I should say right up front that I am a married male in a open marriage with polyamorous intentions. My life-partner, leafish, and I both aspire to having outside relationships with interesting people that we have mutual interests plus physical and intellectual chemistry with. We keep no secrets from one another.
I'm not in a rush to get into anybody’s pants, I want to get to know you and find that chemistry before we get there. That said, I AM looking for a lover. I realize I'm probably looking for something even rarer than the proverbial unicorn – an interesting person with a brain and a sex drive plus mutual attraction. I’m basically looking for a friend with benefits with the emphasis on the “Friend” part – though the benefits part is equally important.
I have many varied interests from Buddhism to quantum mechanics to Jungian thought to liberal politics to cooking with side-tracks to organic gardening, crafts, boat building (dories), remodeling, computers, river running, Wilderness and most especially reading and books. Music, some politics, and movies are all good additives.- and that doesn't touch the list. I want you to stretch my mind and worldview as well as turn me on. I want a unique person who enriches my life as much as I enrich theirs.
Probably the biggest thing on all my lists is reading - books, real books (not e-books) rule! I have a 20,000+ book library, even if most of it is currently in boxes. Aside from Science Fiction and some Fantasy, I adore reading classics, interesting novels and a great deal of non-fiction running the gamut of subjects from Jungian psychology to Deep Ecology to history, technology and especially science. Fiction authors I'm currently reading are S.M. Stirling, Jack McDivitt, Harry Turtledove, David Brin, Stephen King, Barbara Kingsolver, Larry Niven... you get some idea perhaps. My video collection isn't as large, but covers the range of Like Water For Chocolate, Shakespeare in Love, a wide range of documentaries, Coen Brothers movies, classics like Casablanca, sci-fi, LOTR, Quentin Tarantino, Ridley Scott, Firefly, and damn near everything in between... On a more serious note are things like "The Case for Mars", Feynman's Lectures on Quantum Electrodynamics, TED videos, and everything from Sleepless in Seattle to Pulp Fiction.
Wilderness and the outdoors is very important to me. I hiked the whole Appalachian Trail in 1980 from Georgia to Maine, was a very serious rock and ice climber, mountaineer, skier, and hiker for years before my knees and shoulders took too much damage and still consider Wilderness the cathedral of my true spirituality. Yes, I AM a treehugger and nature worshipper!
I'm politically becoming more liberal with age despite starting out fairly liberal to begin with. I had high hopes for the Occupy movement, but they seem to have lost focus. If you lean right on your politics or are a libertarian in all but cannabis laws, gun laws, and foreign imperialism, no need to look me up. I’m pro-gay marriage, pro-privacy, pro-sex, pro-individual rights, and pro-transparency in government and if you oppose these views we probably won’t get along. I don’t have any desire to talk politics with a lover, but just saying that if you’re a Jesus-jumping, anti-choice, anti-gay marriage, pro-US interventionalist, we aren’t going to get along.
I do my best to express the Buddhist precepts of Loving/Kindness and Compassion. I am affectionate, intellectual, loving, respectful, assertive, tactile, oral, extremely verbal... oh yeah, did I mention very sexual? I figured that was a given.
Physically I'm 6' and 170# and pretty fit. I came to Colorado for the skiing, climbing, kayaking and other outdoor activities. I still am active outdoors, though now primarily camping, exploring back roads, day hiking and whitewater rafting. I still wear the same waist size I did at 18 and I don't have a gut that hangs over so I guess I'm in good shape. Used to ski and was a very serious climber, but now I'm a poster-child for trashed knees and shoulders. I still like the outdoors in every way I can get it - it IS church you know.
I tend to like women who are natural, into the outdoors, a bit nerdy or geeky - if you're a hippie chick (of whatever age) or into alternative spiritual or health practices, artsy stuff, and wilderness and outdoors freak - you're my kinda woman. If you're comfortable in jeans and comfy clothes, hiking boots, spending a week running a river or finding out where that road goes, you're my kind of woman. If you practice Buddhism, taoism, paganism in various forms and scientific atheism or agnostiscism, you're my kind of woman. If you dig LOTR, Firefly, Star Trek, Mythbusters, maybe know who Richard Feynman was and most especially if you read books, you're my kind of woman. Most especially if you love a good, spicy flirtation. I'm certainly not adverse to a woman who likes to wear short skirts and no panties either...