My wife ImNotHilton and I have been together for over 18 years now (wow, that sounds like a long time, but it's flown by!). We've been open / poly for most of that time. Add in the girlfriend I've been with for almost a year, and my demanding new job downtown, and it's a very full life.
Open relationships are messy and difficult, but we find that the challenges we've had trying to make a polyamorous marriage work have forced us to focus on our own relationship and find new depth in our life and our communication. Being open forces us to work on ourselves, discover and examine our deepest insecurities and learn to focus on what's important.
I want somebody to date, to be a lover and a friend. Somebody who can hang out with the family for dinner and then go out and shake booty with me to Bollywood, Bhangra, and House music. Somebody who isn't afraid to be silly in public or even participate in odd audio collaborations with my electronica group.
I'm a bit of a clown (not with the costumes and the makeup, just with my general demeanor). If you have no sense of humor at all you should probably just move along - there's nothing to see here.
Early on, my wise and beautiful girlfriend texted me "You are an amazing amalgam of sweet, snark, sass and ass. It totally works for you."
You be yourself and I'll know if I'm attracted when we meet. I think the most fun thing about dating is finding those things that you didn't think turned you on, but wow, oh wow, yes :-). So, be real, be fun, and be willing to engage.
I love dating - meeting new people, talking, hanging out, first kisses, chemistry. Fun!