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40 M Oakland, CA

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  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
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My self-summary
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Yosemite is my Heart. Self discovery is the seat of my soul. I Love traveling, road-trips, the outdoors: rivers, lakes, the beach, mountains, as well as Bondage, Jameson, dive-bars,420. Guess it's all about balance in the end. Pleasure and Pain. Intellect and Intuition, Ferocity and Compassion, Strength and Vulnerability, where do they align?
What I’m doing with my life
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Looking for the next waterfall, swimming hole, tropical vacation, Running a fitness center, Boot-camps, teaching Muay Thai, Boxing and Women's Self-Defense, figuring out how to do it all, better. Training for the Zombie-Apocalypse!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Trusting my intuition, empathizing, communicating without being an asshole, being an asshole when warranted and necessary. Standing up for my friends, putting my heart on the line.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm unpretentious
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Nothing is more droll than listing the books I've read, the movies I've watched, and music I like, than reading someones else’s list. This stuff is always so much more interesting to discover in conversation, over drinks.
But... as a base, I love survivor stories, biography's, anything that's real or at the very least, a great lie.
The six things I could never do without
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The woods
The beach
Intimate connections
Comfortable silences
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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You're looking for a deep intimate connection, you've worked through most of your baggage, or at least can own it in a mature way. You understand that true intamacy is not about constant physical contact, but based in understanding, empathy, and the ability to respect and acknowledge the emotional space of another, realizing that you can be there for them without feeling the need to do anything. You appreciate sitting with someone in silence and can let the relationship develop organically without any machinations. You are physically active and soul centered. You don't need to be entertained, are comfortable with yourself and appreciate a man who gives you the emotional space to be the strong woman you are. You're a good listener, are empathetic, and want a relationship that based on reciprocity, mutual respect and admiration. You love the outdoors, road trips, traveling and you realize that infatuation is not a good litmus test of a healthy relationship:)
You're kinky, into bdsm and understand as Carl Jung stated "Everyone carries a shadow," Jung wrote, "and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is." Owning your shadow side and finding constructive outlets for that energy is essential to your mental health and stability.