First - if you feel like contacting me, don't bother with the whole 'rating' thing, and then hope that I will notice and 'rate' you back. I won't. It's dumb. Just drop me a line and we'll talk.
On the other hand, I've noticed that people with a 'high percentage match' actually DO seem to have a lot in common with me.
I'm an INTJ if you know what that means.
I enjoy lots of things, mostly intellectual pursuits. I enjoy computer gaming, RPGs are usually my favorite although I also sometimes enjoy strategy and 'puzzle' type games. There is a MUD I sometimes play (ACHAEA) and have been playing for years now (with not as much character advancement as I should have, but oh well). I'm 'Fragen' on there.
I seem to have a LOT in common with people who are very math oriented, which is a little strange since math just doesn't click with me. On the other hand, I tend to very logical and practical, even when I'm having fun.
I have a passion for hand drumming. I've always enjoyed it and I purchased my first real djembe (an 11" head, Ghana hand-carved) in the summer of 2009. I hope to be buying a doumbek in the near future, for ease of carrying around at festivals and a more crisp Middle Eastern sound for Middle Eastern type drumming.
I enjoy watching deep movies (like The Razor's Edge), scary movies (not 'slasher' films for the most part, or movies where people get tortured... ugh), comedies, adventures... lots of genres. I enjoy nearly all vampire movies, but no, I'm not one of those poser gothy chicks who dresses in all black and wants to drink your blood (unless you really really want me too.... heh (j/k)). Most typical 'womens' movies put me to sleep. umm, literally.
I enjoy 'fixing' things, computers in particular. I like solving problems, and become frustrated when I can't, but fixing computers allows me to feel 'accomplished', especially when I'm putting money in my own pocket doing so. Let's face it, I'm a nerd. If you think computers are stupid or you are a complete Luddite, you should probably keep moving.
I like thinking about life and deep subjects. I like brain play. I also love my critters (but not in a perverted way). I have a really strange sense of humor. I tend to look at things differently than most people do. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (the 'inattentive type', not the 'hyper' type), but I'm not taking anything regularly for it.
Shallow Stuff: I'm not ugly, and I'm not gorgeous. I bleach/color my hair sometimes, sometimes not, and don't care what people think about it. I prefer my hair to be shortish - I generally don't have it shorter than my jawline or much past my shoulders in length, but if hair color/length are that important you, I'm probably not for you anyway. My main profile pic is recent. I rarely wear makeup and I never 'fix my hair'. I'm not a classy girly-girl, but I'm not a pig either. I don't like 'formal' events and I would almost rather die than wear dress shoes (birkenstocks are my footwear of choice). I will very very rarely sacrifice comfort for looks.
I don't care for most sports and watching team sports on tv bores the hell out of me. I enjoy nature and hate the fact that I have seasonal allergies which usually last somewhere from August to October, my most favorite time of year. I will take allergy medicine when necessary, but I prefer to avoid it, and most other medications. I don't smoke (anything).
I have a son (4yrs old now) who is an awesome kid. I'm really not a 'kid person' and I still don't define myself as a 'mommy', but I love my son very much and spend nearly all of my time with him. I plan to homeschool. He is very social and pretty much charms everyone he meets. Even people who do not, generally, enjoy being around kids, end up liking him (note: I am one of those people who do not, generally, enjoy being around kids). lol I DO, however, enjoy being around really cool, smart, well-mannered kids.
I wish I could say that I love fashion... but I'm horrible at it. Well, not as bad as 'ugly betty', but I don't tend to turn heads, unless you've known me for a while and you're looking for something deeper.
I'm GLBTQ friendly if you're just looking for a friend (and for those of you who don't know that acronym, it means I do have gay friends and it's not a big deal, but if you're homophobic or feel threatened/disgusted by people who are gay, I'm not the gal for you). Further in that vein, I sometimes attend 'Gay Pride' events and used to go to 'gay clubs' before I had my son. I don't go to bars now.
I'm loyal and I will bend over backward to help someone I care about, but knowingly take advantage of me and I will cut you off without looking back.
I'm sarcastic and understand snarky play, but I don't tolerate abusers, manipulators or control freaks - I believe in equality unless one party is obviously more qualified in that particular area, and even then a good relationship should be respectful. Mutual respect is very important to me because once that breaks down, there's really nothing left.
I'm overweight, but not horribly so. I'm not 'ok' with being overweight (for myself at least), and it's something I'm working on and making progress. I would not be cool being with someone who was seriously overweight and NOT concerned about it.
Major turnoffs for me include:
Couch Potatoes (computer potatoes are more acceptable)
Illiterate/Uneducated/Dumb people (sorry, I'm a little elitist that way)
Dipping/Chewing tobacco. Nasty.
If you have God/Jesus/'The Bible' in your '6 Things' list.
Blank Profiles (come on... show that you care - I rarely respond to people with blank profiles)
Heavy Smokers, or people who insist on smoking indoors.
Drug Abusers, or people who do hard drugs.
Wimps - I'm not your mommy.
Extreme lack of personal hygiene
Lack of Confidence
Football/Baseball/Basketball - although I've actually played all three at some point in my life, I know of few things more boring than trying to watch most team sports on TV
Narcissists (be confident!, not narcissistic)
Little Boys - I don't mind if people are a few years younger than myself, but I'm not interested in guys who are much younger than I am. Getting around 10 years difference is pushing it. It's possible that I could date someone younger, but they would have to be very mature and not make me feel like I'm dating a little kid. So not my thing.
Illiterates and those who use 'txtspk' all the time.
I'm sure there are more....
Turn Ons include:
Being Smart, Intellectual
Preferably fairly well educated
Being relatively healthy
Being ok with kids (or at least with MY kid)
Having the ability to be social when necessary, and a hermit, when necessary.
Being a good male role model
Enjoying things like Hippie/Art/Music/Cultural Festivals
Being Social enough to get along with friends
Not being a total slob - or a 'neat freak'
Being passionate (about things other than sex)
Responsibility (with the ability to be spontaneous sometimes)
I am nerdy, different, and aware