I have a lot on my plate; my life is spent doing things I love to do and it is made full and engrossing thereby. I do things intensely for awhile and then move on. Change is a constant in my vicinity.

Recurring foci in my life include conversation on a variety of subjects, various varieties of kink, plants and the outdoors, mindful happiness, sculpture, dancing, and reading. I enjoy gardening, cooking, rock climbing, long walks, good food, growing food, massages, and challenges. I spend much more time immersed in real life than on the internet or watching television.

I am picky and intense in my romantic and sexual relationships. Sarcasm and adversarial teasing come as naturally to me as do tenderness and caring. Honesty and backbone are traits I value in others but I also don't condone hurting people through carelessness, inattention, or malice.

I believe in personal responsibility and high standards.

If I get back to you right now it will be unusual; I am doing work, relearning hobbies, and 1.5 relationships right now and those eat all my time.

I am bratty, sadistic, and real

Putting my hands in the dirt, eating souls, reducing boys to quivering jelly, being reduced to quivering jelly by pretty girls, smiling as much and as genuinely as possible, creating a sense of home and community, and retaining as much of a sense of the ridiculous as my humanity will allow.

Hurting people, cooking, housecleaning, going with the flow, getting in over my head, enjoying things, giving blow jobs, rejecting boorish types on the internet, sprawling.

I'm dirty, naked, or eclectically dressed. I'm pretty. I'm quiet, or I'm mean.

I love a whole lot of books, so I won't even try. No, I lied: I'm intrigued by modern poetry (Jeffery McDaniels, WS Merwin, Mary Oliver, Pablo Neruda), science fact especially where it touches on complex systems (Guns, Germs and Steel), certain pop fantasy, modern sci fi, vegan cookbooks, and design and self-sufficiency manuals.

I don't watch movies much but I do like things with a twist or nostalgia value. Fight Club or The Machinist, Indiana Jones, and Star Trek spring to mind. I like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind less the better and more functional my relationships get. Movies where things blow up turn me on. Also a bunch of movies I've seen lately have made me happy: Nobody Knows, Rushmore, Persepolis, Save the Green Planet, Bittersweet Life. Apparently I also like Community.

Musically I'm all over the map with some concentrations in "alternative rock" (Pearl Jam to REM), classic rock, straight-ahead rock, some poppy stuff, folk, choral, and a lot of the less ornate classical stuff.

I love to eat new things. Vegan wheatfree cooking intrigues me: it's a challenge. I adore going to all-you-can-eat Korean BBQ or sushi; flavours I haven't tried before make me happy; pho is an eat-out staple while big salads, stews of all kinds, roasts, and fresh-baked bread all have cherished places in my kitchen. Handmade noodles are a favourite as are things that are assembled and easy-to-hand: sandwiches donairs, etc. Chinese buns are a nostalgic childhood treat. This list can get very long because food is one of my passions.

I'm good at substitutions, but living without snuggles, sex, sunshine, physical activity, mental challenges, and varied foodstuffs would get me down.

Plants, food, and biting people.

Relearning my life after too long working through school with no time for anything else. I can now get back to sleeping, sitting on my deck with a glass of wine, dancing, getting laid, and generally avoiding drawing blood if I want to. We'll see whether anything else takes hold.

I'm a little bit ashamed of the huge role instinct plays in my life. I feel like I might be a better person if I were more overtly logical about everything, but I just wouldn't enjoy myself very much if that were the case.

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Hot girls make me nervous.

You're articulate, well-written, and want to talk about something that piques your interest on my profile. You're into complex systems or plants.

If you're trying to catch my interest romantically or sexually, you're under thirty-nine or so and over twenty-five and submissive AND (this trumps all) say something that could possibly start a conversation. "I'm submissive" is not going to be a successful message without a little more info about why you think we'd be good humans together.