Yes, I'm going to leave it mysterious here how I discovered this, but I assure you it was not censorship.
Life is glorious, despite any of my little dissatisfactions, even long-term ones. Sunshine pours through my windows, I get to bike through light mist on cloudy days, and the plants in my garden are happy. And, I live in a town like Durham that's small enough for people I know to appear in unexpected places.
On the more serious side…
I treasure instinctive openness, trust, respect, and joy. I strive to live thoroughly with integrity, and I find that it comes smoothly out of these traits.
I’m looking to connect with someone at a gut emotional level, threaded with emotional, intellectual, and physical vibrancy. I value direct honesty about difficult things – demonstrating that our connection is worth investing in, that we share enough trust to be vulnerable together. I find that having such emotional intimacy with another person encourages me to confront uncomfortable parts of myself and continue growing in ways I value.
(My holdover three adjectives from the old layout, which OKCupid kindly pasted here: I am inquisitive, self-propelled, and mostly insoluble.)
In other news, dancing and related activities have exploded across my life: Contra dancing, calling (teaching) contra dances, learning and teaching aerial dance on fabrics, working on a fusion music editing project for dance...
In the spring, my front-yard native plant restoration project pulls me in before I get up the steps to the door. I find that about ten seconds working in the garden bring me solidly into the present moment, especially in seasons that are all about possibility and growth.
-Giving warm snuggle-able hugs
-Helping my friends come to clarity about things they’re puzzling through
-Thinking like a scientist
-Staying mostly warm and/or dry on my bicycle in inclement weather
-Cooking lentil stew
-Living without electricity or running water on an occasional basis
-Writing grant proposals
-Dancing as both a lead and a follow. Dancing!
-Decking out my bicycle to be a flashing, glowing paragon of visibility
-Getting the hiccups from eating dry bread. This is obnoxious on my end, trust me.
-my fact-driven, analytical approach
…I've recently had confirmation of the second, at least.
Music: Hanneke Cassel, Alasdair Fraser, the Peatbog Faeries, and smoking hot grooving contra dance bands. Put fiddle and drums together and I will probably like it. David Francey, Antje Duvekot, Dar Williams, and Argentine tango music. I really should include the song ‘Come On, Eileen’ here, too, for reasons that will be apparent when we meet.
Books: many by Lois McMaster Bujold; The Sparrow; Last Chance to See; Cradle to Cradle. The New York Times, though not a book, is highly satisfying to read in print.
Movies: Galaxy Quest, Strictly Ballroom, Spirited Away, Before the Rain. Movies I like don’t stick in my head well, though. Eddie Izzard’s standup shows, especially Dress to Kill.
Podcasts: Wait, Wait, Don’t Tell Me; This American Life; Planet Money; RadioLab.
On the TV front, I tend to forget that they exist...
Also, my initials are E.T. Consequently, my mother gave me "E.T. phone home" shoelaces years and years ago when I went away to college. I still have them.
I want to apologize in advance if I do not write back to you. Using OKCupid has revealed the uncomfortable truth that I can be a terrible correspondent with strangers.
-you love dancing, too;
-you’re momentarily overcome when you bite into a ripe sungold tomato (or blueberries or tangy apple pie);
-you think about social or environmental implications of choices you make (or you're otherwise civically involved);
-you see respect and openness as so fundamental that you almost don't remember to identify them in yourself;
-wandering around taking silly photos in unanticipated places would be fun.
It's a large plus if you live in Durham, as my transportation is constrained by my bicycle.