively treating it, and can function normally, I am chill with that).
--STD free individuals. I can show you medical paperwork attesting that I am STD free and expect same.
--people without substance abuse issues. The occasional social drink or smoke is fine, but I don't 420 or beyond this and my ideal partner doesn't, either.
--someone successful. What does this mean? Someone financially secure, not drowning in debt, who is striving to achieve the goals they have in place. Whether that goal is to be fabulously wealthy or simply to find enlightenment is up to you.
--someone who is kid friendly and understands that I put my children first. This may sometimes mean that you will see less of me than you'd like.
--ultimately, someone to take care of me. I am in some ways traditional. I take care of my guy in a very 1950s household sort of way, and he wants for absolutely nothing. I want to be taken care of in that same way, adored, cherished, protected, loved and nurtured. I have an Achilles for Alpha Males. Do I want a sugar daddy? Hardly. I am not necessarily seeking a man to take care of me financially in this lifetime :)... but he should be more than capable of paying his fair share of the bills in a cohabitation situation.
--someone who doesn't desire more children. I have four already. And I don't carry well. I love children and would have more, with the right person, were I physically able, but I am not.
--someone spiritual, but not religious. Someone who understands energy work, as I am an energetic being. You can run energies and get high off of me. I have been called a human battery...
Please pass me by if: you are merely responding to this profile because you liked my pictures, if it is clear we have little in common, or that you can't imagine ever being with someone like me long term, or if ultimately you seek to get married. I am twice divorced... I have come to the conclusion that marriage isn't something I am good at (or perhaps my picker is simply broken with it comes to the almighty ring)... if you want me to be monogamous but won't commit to being my partner in a relationship (yes, I have had this happen)... if your goal is NOT to fall insanely, insatiably in love... if you are a Boston Red Sox fan (okay, that was a joke...sort of... go Yanks!)