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26 M Astoria, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jul 23
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Hi, I'm Charlie. Friends often describe me as "intense." One of my college professors once told me that he thought I was written by Aaron Sorkin, which is maybe the best compliment I've ever received. I moved here to be an actor, but I also write, sing, compose, dance, and devour critical/feminist theory. I'm into a million different things (ADHD ftw!) and I'm super-passionate about all of them. If you enjoy long, intense conversations a la My Dinner With Andre, we'll get along.

I proudly identify as an ardent feminist and socialist, and feel a lot of affinity for the queer community, but am painfully aware of the fact that I inhabit a body that carries with it a lot of privilege that I unwittingly exercise when I enter any space. One of my current life's goals is to find ways to continually subvert that privilege and be the best possible feminist--which is to say, the best possible human--that I can be.

I'm also currently in a relationship with a wonderful girl who lives across the country, and we've agreed to be open until we move to Illinois in October. Currently looking for something strictly short-term/casual.

Other facts about me:

-I'm pretty much always singing. This has actually gotten me fired from a temp job.

-I know it wasn't written for me, but Audre Lorde's "The Uses of the Erotic" encompasses most of what I believe to be true about the human spirit.

-When I watch the "La Marseillaise" scene from Casablanca, I clutch the edge of my seat, get short of breath, and tear up. Every. Damn. Time.

-I like knitting. A lot. If you ask, I will show you the scarves I made.

-My love for the movie "Die Hard" is in no way ironic. Take a look at the other movies on my list of favorites and you'll see why I think this bears mentioning.

-Madonna's daughter personally congratulated me when she found out I had lost my virginity. I am absolutely not making that up.
What I’m doing with my life
Working at Trader Joe's, tutoring, occasionally freelancing as a music engraver's assistant, preparing to move to Chicago.

Constantly trying to find ways to become a better feminist, which is of course to say a better human being.
I’m really good at




Droppin' letters from the end of words, thus impartin' an affectedly folksy tone to my writin'.

Havin' a whole hell of a lot of opinions and spiritedly debatin' them with anyone who's game.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically? I'm guessing the reddish hair and the freckles. If they are standing behind me, they might also notice that certain parts of my anatomy protrude slightly more than others. If you catch my drift.

As far as first impressions: when I was four years old and my parents took me to parties, I would approach all the adults in the room one by one, shake their hands, look them in the eyes, introduce myself by name, and then ask them their names. That about sums it up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: The Bird People in China, Casablanca, The Rules of the Game, Blue Velvet, As Good as it Gets, Die Hard, Lawrence of Arabia, The Shining, Taxi Driver, The Three Colors Trilogy, The Wild Bunch, Cloud Atlas.

I really, really hate the majority of Woody Allen and Quentin Tarantino's movies.

TV: QI, Breaking Bad, and Game of Thrones. The latter two are absolute masterpieces of serial storytelling, and I will be glad to give you a five-minute lecture as to why.

Music: Rock, jazz, classical, musical theater. Some faves: Bowie, Billy Joel, Randy Newman, Sondheim, Ives, Ben Johnston (God will I love you if you know who he is) and most female jazz singers.

I intensely dislike most Mozart, though some of the opera music is pretty good.

Books: STEINBECK. Specifically East of Eden (although I will admit that the misogyny is problematic). After that, in no particular order: The Poisonwood Bible, Beloved, Lolita, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, The Scarlet Letter, and The Handmaid's Tale. Also, John Dies At The End.

I also have a real soft spot for good feminist writing because I credit it with making me a better person--in particular, Yes Means Yes, The Beauty Myth, The Feminine Mystique, and bell hooks opened my eyes a lot. I'm just starting to get into Audre Lorde. She's cool. :)

Food: Tex-Mex, Indian. I cook both.

And in the area of "miscellaneous," I am currently obsessed with Andy Daly.
The six things I could never do without
1. Does
2. anyone
3. actually
4. read
5. this
6. shit?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the future, at the expense of the immediate present.
On a typical Friday night I am
putting groceries on the shelf at Trader Joe's Union Square.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I pretend to be self-confident and outgoing, but am in fact pretty damn insecure and derpy.

I wish I was better at subverting my privilege and using it for the benefit of others.

I regularly, without intending to, knock things off of tables and shelves with my butt.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You are okay with the fact that I am in a relationship (or you're in one too!)

You like having long, intense conversations about life and art that go on for hours.

You can teach me ways to better subvert my privilege.

You're fearless, outspoken, assertive, passionate about something, and there's not enough room in your heart for all the love you feel.

Or if you just wanna grab a beer some time, that's cool too.