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38 M Madrid, Spain

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Let's see if we get close to what I'm gunning for this time. Music was my muse, now she's one of my lovers. I'm a taoist, a discordian, a Sceptic... or maybe not... I play guitar and sing, I write, I use to paint. In the profile it says "straight" for convenience's sake. I believe I'm sexual, like most other people (and beings) in this planet, I don't need to stick a prefix to the word, that just vulgarises.

The few times I have (unwittingly at first) fallen into any patterns of monogamy have been few and, ultimately, disastrous. I’ve never had a steady exclusive, monotheistic girlfriend, due first to circumstance and unrequited love and, later, to acceptance and a general love of the situation. I have, however, fostered many long lasting relationships that continue to grow to this day. Whether I happen to fuck these people or not, well that's between them and I, but I'll happily talk about it if asked.

After going thru a particularly bad experience, I'm now living (and living with ...) a marvellous and exciting time in my life. I absolutely CRINGE at certain recurring words and clichés. that you'll seem me artfully skirting (ie: primary pardner/ polyamory.. yadda, yadda, yadda). We recently mErried (my favoured word) and we are incredibly happy in our intimacy. And yes, she's in this site, but then again, so are you.

I’ve never, EVER, lied to a woman about my non-exclusivity. This, of course, has caused me to lose a few relationships that “could have been”, but, then again it’s a kind of litmus test… If you don't agree with my criteria in sex, fine, we can be great friends, and exchange opinions, but we’re probably not going to agree that our "own way" is the best for the other.

My respect for those who foster steady relationships is absolute. My opinion (and this is mine, applied to my experience and the way I am, it’s not targeted at criticising anyone, let it be said!) is that love shouldn’t be forced or institutionalised but simply created and fostered by the simple realities of mutual attraction. I tend to relate this to gravitational theory and, ultimately relativity, so yeah, luuurve (forces of attraction) can bend space and time, as well as my trousers. The more I am forced into something, the more I will rebel.

The biggest form of trust and love, for me, is letting go. The girl with whom I’ve had one of the longest (and still ongoing) relationship in my life actually lives in another city and with another person… I've only met him briefly but I love him. It took me ages to get over the fact that she was leaving for another city, but that taught me to let go and love her without forcing the issue or imposing myself on her.

Men are interesting species, I like some and I have a few good friends amongst the genre. They interest me sexually a lot, much more than as friends, I actually find it hard to be myself or communicate with them. My sexual forays with them have been few, far between and none too successful. I do however recognise that I am prejudiced and I'd love to meet a man who'd prove me wrong. To further this cause I am turning my status to "bi" in this here site, from time to time and, once again, men are proving to be most bothersome and shallow, sigh. I love women and I am most comfortable amongst women, and that includes companionship and sex at times.

Blah, blah, blah. I was also labeled bipolar 1 back in my early twenties, and there's a few good tales to be told about that (see below). (EDIT: I'm quite curious about people who get to this part and may suddenly escape from this page in HORROR after such a revelation, specially anyone who would otherwise feel some sort of kinship or connection towards me up to this point. Please write to me to share your thoughts on me, I assure you I'm just as sane as I seemed in the paragraph before this one.)

I'm tired of the social stigma associated with mental condition (I really don't think I have a "disease" of any kind). Call it what you will, it's certainly given me some interesting times and shaped me as a person.

I ramble because I like to be exploratory in my answers and find out shit about myself as I ponder 'em.

I am see, the cat?, and see the cradle?
What I’m doing with my life
I think that people who try to make their art their source of income are severely deluded and will, ultimately compromise their creative output. Would the early bluesmen have had anything to bitch about if they all lived off royalties?

I write, play and record music, it's all done at home, although I would love to play all this stuff live with people someday, somewhere...

Apart from that, I'm building my own philosophical system though a blog that deals with both my mental and personal history and the ways I am finding to better cope with it all.

I also involve myself with some two thousand other things that get started, mutate and then turn into something else... I don't expect to make any money out of them, I just like to share them.

Finally, I have been writing poetry for half of my life, I finished two books in Spanish that, typically with me, didn't go anywhere. But I'm recycling and translating some of that material, along with some new stuff here.

To exist and to have the time/freedom of mind to do all of the above I am in charge of an establishment where I get paid to be either arrogant or polite...while having a computer on front so I can shake my other moneymaker: translation. That's two jobs for the TIME of one and, unattached as I am to them, I do them rather well.
I’m really good at
Touching inside and out. Finding the third way. Seeing through dogma, metaphor and bullshit. ...

I'm very good at listening, it took me many years to get there . I feel good about helping people whom I love. It's an egotistical, more than a charitable, attitude, I care, BECAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL GOOD, so use and abuse me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've noticed that people, at first, either love me or hate me... Most of my good friends are the ones who HATED me when they first met me. The ones who instantly love me insist on telling me their cocaine and alcohol soaked flavoured life story while I politely seem to be heartbroken on their behalf while, on the inside, I am thinking about titties and beer, titties and beer, titties and beer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Kurt Vonnegut, Samuel R Delaney, Robert Anton Wilson; Alan Watts, Ursula Le Guin, Margaret Atwood, Iain Banks, Neal Stephenson, Joseph Heller, Gene-fucking-Wolfe, John Irvin, George RR Martin, Wilkie Collins, Pynchon, David Bohm, Eric Fromm, Douglas Rushkoff, Charles Eisenstein....

Film: Kubrick, Scorsese, Coppola, Lucas (And don't be so fucking obvious and NEVER forget American Graffiti!) Herzog, Kurosawa...

Tv: The Wire, Red Dwarf, Deadwood, Conchords, Penn and Teller's Bullshit, Ghost in the Shell S.A.C.. I thought BSG had the potential to be one of the most relevant works of fiction of all time. On first watching I really thought that they had totally fucked it up by the end, but rewatching it all in a row I actually thought they wrapped it up admirably. I prefer enjoying things to hating them, so I am happy with this develoment.

C) Like: Zappa, Miles, Chris Whitley, Coltrane, Jane's Addiction, the MC5, Crimson, Spirit, Zep, Hendrix, The Who, Television, AIC, Screaming Trees, Archie Shepp, McKinley Morganfield, Ali Farka Toure, Tim Buckley & son, Pj Harvey, Public Enemy, Grandmaster Flash, Mahavishnu, Booker T & the MG's, Sex Pistols, James Brown, Funkadelic, Medeski Martin and Wood, Eric Dolphy, Black Sabbath, Eddie Cochran, Stooges, Kyuss, Rollins Band, Early Chilli Peppers, P.I.L; Weird Al, Violent Femmes, Primus, Neil Young, Living Colour, Van Der Graaf Generator, Pata Negra, The Wicked Pickett, Spinal Tap, Veneno, Urban Dance Squad, Tony Bennett, Bowie, Todd Rundgren, Mastodon, Thin Lizzy, Terence Trent D'Arby, Keziah Jones, Temple of the Dog, 70's Stevie Wonder, Soundgarden, Allman Bros, Steely Dan, Albert Ayler, Sonny Sharrock, Sonic Youth, Sly and the Family Stone, Shuggie Otis, Secret Machines, Sepultura, Faith No More, Mike Watt, NIN, Love, King's X, Sex Mob, The Rev Al Green, Early Fishbone, Dj Logic, Art Ensemble of Chicago....

Look, I truly believe in the timelessness of good music. If it was hip in 1932, I assure you it's hip now. The more I listen to free jazz, the more I enjoy AC/DC, which makes some people very pissed at me and, believe me, I love it.

d)Boquerones en Vinagre, gazpacho, jamón, kilolitros de yogur y pan.
The six things I could never do without
Things which are outside of my control. Oh, they're such a RELIEF

I try not to get too attached to anything, but, being human, my "weaknesses" (And one person's weakness is another's charm) are: Music, the universe, love (and, specially, the incredible person I live with), my dogs, open communication and sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Shareware an collaborative hubs, as applied to both personal and social change. Elliptical Orbits. Contrast and balance... Fluxus Spherickal, Elecktricty and The Philosophickal Mercury. Why I think so fucking much when I'm much better when I just don't... My dogs... Music, I'm either thinking music or thinking about music. Perception. Politics, occupations and revolutions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Here or There.

I could be somewhat nostalgic about the typicality of the Friday nights of yore. I actually have no idea, my work schedule has pretty much fucked up any sociably comprehensible concept of "Weekend"
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is splattered all over this text and the hyperlinkage within. Feel free to ask, I like being expansive and explorative with my answers
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–52
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If it resonates in even and odd harmonics