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34 F Portland, OR

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Last Online
Yesterday – 4:15pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Dutch (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm one of the more confidently lost people on this planet, I think. Usually, I feel like I know where this is all going; but then I am reminded that Shit Happens. The best we can do is to learn from it and try not to step in the same mess twice.

I've worked in science (as a researcher) and business (as an owner/manager) my entire adult life. Business-wise, I've always worked in the body modification industry. First as an owner/manager of tattoo studios back in Texas and later as GM of a body jewelry manufacturing company here in Portland. Eventually I would like to start a small business doing something radically different, but I don't yet know what, when, or where.

In the meantime I'm pretty busy living out my mad scientist dreams. I've been working specifically in the field of cryonics since 2006. If you're really bored you can watch and listen to me on YouTube:

I just got divorced, but will continue to work with my ex-husband for the foreseeable future.

I take great pride in having nearly limitless patience, but people who test it too often get relegated to the shit list. I am extremely level-headed (my best friends describe me as "grounded") and adept at seeing both the big and little pictures. I strive to be multidisciplinary. In my opinion, genius is the ability to make (hitherto unseen) connections between ideas, often from separate fields. I know that I am smart, but so far I have yet to prove myself any sort of genius.

I am interested in improving humanity and the human body through innovative research and technology. If you have ever wondered if it is possible to become more human (more evolved) in a directed sense, you are my kind of thinker. If you are actively involved in this process you are my kind of doer, as well.

I particularly care about: science and science education; cryonics and the naturalistic worldview; writin' confusing metaphors and makin' beautiful music; and, perhaps most importantly, boundary-pushing.

What can I say, I'm a strange bird.

I am adaptable, incredulous, and independent
What I’m doing with my life
Two words: zombie rats.
I’m really good at
"Getting it." Explaining a difficult concept twelve different ways until someone else "gets it." Teaching in general.

I also get along exceptionally well with children. I don't know what that means, really, but it's been proven over and over and over again. Kids love me, and I dig them right back.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm really thin. And, if they're showing, my tattoos. Oh, and I smile a lot.

If I talk for too long, you'll soon realize that I'm an uber-nerd. My vocabulary has a way of betraying me. That's why I try to keep comments short, sweet, and witty when I first meet people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) I read a lot of science-related stuff, of course, and other non-fiction. I really enjoy classic literature, and a small(ish) selection of modern fiction.

(b) I like weird movies, horror movies, foreign films, and any combinations thereof. I also take pleasure in cult classics, musicals, rock operas, and anything else that is over-the-top. I'm pretty sure I've watched nearly every slasher and giallo film in existence.

(c) My musical tastes run the gamut, but mostly center on metal, punk rock, and folk/western swing (I grew up in East Texas, after all). Lately, I'm really digging stoner metal, psychedelic rock, and freak folk.

I think this is one of the best albums of all time:

(d) I love to cook, and most of my dishes tend to revolve around meat and veggies. I don't really like carb-heavy meals, and have to find ways to make things like pasta and breads super appealing if I want to enjoy them.
The six things I could never do without
I don't have overbearing needs or wants, nor do I suffer from any addictions. I do, however, read quite a bit and wouldn't like to go through life without my books. I'm one of those people who reads while I wait.

In the interest of answering this for the reasons it was presented (as a "getting to know you" item):

(1) My dog, Darwin. Though he's 12 now and I'm steeling myself for our inevitable separation.
(2) Privacy / alone-time / space of my own.
(3) The ability to think and reason as dispassionately as possible.
(4) Kites.
(5) Animals to observe.
(6) Life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Unlimited healthy human lifespan, for starters. Temporary measures, including: extending the healthy portion of the human lifespan, improving cognitive function (especially in old age), and obtaining good health in general. Last-ditch conservative measures, such as cryonics.

Behavior. Psychology. Cognition. Neurophysiology. Genetics. How these 5 things coalesce to create the human experience. What experience is and what it means.

Industrial and organizational psychology. Management...of individuals, of organizations, and of processes.

Business! Capitalism. Libertarianism. Anarchism (the political philosophy, not the crust-punk B.S.).

Reality/realism. This, in particular, is a hugely important aspect of my personal identity. I don't subscribe to any "woo-woo." I'm a reality-based, business-minded gal and I prefer to look my demons straight in the face before I kick them in the tuckus.

The right to control over one's own body. In the same vein...body modification, transhumanism (though I don't personally subscribe to this movement), cryonics, death with dignity, etc.

(Radical) feminism and how it has hurt women. Lots of other politically incorrect thoughts/ideas that ladies these days are not expected to espouse.

Community. Family. Giving. Self-sacrifice.

On a typical Friday night I am
A brief glance at my calendar tells me that I am often attending Blazers home games on Friday night. Or, when they're not in town, watching an away game and/or attending an event of some sort. Spending an evening out with friends. Or spending an evening in with same.

[Yes, I'm into basketball. In fact, I organize the Portland Trail Blazers Fans meetup group: People are usually surprised by this because I don't fit the "sports fan" profile, but then I never was good at fitting into boxes.]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Here's a couple things I should probably put out there, just so they don't surprise anyone.

(1) I have a chronic cough. I cough sporadically throughout the day and will cough uncontrollably at some point if you spend enough time around me (usually in the morning upon waking). No, I am not sick. I probably don't need a glass of water. I do not need a pat on the back, but I do appreciate your ongoing sympathy because the alternative is to be annoyed by something I cannot control.

(2) I have a few tics. Floating (i.e., isolation tank / sensory deprivation) regularly helps immensely in my ability to suppress on an ongoing basis. Caffeine exacerbates them, but I probably won't turn down a cup of coffee with you so, again, fair warning.

(3) For the perceptive among you -- yes, it is possible that number 1 may be related to number 2. I'm going through all sorts of workups to identify or eliminate physiological causes of my cough before jumping to this conclusion, however.

(4) Taken together, you would be correct in assuming a high level of neuroticism on my part. My nervous system is in high gear. But I have a lifetime of recognition of this fact on my side (and a couple of degrees in neuroscience). Other than a few physical manifestations (most of which I am able to control), I'm even-keeled.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 20–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're into skinny, tattooed, geek-girls.

I'm into pushing if pretty much anything that falls outside of societal norms makes you uncomfortable, you're probably not going to enjoy being around me (or, far more likely, I am not really going to enjoy being around you).

That said, I am not a freak -- I clean up well and fit in nicely at dinner parties (I have a bit of a "daddy's girl" look, actually) -- but I DO NOT think like 99.99% of the population, and I don't ever plan to.

DISCLAIMER: I am in an open relationship with one couple and I spend a great deal of time with my ex-husband. If that bothers you, don't bother.