Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


41 Pittsburgh, PA Woman


Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 23
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sorting it out, looking for the big theme.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
puzzles. meandering conversations. appreciating qualities of light. listening for unspoken things in a conversation. noticing what is good in people. rolling with the punches.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Fiction: Auster, Bellow, Calvino, Carver, Cheever, Chekhov, Coetzee, DeLillo, Dostoyevsky, Kundera, Lethem, Marquez, Melville, Rick Moody, Laurie Moore, Nabokov, Cynthia Ozick, Grace Paley, Saramago, Vonnegut

Movies: Vanya on 42nd Street, The Station Agent, Amelie.

TV: Six Feet Under, Oz, House of Cards, Modern Family, New Girl, The Mindy Project.

Foods: butter, salt, lemon, garlic, olive oil, basil, sharp cheeses, broccoli, nuts, fish, raspberries.

Music: Lumineers, Florence and the Machine, The Black Keys, Bon Iver, Mumford & Sons, Regina Spector, Jack White, Band of Horses, the Be Good Tanyas, Gillian Welch, Steve Earle, the Killers, Gotye, Jose Gonzales, Brett Dennen, Arcade Fire, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Civil Wars, Adele, Bill Withers, Aretha Franklin, Jimmy Cliff, Leonard Cohen, Philip Glass.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I wish they would rephrase this.

Instead, it should say, "once my basic survival is ensured.... the first six things I'd grab, to make the post-apocalyptic world more luxurious would be:"

In that case:

-iPod full of music
-french milled paper notebooks
-fountain pens
-a guitar
-one good knife
-a versatile piece of cookware


Why I should list my guitar among the things I could not live without... is a mystery. I haven't touched it in months.

But, I think I would play it a lot more if the world as we know it came to an end. I think I wouldn't be able to live without it if the internet and electricity and life as we know it all fell away.

I used to play it a lot more, before the internet took over my life. I used to read a lot more, too. I used to write a lot more. I used to paint a lot more. I used to listen to music a lot more. I used to wander around my apartment thinking about things a lot more. I used to cook a lot more. Once I spent an afternoon in my kitchen -- an entire afternoon -- sitting on an uncomfortable little chair, paging through a gigantic cookbook with no photographs. I remember that day vividly. Most of my days, these days, are forgettable.

The things I say I could never live without are all things that I have started to live without...... which is interesting. But, when I try to imagine going without things, one by one, I can imagine going without all of the things I have now... my car, my iPhone, the internet, until I get back down to the list of things I used to be happy with, and then when I begin to imagine letting those things go, it seems unbearable. It's strange to consider that those are all things I have begun to live without.

Something interesting is happening. When all of the things which seem essential to a good life... things you would never let go... are gradually removed from your life... by way of distraction... and replaced with things you would happily be rid of.... what is that about? What irrational thing is happening there?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The fate of humanity.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're soulful and intelligent and kind. You're funny and sarcastic, but not the mean kind of sarcastic.

You're willing to write something more substantial than, "how you doin?"

I understand that not everybody wants to invest time in writing much on their profile, but if you're not willing to put a little effort into expressing something about who you are, our personality types are probably incompatible.

If you have ever in your life used the word "kindred" ... I'm sure we'll get along. (It's one of those concepts I and my kindreds seem to romanticize…)