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I'm open to being friends with anyone as long as we like some of
the same things. I prefer meeting quickly, rather than having
lengthy correspondences. You can't fully trust what you gather
about someone only through online contact. No amount of
correspondence or photos can inform you of what it will actually be
like when face-to-face. And, ultimately, that's the bit that
A word of warning: I can be a very tiring person.
Sometimes it's because I've been bottling stuff inside and it so
desperately needs to comes out, while I'm trying my hardest not to
let it, resulting in some mumbled words in half-finished sentences.
When I get like that, it's best if I spend a bit of time by myself
and get some sleep. Otherwise, chances are that the mumbling will
go on and on, or get worse and worse.
Other times, I just talk too much, or analyze things too
extensively, and I get super into whatever I'm talking about and
don't notice that I have bored the listener to tears. My interests
can also be rather obscure, or too abstract/mathematical when
others just want to relax.
I'm frequently told to relax, but what they don't realy understand
is that talking about my interests is what relaxes me most. I can
only relax when I'm active. And I'm always fidgeting and a bit
restless, unless I'm happy where I am and then I'm quite often
super impassioned by whatever I'm talking about. No matter how you
look at it, I am tiring for others and all my best friends know
that sometimes it's ok to just ignore me. I don't mind. In fact I
appreciate it, cause I don't want to annoy anyone.
It's really really hard to offend me and I appreciate more than
anything when people feel free to tell me to leave if they want me
to go, or to let me know when I did something that bothered
But you shouldn't be wary of meeting me in real life for the first
time. I've met many people from okcupid and I don't think I've ever
made anyone uncomfortable. My only request is that you ask yourself
if you'd be happy to make a new friend and write to me only if the
answer is "yes", but a "yes" that doesn't mean you'll just be
making a compromise when in fact you wanted more (sex, love,
I don't "date" off the internet. I don't date at all actually,
cause I don't really like naming my relationships with others.
Pretty much everyone is in one big soup of friends, and it's kinda
hard to say which ones I'm dating, which ones are my fuck-buddies,
which I feel more romantic about, and which ones are friends with
which none of these has yet happened. Each person is unique and I
think it lacks delicacy to start placing them in categories. I
don't like to be labeled and I don't label.
Don't message me if you have a very specific agenda, like you're
looking for the love of your life or your next lay. For those who
seek a certain type of person, I assure you, either I am not your
type, or I am, but you're not mine.