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39 F Beaverton, OR

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, and might want more

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am looking for someone extraordinary.

I am monogamous.

I am not interested in casual sex or FWBs.

I am not a practitioner of polyamory nor am I a golden unicorn. If I make an exception to this rule (and I typically do NOT) I will contact YOU. Please, no messages asking me to pair up with you and your partner. I'm not here for casual sex with one person, let alone two people.

If I gave you a high rating, I very likely found something in your profile amusing or of merit. I don't necessarily want to hump your leg. Please do not be butt hurt if you see the stars, come looking for a date, and I decline.

I am a widow. I lost my soulmate and life partner, Eric Bloodstorm, unexpectedly In Dec 2012. Anyone who contacts me hoping for a love connection must understand that I am still in the grieving/healing process. You must be comfortable with that. You must be comfortable with me talking about the man I lost. If you were a friend of Eric, please reach out. I would be happy to hear from you.


--people who like to cuddle (and nothing more)
--people who are emotionally available
--people who are truly single (unmarried, unpartnered, no recent divorces, splits, or ex-drama/hang-ups... I'm not into rebound relationships)
--highly intelligent, deliciously witty, ambitious, motivated and successful people. You take care of yourself and are happy with your life situation.
--someone I am very physically attracted to. Call me shallow. But attraction is important for me. When I say attractive, I mean that you typically garner attention from other reasonably attractive individuals. And yes, intelligence and an awesome wit makes you more attractive.
--physically and mentally HEALTHY people. (if you have a mental illness, but are actively treating it, and can function normally, I am chill with that).
--STD free individuals. I can show you medical paperwork attesting that I am STD free and expect same.
--people without substance abuse issues. The occasional social drink or smoke is fine, but I don't 420 or beyond this and my ideal partner doesn't, either.
--someone solvent. What does this mean? Someone financially secure, not drowning in debt, who is striving to achieve the goals they have in place. I prefer you have your own place, not live with your mom, rent a room, or couch surf, but I am emphathetic to personal circumstances.
--someone who is kid friendly and understands that I put my children first. This may sometimes mean that you will see less of me than you'd like. Ideally someone who already has their own kids and/or doesn't want more.
--ultimately, someone to take care of me. I am in some ways traditional. I take care of my guy in a very 1950s household sort of way, and he wants for absolutely nothing. I want to be taken care of in that same way, adored, cherished, protected, loved and nurtured. I have an Achilles for Alpha males. Note that I didn't say sugar daddy. Big difference.
--someone spiritual, but not religious. Someone who understands energy work, as I am an energetic being. You can run energies and get high off of me. I have been called a human battery...

I have to say these things because they are important, not because I am a raving cunt rag. Let's just get this out of the way as painlessly as possible, shall we?
Please pass me by if: you are merely responding to this profile because you liked my pictures, if it is clear we have little in common, or that you can't imagine ever being with someone like me long term, if you want me to be monogamous but won't commit to being my partner in a relationship (yes, I have had this happen)... if your goal is NOT to fall insanely, insatiably in love... if you are a Boston Red Sox fan (okay, that was a joke...sort of... go Yanks!)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finding solace.
Being mindful.
Practicing kindness and compassion and Abstain from judgment of others to the best of my current ability.
Trying to stay present and pay attention.
Studying. I begin my MLIS (Master's in Library Science) degree this Fall.
Caring for a mentally ill teenager full time and monitoring his schooling. (aka: my time is limited)
Seeking better employment. (have a lead? contact me!)
Being a Kink Ambassador: are you quietly kinky? Are you interested in learning about the greater kink community of Portland? Shoot me an email. I can direct you to resources.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...pissing off the religious right.
... Giving others the shirt off my back.
... Understanding another's journey.
... Soul bonding.
... Accepting you unconditionally.
... Blasting you with my light and good energy.
... Having no expectations other than the reciprocation of kindness and human decency.
... Sleeping away my day.
... Resisting the urge to roll my eyes.
... NOT honking my horn in a fit of road rage.
...oozing sex appeal, so I'm told. In truth, I suck at flirting and am oblivious when someone is checking me out.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My large, soulful blue eyes.
My red hair.
My double Ds. (bunch of savages in this town! Bonus points if you know the quote)
My energy.
My resemblance to Gillian Anderson
My resistance to talking on the phone (I honestly prefer text, sue me!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
this section isn't long enough
music: from classic rock to German industrial, and everything in between. Some faves: White Stripes, Tori Amos, She Wants Revenge, William S. Burroughs, VNV Nation, XTC, Assemblage 23, Rammstein, Parliament, The Beastie Boys, Morphine, Curve, Phish, Deelight, Velvet Underground, the Beatles, Rush, Thrill Kill Cult, the Cruxshadows, E. Nomine, Johnny Cash, NIN, Cake, Live, The Cure, Front Line Assembly, Iggy Pop, Tom Waits, Nine Inch Nails, the Cramps, Muse, Bjork, Consolidated, Dyer Atwoord, Bjork, Skinny Puppy, Jane's Addiction, The Descendants, The Clash, etc...

Books: I have an English Degree, this question is highly unfair!

Favorite authors: Toni Morrison, Margaret Atwood, William S. Burroughs, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Edith Wharton, Kate Chopin, George Orwell, Oscar Wilde, Henry Miller, Virginia Wolfe, Emily Bronte, Bret Easton Ellis, Alistar Crowley, Michele Belanger, Douglass Adams, Poppy Z Brite, et all...

Words from a book or song that changed my life can be found in:
"The Awakening" Kate Chopin
"Disappoint" Assemblage 23
"The Black Veil" Michelle Bellanger
"The Art of Happiness" The Dalai Lama
"The Power of Now" E. Tolle

Shows (newer): THE WALKING DEAD, and THE BIG BANG THEORY.Shows (Older): The Sarah Silverman Program, The Young Ones, Arrested Development, Sara Connor Chronicles, Clerks Animated Series, Aeon Flux (anime), Battlestar Galactica, Star Trek (all), X-files, and Seinfeld.

Movies: Perfume, Young Frankenstein, anything Monty Python, Cannibal the Musical, Zombieland, Shaun of the Dead, Nightmare before Christmas, Cloud Atlas, Boondock Saints, Rocky Horror, RepoMan, Bad Taste, Riddick, Blade Runner, Braveheart, Ed Wood, Blue Velvet, A Clockwork Orange, Caligula, The Princess Bride, Battle for Los Angeles, Halloween, Evil Dead (all), Alien Vs. Predator, Resident Evil, Akira, Rachel Getting Married, Blackhawk Down, Borat, the Iron Giant, etc...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
** Personal values: love/passion, honesty, security, honor, strength, laughter, loyalty, courage
**my children
**Coffee and dark beer
** my real friends. They understand me, accept my faults, love me through them, and don't judge me or change me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. Beloved. I miss him greatly.
...why people who live in Ontario, Malta and England bother to look at my profile. GEOGRAPHY, people. Oh, right, cybersex. Those retards... :)
...If this is really all there is... spirituality... whether souls still exist on the physical plane once they are disembodied... what happens in death...
...Why people who believe in reincarnation with sucky lives don't throw themselves in a wood chipper and start over? I mean, it's a technicality, right?
... why people seem to think that being alone is virtuous. What if you know that you CAN be alone, without being lonely, but simply would rather NOT live a life of aloneness? Why is this seen as co-dependency or a social deficit?
...why women can't be sex-positive, Feminists, and still in their private hearts yearn for someone to take care of them? Why submission is seen as anti-feminist?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
is it relevant? Friday to me is no different than any other evening...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
ask in private
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. aren't some rabid cocksmoking douchebag who wants to give me the clap. understand that using me for fap fodder will get you a tomahawk to the throat. dont have a secret agenda of getting me to indulge a private fetish that you have which I do not share. think we would mutually benefit and grow positively from knowing one other.