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25 M Everett, WA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
Black, Native American, White
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English, C++ (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Note: My pictures are old and I need new ones. I think I'll take o-AUGH OH GOD MY EYES. The flash sucks, but at least... meh. This picture sucks. Fine. I'll get someone else to take them later.

Now back to your regularly scheduled profile.


What's there to say? Well, I suppose there's a lot to say. It's terribly, frightfully difficult to capture one's essence here, much like taking a photo of a dance and expecting that to capture it's essence.

But I'd bloody well do my freakin' best to give it a shot.

I'm Benjamin. The cerulean dancer wrapped in a crimson shawl. Eccentric, fun, and a bit silly. I'm a huge nerd, into gaming, role-playing, sci-fi and fantasy, and tons of other assorted shenanigans I'm more than willing to get into. But I'm also very physical, love to dance, sing, run about, and climb all over goddamn everything; my life is a song of strength, of passion and of energy.

I'm very independent, but I find it extremely important to keep ties with my friendships and to maintain and strengthen those bonds. I'm known for making speeches about the POWER OF FRIENDSHIP, after all.

On other notes, I'm a very kinky fellow who mixes my very light and 'sunny' demeanor with a delicious darkness, and the thrill of command and dominance. That said, outside the bedroom I get along well with both dominant and submissive folk, and often play the foil to others; I'll happily go along with other peoples' plans if they seem fun or smart, but in absence of a plan or direction I'm naturally inclined to take a leadership role.
What I’m doing with my life
Working towards a game designer career, as well as a fiction and erotica writing career, not as a backup, but simultaneously.
I’m really good at
I'm good at cooking, writing, storyweaving, entertaining the hell outta people, and all sorts of other things I'll get into later when doors close and the lights run low.

I'm also an art of learning; With some (artistic) exceptions it's always been extremely difficult for me to get great at anything, but I'm supremely good at quickly rising to the level of 'competent' at any skill or ability that I feel the need to.
The first things people usually notice about me
The way I dress, the way I smile, the way I shout with my whole soul.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I could write a huge list like I've seen quite often, but why don't I be a little more concise and just write a couple I find bloody awesome from every category?

Books: The Discworld series by Terry Prachett and the Riftwar Saga by Raymond E. Feist
Movies: Scott Pilgrim vs. The World and Dogma
Shows: Star Trek Deep Space 9 and Burn Notice
Music: Zebrahead and I Fight Dragons
Food: Teriyaki Chicken with a noodles and a side salad dressed with a flavorful seseme ginger dressing and Buffalo Chicken Sandwiches
The six things I could never do without
Earth, Fire, Wind, Water, and Heart.

Oh, shit, I need to add another one, don't I?

Um... fuckin' magnets? How do they work?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
New recipes, game design, stuff I've been writing, sex, new ways to be crazy awesome
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking a capoeira class in downtown Seattle.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sexuality is a big part of me in dating and romantic relationships. Not comfortable with that? Cool. We'll talk as friends. But I need sex to a part of my relationships and dating to really feel satisfied with them.

It's not all I think about, but it's an important element, and if you aren't comfortable with that then it's a compadibility issue and it's best for everyone involved if we decided to just be pals.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
I bounce all over the sound area, but with particular amounts of time spent in Seattle and Everett. Keep this in mind, and message me if you want to meet in person for hang-out time, a gaming rivalry, a date, or a fight to the imaginary death with boffer weapons.

I also travel to Salem, OR from time to time, and have interest meeting people in Salem and Portland.

It's also worth noting that I'm primarily looking to date on a semi-casual manner more than anything serious. My priority is developing good habits, working on projects that I feel will eventually lead into my lifelong careers, and exploring myself.

Please note that polyamorous people with primary relationships are definitely something I'm interested in seeing as a secondary partner. With my current life focus, I do not feel I can fairly offer the kind of attention and relationship focus that a primary/serious partner deserves.