I am not your average guy and if you're looking for that tall, dark and handsome with a nice car, great job, and a place of his own, that travels to exotic places, has exciting hobbies, has a load of money sitting in the bank, blah blah blah blah blah stereotype... then proceed to look elsewhere. I'm not, nor will I ever be the handsome prince from the Disney movies. I'd be more like the beast from Beauty and the Beast. Cynical, sarcastic, emotional.. looking for a bookworm to stumble into my castle and see the nice, romantic, caring side that once was...
If you're still reading, lets continue. I'd like to take this time to point out my appearance is a bit rugged or in other words, I'm a little bit of a hairy guy and those that don't know me find me "scary" or "intimidating" at first. And don't go thinking it's because I'm lazy or a lack of personal hygiene (if you knew how much cleaning and brushing goes into that beard every day you'd think otherwise). My genetic makeup has cursed me with fur every place except (according to society) where I'm supposed to have it. Needless to say, I'm happy with the shaved head and beard look. If it's not your thing, more power to you, but I'm afraid I'm looking for a girl that's into guys that have hair in other places than their heads. Otherwise, physically speaking, I'm pretty earthy, close to the ground, stout and built like a ox (I was pretty popular come moving time back in college). For all you fellow nerds, my physic would resemble that of a dwarf's (just not as short), but just like ogres and onions, I have many layers beyond my gruff exterior.
My friends will tell you I'm a nice guy. I hate that description, especially in the dating world. Thanks to different medias, being a nice guy has apparently turned into being weak willed, giving in to a girl's every demand, easily manipulated.. you get the picture. It's demeaning and frankly, I don't want a potential partner in crime to primarily to focus the relationship on the shear fact I'm a nice guy and nothing else. I've been there, done that, and I understand the allure of it all with 99% of the male race being assholes, but it doesn't end pretty. I'd rather she like me for my lifestyle, hobbies, my aspiring profession, talents, mind, body, soul, mannerisms, etc. But if anything, I'll say this: whether we date or we end up just acquaintances, I'll be concerned with your well being, physically and emotionally. I'm a good listener and have no problems talking about and putting another human being's emotions or feelings, wants or needs above my own.
On that note, I'm no alpha male either. Socially speaking I'm more reserved, laid back, I tend to stick to the sides or background of the setting and not in the limelight. I'm not the type to get loud and into a pissing match with whatever 'wolves' are in the area just for attention. It serves no purpose. If you're going to be interested in someone just because he's the loudest, most vibrant, excited person in the room... then I wish you the best of luck. I spend enough of my day, at my job, dealing with stress and drama, "putting out fires," trying to meet idealistic, unattainable expectations, that I not going to put energy into ridiculous actions, just so you'll look at me and think I might be interesting. If you're not already considering that, no action is going to make you think otherwise.
As far as my job goes, I'm a product of a declining economy. I studied graphic design for 8 years. Was certified to start an entry level position right out of high school. Went to college, obtained a Bachelors of Fine Arts in Communication Design with honors just so every design and advertising firm I apply to can tell me I don't have enough experience. So, like a lot of other people, I'm slumming in retail until someone is willing to give me a shot. I'm a Front End Manager of a local home improvement warehouse. Retail does not suit my creative soul, it often hinders it, but it does pay my bills. So, I'm able to survive on my own, but often frustrated with the situation and the search for greener pastures.
When I'm not at work, I enjoy a number of different activities. I recently got back into playing ice hockey and now play on a team in the local beer league. I help with a vegetable plot at my parents house and around my garage during the growing season and enjoy growing things. I camp, hike, fish and hunt, anything outdoors is always a plus. I make wine, mainly desert type wines, grape based wine are fine and all, but I like getting creative and seeing what I can turn into a good wine. Currently I have a blueberry/blackberry mix in the making. I'm a nerd at heart. I've been into sci-fi/fantasy since I was a kid. It feeds my creativity and can be found in many of my mannerisms, possessions, etc. I go to Renn Faires and Pennsic type events. I read, watch anime and play video games from time to time. I build and fix things around the house, or I'm usually helping someone do so. I cook, mainly enjoy grilling and sometimes I just enjoy propping my feet up at home and flipping through netflicks, etc.
What I'm looking for? Just another nerdy, creative person who likes me for who I am. A girl who isn't afraid to be different and herself at the same time, has no problem sporting graphic tees with old school Nintendo slogans on them. A girl that is willing to dress up with me to go to Renn Faires, or wants to take a weekend to go put up a tent in the woods somewhere and spend time together around a campfire. A girl that's willing to come home from work and challenge me to a game of Smash brothers or Mariokart. One that can sit a home on a rainy night and play a board game and have just as much fun as going out and spending hours at a local pub. Another creative soul that can appreciate taking a few raw materials and making something great from it. I daydream for that "Scott Pilgrim" romance story (I would so fought a bunch of exes for a girls heart) and I realize the probability of a girl like that out there, but I still have hope...