We've all learned to assess each other for an appropriate level of intellectual rapport, an affirming political affinity, the titillation of sexual chemistry, reasonably complementary interests, compatible life goals, and the eagerly sought but rarely found sense of humor. What about an authentic heart connection, someone who is genuinely seeking a life of shared joys and sorrows and not just a temporary fix for whatever ails them today?

I am currently not looking to fill any long distance slots. No longer settling for less than Priority Status in anyone's life: there's only so much give in this girl.

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Academic adventurer, blues buff, bi-sensual but ~bi-sexual, creative, discriminating, enthusiastically engaged in each encounter, financially flexible for foreseeable future, genuine, honest, hedonistic, intellectual, idealistic, jazz junkie, kind (at some K frequency), literate rarely literal, more often metaphorical, myopic, musical, neither HWP nor nubile, optimistic, passionately present with a polyamorous past, quirky, Rubensque, suddenly sixty-4, sensual, selectively sexual, spiritual, treasure, unique, verbal perhaps verbose, wonder (full of), (e)xuberant, youthful, zany.

I'm hooked on books, immersed in verse, mired in metaphors. When I'm not reading, I'm writing. Catching the latest independent film, art exhibition, live jazz or blues performance. Subverting the dominant paradigm. Asking probing question of myself and others. Organizing book clubs, dreaming up workshops, participating in salons to raise the level of discourse in my local community.

Exploring the connection between the small details and the big picture, making sense of the personal and the political.

The curl in the middle of my forehead? That tends to be how I'm most frequently remembered.

"And when she was good
She was very, very good..."

Books: Getting Real: 10 Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life, If the Buddha Dated, Nonviolent Communication, and of course, beautifully crafted works of fiction.

Films: Everything from "Adaptation" to " Z"

Music: Blues, Jazz, Classical, 60's Rock, R&B. Anything that lends itself to singing (even country-western) and dancing (though I seriously need lessons if it requires a partner).

Food: Ethnic (sushi, Thai, Indonesian, Greek, Italian, French)

My iPhone, my iPod, my ISP, my iNstincts and my iDealism (and my apparent iNability to count to 6!)

Why am I here? How do I want to use the time I've been allotted?

usually alternating between social events and solo events. Both have something to offer.

I'm very fond of exploratory questions and pay careful attention to the answers.

You would enjoy a good conversation. That could be over a glass of wine, a mug of root beer, or cup of coffee (chai, latté, or mocha). The beverage n'importe pas, eh? I'm currently interviewing for Cuddle Partners/Snuggle Buddies, someone who stimulates my mind, tickles my funny bone, raises the oxytocin level in my body, while moving molasses slow to see if more would be welcome at some future time.

Things always begin with the chemistry of friendship. I bring no expectations of more than friendship yet I always arrive with an unwavering optimism that something more can often be found in the most unexpected places, at the least likely times, with someone with whom there is the potential for a deeper connection.