Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have a lot on my plate; my life is spent doing things I love to
do and it is made full and engrossing thereby. I do things
intensely for awhile and then move on. Change is a constant in my
Recurring foci in my life include conversation on a variety of
subjects, various varieties of kink, plants and the outdoors,
mindful happiness, sculpture, dancing, and reading. I enjoy
gardening, brewing, cooking, rock climbing, long walks, good food,
growing food, massages, and challenges. I spend much more time
immersed in real life than on the internet or watching
Right now I am heavy into forestry school and well on my way to
making my first hundred gallons of beer, wine, mead, and
I am picky and intense in my romantic and sexual relationships.
Sarcasm and adversarial teasing come as naturally to me as do
tenderness and caring. Honesty and backbone are traits I value in
others but I also don't condone hurting people through
carelessness, inattention, or malice.
I am in some lovely relationships, one quite serious, which I have
no intention of relinquishing.
I believe in personal responsibility and high standards.
I am bratty, sadistic, and real
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Putting my hands in the dirt, eating souls, reducing folks to
quivering jelly and sometimes having the experience returned,
smiling as much and as genuinely as possible, creating a sense of
home and community, and retaining as much of a sense of the
ridiculous as my humanity will allow.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hurting people, cooking, housecleaning, going with the flow,
getting in over my head, enjoying things, giving blow jobs,
rejecting boorish types on the internet, sprawling.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm dirty, naked, or eclectically dressed. I'm pretty. I'm quiet,
or I'm mean.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love a whole lot of books, so I won't even try. No, I lied: I'm
intrigued by modern poetry (Jeffery McDaniels, WS Merwin, Mary
Oliver, Pablo Neruda), science fact especially where it touches on
complex systems (Guns, Germs and Steel), certain pop fantasy,
modern sci fi, vegan cookbooks, and design and self-sufficiency
manuals. I've also read a lot of pulp sci fi & fantasy.
I don't watch movies much but I do like things with a twist or
nostalgia value. Fight Club or The Machinist, Indiana Jones, and
Star Trek spring to mind. I like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless
Mind less the better and more functional my relationships get.
Movies where things blow up turn me on. Also a bunch of movies I've
seen lately have made me happy: Nobody Knows, Rushmore, Persepolis,
Save the Green Planet, Bittersweet Life. Apparently I also like
Musically I'm all over the map with some concentrations in
"alternative rock" (Pearl Jam to REM), classic rock, straight-ahead
rock, some poppy stuff, folk, choral, and a lot of the less ornate
I love to eat new things. Vegan wheatfree cooking intrigues me:
it's a challenge. I adore going to all-you-can-eat Korean BBQ or
sushi; flavours I haven't tried before make me happy; pho is an
eat-out staple while big salads, stews of all kinds, roasts, and
fresh-baked bread all have cherished places in my kitchen. Handmade
noodles are a favourite as are things that are assembled and
easy-to-hand: sandwiches donairs, etc. Chinese buns are a nostalgic
childhood treat. This list can get very long because food is one of
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm good at substitutions, but living without snuggles, sex,
sunshine, physical activity, mental challenges, and varied
foodstuffs would get me down.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Plants, booze making, agroecological systems, and biting people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sleeping, sitting on the beach with a glass of my wine(/mead/beer),
dancing, doing homework, bottling booze, getting laid, and
generally avoiding drawing blood if I want to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a little bit ashamed of the huge role instinct plays in my
life. I feel like I might be a better person if I were more overtly
logical about everything, but I just wouldn't enjoy myself very
much if that were the case.
Hot girls make me nervous.
You should message me if
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You're articulate, well-written, and want to talk about something
that piques your interest on my profile. You're into complex
systems or plants.
At the moment I'm trying to catch my drinking knowledge up to my
brewing habit, so if you're one of the myriad craft beer geeks out
there and wanna share some taste experiences I'm into that.
If you're trying to catch my interest romantically or sexually,
you're under forty-one or so and over twenty-five, kind, smart, and
say something that could possibly start a conversation. You're down
with non-hierarchical nonmonogamy. Bonus points if you're a
painslut or pretty subby. Probably no message will be effective
without a little more info about why you think we'd be good humans
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