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  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Judaism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Politics / Government
Has a kid
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm not vanilla, although I do like vanilla. I like to read, run, cook and hike, but not all at the same time.

I'm over-educated, and/but under-common sensed.

Music is very important to me. So is originality.

I had something that was very good for a very long time. Now I want something even better. Am I being greedy? Unrealistic? We'll see...
What I’m doing with my life
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Straddling the razor's edge between what I've been, what I am, and what I'll be. (Thanks Hegel)

I work in a think tank/academically-informed consultancy. I'm also raising a teenager (partial custody) who thinks she's an adult, and I'm always looking for new challenges.

I think personal growth is good, but having things grow on me is not.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. I make a mean Hungarian tomato soup and a very cheesy lasagne. I'm getting close to the perfect omelet, but it is tricky.

I think I'm a good listener, a good driver, and a good reader. Make that a great reader.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not a jerk. I hold open doors. It is important to have a code. (Thanks Mom)

Some of the women I am attracted to think that I will be politically conservative because I work with the military, but I'm actually a moderate Democrat.

I look better than my photos (they steal the soul), I have good teeth, and no extra limbs or appendages.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite book would have to be The Hotel New Hampshire, by John Irving, although I'm partial to Joyce Carol Oates, Michael Chabon, Salman Rushdie, and Jhumpa Lahiri.

As for music, that could take a while. I need good music around me at home almost all of the time. I am borderline obsessed with Tom Waits, Elvis Costello, Ryan Adams and Jack White. I have healthier relationships with Ray Wylie Hubbard, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, The National, and Aimee Mann. I also like Bill Frisell, McCoy Tyner, and Johannes Brahms. I have recently become obsessed with Neutral Milk Hotel.

For food, I'm ecelctic. I love Indian, sushi, Vietnamese, Ethiopian, Thai, etc. I believe in trying something before writing it off. I don't like anchovies or mussels, though.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
regular exercise (endorphin junkie)
my family and interesting people around me
good art (music, books, movies)
seltzer water
the outdoors
cheese (cheddar, mostly)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, art, money, the state of the world, French pastries, the (poor) state of journalism, the next book, the next album, the next step, the White Stripes, the Black Plague. (ok, not the Black Plague).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night. I like to spend time with friends and/or family. Good food and an interesting activity are key.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I actually like my job/career. I'm not work obsessed, and believe in a healthy work/life balance. Still, I think it is important to like what you do. I get the sense that people don't want to mention work. I get that work isn't everything, but it is important.
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