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51 Kirkland, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 22
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Has a kid
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hi :-).

My wife ImNotHilton and I have been together for over 18 years now (wow, that sounds like a long time, but it's flown by!). We've been open / poly for most of that time. Add in the girlfriend I've been with for almost two years now, and my demanding new job downtown, and it's a very full life.

Open relationships are messy and difficult, but we find that the challenges we've had trying to make a polyamorous marriage work have forced us to focus on our own relationship and find new depth in our life and our communication. Being open forces us to work on ourselves, discover and examine our deepest insecurities and learn to focus on what's important.

I want somebody to date, to be a lover and a friend. Somebody who can hang out with the family for dinner and then go out and shake booty with me to Bollywood, Bhangra, and House music. Somebody who isn't afraid to be silly in public or even participate in odd audio collaborations with my electronica group.

I'm a bit of a clown (not with the costumes and the makeup, just with my general demeanor). If you have no sense of humor at all you should probably just move along - there's nothing to see here.

Early on, my wise and beautiful girlfriend texted me "You are an amazing amalgam of sweet, snark, sass and ass. It totally works for you."

You be yourself and I'll know if I'm attracted when we meet. I think the most fun thing about dating is finding those things that you didn't think turned you on, but wow, oh wow, yes :-). So, be real, be fun, and be willing to engage.

I love dating - meeting new people, talking, hanging out, first kisses, chemistry. Fun!
What I’m doing with my life
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I have varied interests, and this changes all the time, but lately I'm in a music collaboration doing experimental electronica, and working a cool new job that lets me travel the world, among other things.

I'm a dad and very proud of my kid.

We did a lot of rock climbing as a family activity before my wife hurt her foot and we called it off. Before this, I spent a lot of time playing capoeira and skateboarding, and those are still interests. Yoga saved my life and my sanity, so it remains a staple. These days I do open water swimming during the warm months, and I work a lot of walking into my commute.

The last four years I've written a blog promoting the idea of picking up one piece of trash a day. It's a practice I've committed to, and I try to encourage others to do the same.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Geez, I really hate promoting myself here. How about we get together, and you can make up your own mind? :-). Better yet, ask ImNotHilton
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my sense of humor, which can range from random and surreal to cornball.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have very diverse tastes, and I'm usually open to being introduced to something new. I read everything from Tom Robbins to Junichiro Tanizaki. I enjoy movies ranging from screwball comedies to Bollywood epics. My music collection is guaranteed to contain something you've never heard of as well as things you listen to every day (I'm guessing that Counting Crows is in the latter bucket, and Hanggai is in the former, but surprise me :-))
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
If only life were that simple :-)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I guess I'm a typical guy in this regard. I like sex. a lot. Supposedly a male human thinks about sex something like every seven seconds. I'm probably thinking about sex right now. Luckily I have a brain and I like people, so I'm capable of having a conversation and a nice night out without humping your leg. Promise.

Whoops, I just thought about sex again. go figure.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having date night with my girlfriend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I go nuts for women who dress and act conservatively but who are wild behind closed doors. You know who you are :-)
You should message me if
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You find something I've said interesting, provocative, or offensive, or if you're interested in getting together for coffee and a chat.

I'm very open about meeting new people and I don't tend to put a lot of expectations on a first date. I like dates to be fun and casual, and I like each relationship to find its own level. I've found satisfying relationships in every vein from completely platonic to almost entirely sexual.

Please do not message me if you're only interested in NSA sex. I'm interested in people I have chemistry with and who are interested in an ongoing relationship. Casual is fine - emotionless is uninteresting.