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43 Seattle, WA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 11
Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
My self-summary
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Hello, Seattle monogamishers. My BF and I are seeking pretty couples to connect with over long dinners filled with lovely food and philosophical conversation. We are relatively new to the monogamish scene and are enjoying the freedom and new way of thinking and living it allows us. It's a whole new world out there! Let's get a little cerebral and see where that takes us!

A little about me: I’m funny. Not all the time, but once I get comfortable and find you open to goofy stories and snide remarks, they will be plentiful.

I listen and do my best to understand what you’re saying and why you’re saying it. Again, not all the time. Like most girls and people with mild OCD, sometimes I’m distracted by shoes or my ever hovering to-do list. But, in general, I’m with ya. I don’t see this as a selfless trait. My best relationships, both friendly and romantic, have been with people I can have truly in-depth conversations with. It’s a rare and tremendously fulfilling thing to actively listen and base responses on what the other person just said, rather than waiting for your turn to talk.

I’m trying to live my life with purpose. This is always a work in progress, and involves trying to find time to read smart books, write creatively, talk to thoughtful people, figure out career goals, etc. But I’ve made a lot of progress of the past several years. I moved back to the city. Became a deeply appreciative parent, rather than stressed out and unbalanced. Went to grad school and got my masters. Became more self-reflective.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After nutshelling my true self, I feel a little obligated to throw in a few surface details.

• I’m outdoorsy, but not super athletic. I enjoy walking around Green Lake, hiking, and snow shoeing. If you’re really into an activity that doesn’t take a tremendous amount of skill or coordination, you can probably talk me into trying it out.

• I have an 11-year-old daughter who lives with me 50% of the time. Being her parent is definitely a part of my identity, but certainly not all of it. I can have entire adult conversations without bringing her up. But I will gush a bit if given the chance. Unlike other people's kids, she's all sweetness and light.

• After attempting to live the “American dream” in the burbs for four years, I found that I am a city girl through and through. The car culture and lack of community in the burbs is not something I can happily live with. City life is important to my happiness. I’m hoping you feel the same.

• I do enjoy a good yoga class, be it at a studio or on YouTube. Not super original or interesting, but I’m convinced that it will help me live longer and healthier.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a smartass. Making you laugh. Singing. Stringing words together. Kissing. Self-deprecation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Oh, jeez, I dunno. If I'm being optimistic, I'd say people notice my piercing blue eyes, straight forwardness, cutting wit, and perky boobs. If I'm being realistic, I'd say they notice I have a weird name. And perky boobs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay, Devil in the
White City, Into the Wild, The Stand, some sci fi, most Anne Lamott
nonfiction, and the occasional graphic novel (Y: The Last Man is my
favorite series)

Movies: Most Coen brothers, The Cradle Will Rock, LA Confidential, Limitless, 40-Year Old Virgin, Election, The English Patient

Music: I love Pandora and KEXP. I know when I'm hearing a song I
like, but I often can't remember the title or artist. Here's a few
of my channels: Lily Allen, The Shins, David Byrne, The Doves,
Franz Ferdinand, The Fratellis, Throw Me the Statue, Ben Folds,
Vampire Weekend, Yo La Tengo, Annie Lennox, Passion Pit, MGMT

TV: Mad Men, Lost, early True Blood, How I Met Your Mother, Downton Abbey, Sense8, GoT, Penny Dreadful

Food: If it's well made, I usually like it. Some favs are
Mediterranean, Japanese, Thai, and tapas.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oh, you know. Stuff and things.
You should message me if
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You're part of a hetero-flexible couple looking for fun-time friends with the possibility of naked hi-jinks. But first and foremost, we're looking for thoughtful, kind peeps we can laugh with and ponder what it all means. Life is better when you have smart, funny flirtables to hang with.