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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 21
Heteroflexible, Straight
Open relationship
Relationship Type
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Not at all
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English, C++
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I asked friends and lovers for adjectives to describe me, and here's what I got: Thoughtful, good listener, kinky, laid back, science geek, open-minded, easy to talk to, caring, perceptive, great mix of active listening with appropriate problem solving, the first person I shared my deepest darkest fantasy with.

If that sounds like your kind of awesome, write me.
What I’m doing with my life
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Robbing banks.

That sounds at least twice as awesome as "security consultant," right?

But it has taken me to some great places. My favorite was Bangalore, with pizza on Indian flatbread, English rose gardens, and haggling in markets. Melbourne was a close second, because I met awesome people and lived like a local for the month.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Kind, honest communication.

There are two types of honesty: Saying what's on your mind in the moment, and figuring out how to express yourself in a way your listener can take in, hearing your intent instead of reacting to a poorly-chosen word. No one can achieve that second type of honesty all the time, but it's always my goal.

Also, teaching. I've been teaching since age 14. First martial arts (I'm very good at defeating wooden boards), later jewelry making, swing dance, biofield healing, and computer security.

And a friend says: Staying calm, holding space, and only then finding a solution. So many guys jump to the solution.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm currently reading a book on the origins and money and debt, and how each grew from the other. Before that I read about how cooking influenced human evolution. Seeing the connections in the world fascinates me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My curiosity. My ability to connect and spread ideas through language. My drive to create things that help people.

Consulting has made me less attached to possessions. I can be perfectly happy with a hotel room and a suitcase, as long as I have a problem worth solving and a laptop to share my ideas.

And one for the literalists saying food and water: I could never do without the strong nuclear force. Because where would we be without it? Free-floating protons and neutrons, that's where.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Biofield healing, the scientific term for energy healing.

Here's how I look at it: If this phenomenon can reduce pain, that suggests it can influence nerves. If we understood that mechanism and guided it with neurology and other medical sciences, what could we do for alzheimer's, depression, epilepsy, and more? Those three diseases alone affect roughly 10% of the world's population.

Questions like that guide my work. I've practiced since 1991, written and taught since 2010, and have a company in the works to contribute to the peer-reviewed research being published.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've taught at the Citadel and Wicked Grounds, among other venues.
You should message me if
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You're great at communication, brilliant, geeky, and otherwise awesome.

Not sure what to say? Tell me about something you did recently that you loved.