Yes, I'm going to leave it mysterious here how I discovered this, but I assure you it was not censorship.
Life is glorious, despite any of my little dissatisfactions, even long-term ones. Sunshine pours through my windows, I get to bike through light mist on cloudy days, and the plants in my garden are happy. And, I live in a town like Durham that's small enough for people I know to appear in unexpected places.
On the more serious side…
I treasure instinctive openness, trust, respect, and joy. I strive to live thoroughly with integrity, and I find that it comes smoothly out of these traits.
I’m looking to connect with someone at a gut emotional level, threaded with emotional, intellectual, and physical vibrancy. When I've been in love, I've treasured those moments (including one lasting a week!) when my experience of that love manifested in a physical sensation of joy pouring out of my chest. Seeking that feeling again is a strange combination of a selfish desire to feel selfless love.
I value direct honesty about difficult things – demonstrating that our connection is worth investing in, that we share enough trust to be vulnerable together. I find that having such emotional intimacy with another person encourages me to confront uncomfortable parts of myself and continue growing in ways I value.
(My holdover three adjectives from the old layout, which OKCupid kindly pasted here: I am inquisitive, self-propelled, and mostly insoluble.)