I'm polyamorous, sapiosexual and kink-friendly. Into swing dancing, rock climbing, bank robbing, and science and technology.

Polyamorous

Everyone does poly a little differently. For me, a small number of emotionally intimate, affectionate, stable relationships are what gets my serotonin going.

I'm currently seeing ladysatyr, sempivirens and susanstohelit. So, close to polysaturated, but I can make time for someone awesome.

Sapiosexual

I find the right kind of intelligence arousing. Not just interesting or desirable, but shallow-breathing, deep-passionate-kiss-inducing arousing. Some men are into redheads or big boobs; I'm into brilliant women with stunning vocabularies.

Kink-Friendly

I'm into ethical erotic hypnosis: Using trance in kink scenes. Trance itself is pleasant, like a gentle subspace, and it lets us create sensations and experiences that your unconscious mind thinks would be fun. I organize the Wicked Grounds hypnosis munch, taught a class while consulting in Melbourne, Australia, and help organize hypno-kink parties in the bay area.

I'm also open to most activities that don't involve pain for me.

Swing Dancing

I took two years off between tech jobs to teach west coast swing, and I still go dancing every week or so. If you're a dancer (or want to be), hit me up.

Rock Climbing

I specifically picked an apartment near an indoor gym so I'll get exercise. And I recently started climbing weekly with a buddy. At the moment, 5.9 is comfortable, 5.10a is hard.

Bank Robbing

Professional bank robber. International, even.

(I'm in security consulting. If you want to know how cross-site request forgery or sql injection work, I'm your man.)

Science and Technology

I'm much more up on new startups and tech news than I am on politics. If you think the asteroid mining company is awesome, we might just get along.

I have kick-ass communication skills. Not the formulaic active-listening repeat-their-statement like you learn in workshops, but rather, a love of engaging a partner's ideas and emotions, seeking empathy and truth rather than victory, and expressing where I am without blaming my partner.

Best news story of 2012: The asteroid mining company. Actual for-profit company, harvests water (for rocket fuel) and rare earth metals (for electronics, batteries, etc).

Favorite blog I found this year: The LessWrong wiki and their rationalist fanfic, "Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality." The group's retreat was pretty cool, too. If you're a rationalist, we'll probably get along.

Other reading: Blogs and books about new ideas. Ask me about permission marketing, how cooking influenced human evolution, or effective counterinsurgency techniques.

TV: I recently attended a Doctor Who meetup at Wicked Grounds. Which makes me a certified geek.

Nothing, really. I'd miss my laptop, and a comfy bed is worth having, but I don't get too attached to objects. The less stuff you have, the more room you have for great experiences.

My secret turn-on is a brilliant, eloquent woman who's smarter than me in at least one field. If men find you intellectually intimidating, you're probably my kind of awesome.

You're poly, great at communication, brilliant, and otherwise awesome.

You'd rather create than consume.

And I live near BART, so East Bay folks, feel free to write.

(I also enjoy meeting poly couples.)