Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, I'm Catinca.
I am not scared of the unknown. Nothing is more scary than not
having novelty in one's life. Even if it kills me, it's still more
interesting than living the safer same-old days again and
My biggest fear is to become chronically ill, suffering
increasingly more each day without dying. Even so, I'd choose to be
Stephen Hawking rather than Paris Hilton any day. When I think of
these two people, it makes me sad that Hawking is considered the
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
"To do something with one's life"... hmmm. It seems more like a day
to day development. I'm not doing anything with my life, cause it's
not exactly something I can mold as I please.
You want some things, you have dreams, and you have some abilities
and some weaknesses. These are the circumstances you provide to
your life. Then there's all the rest of the stuff around you which
affect however your life progresses.
What I'm doing with my life is trying to do the things that depend
on me as best I can, such that my dreams will have most chances of
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
These change according to what I've been practicing most recently.
I'm pretty good at logic, even though it's been quite a few years
since I did any problems (first order logic mainly), but you get
practice with it in most thinking processes. Or you should
This section really needs a counter-section, "I'm really bad at".
Well, actually I really need it, 'cause then I can say that I am
not a good listener.
Being a good listener is the most frequent answer people give in
this section, and it makes me feel obligated to say that I am iffy
about my listening abilities. I hear extremely well, but I get
"inattentively deaf" quite often. My mind wanders off and, although
I hear the sound of a voice among the many other sounds that reach
my ears, I don't actually hear anything.
When people say that they are good listeners, it sort of implies
that they have patience when they're not in fact really interested
in what the other person is saying. Think about it. If it's
interesting, then why wouldn't you listen carefully? It's not an
achievement to listen to something you're interested in, is
It only becomes a virtue worth emphasizing ("I am really good at")
when someone is capable to listen carefully in spite of their lack
of genuine interest in the topic at hand. Only then does listening
present difficulties, making it a virtue to overcome them. I can
admire that, cause I have a really hard time doing it.
When I don't think I have the availability to listen to something,
I say so. I don't like doing favours, nor receiving them. If I do
something for someone, I do it because I want to. That's the only
way I know how to avoid making people feel indebted - which is one
of the most psychologically harmful feelings that one can
experience. When you feel that you owe things, your attitude
becomes meek, your personality shies away, and you end up doing
something for the person who did you the favour, something which
may not always be what you'd really want to do.
When you're a good listener, are you doing the other person a
favour or does it mean that you are most often interested in what
people say, thus making you listen with ease?
I can see how the latter could be something to be proud of. But,
again, I must admit that I myself am not always interested in what
others are saying. I am not very social. I like meeting with one
person at a time and I'm very direct when I speak. I love breaking
social norms. I love taking people out of their comfort zones. I
guess that's why a lot of people avoid being around me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have asked many many people, but the answers vary very much. The
only answer which was decidedly more frequent was: hair. It's short
and this seems to be noteworthy.
If you ask me, I always think that after a very short time of
knowing me, people notice I'm a goof or that I'm childishly shy. I
don't know if that's true, but that's always my impression. Or
simply that I'm odd.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books:I will give some titles of books that I
enjoyed for very different reasons:
(in random order)
"Modern Logic" by Graeme Forbes (it has ordered my entire
"1984" by George Orwell (really good book)
"History of Western Philosophy" by Bertrand Russell (really
"Small Gods" (and many others) by Terry Pratchett (really
"From a Logical Point of View" by W.V.O. Quine (eye-opener)
The Geographical Atlas (my dad used to say it was my story-book
when I was a kid - I love maps)
"The Journal of Laura Palmer" by Jennifer Lynch (first time I
discovered that reading books can be super easy and can leave me
just as I was before reading it... yet somehow still
The Zoological Atlas (first I discovered I liked collecting
"Phaedrus", by Plato (I can't explain why I liked it)
"On Liberty", by J.S. Mill (I just agree with a lot of it)
"The Fountainhead" by Ayn Rand (I am not well acquainted with her
philosophy, so please give me a break and don't read volumes into
the fact that I found this book a really enjoyable read. I am a
libertarian, but don't pin on me her form of libertarianism,
because, from what I know, it is not the form which I would agree
"The Collector", by John Fowles (well written)
"Animal Farm", by Orwell (the most amazing definition of human
nature and organization, in spite of having very few humans as
"John Barleycorn", by Jack London (taught me how to watch out not
to become an alcoholic)
"Of Mice and Men", by Steinbeck (I'm melt when I read about true
"Dead Souls", by Nikolai Gogol (the Russians... funny kind of
"The Brothers Karamazov", by Fyodor Dostoevsky (the Russian spirit
continued - it's one of my weaknesses)
"A Treatise on Human Nature", by David Hume (Papa Empiricism can't
miss from this list)
"On the Origin of Species", by Charles Darwin (do I need to have a
reason? ok - I find it very useful in my work)
(the spell check doesn't contain "Graeme", "Phaedrus",
"libertarianism", "Fowles", "Barleycorn" but suggested "Barrymore",
Music: Oh, I don't know. There is a set of songs
to which I listen obsessively, but naming them would be rather
personal. I am most moved when listening to certain pieces of
opera. Playful punk cheers me up. Yea, yea, I'm not cool - big
(in random order)
Apocalypse Now (only saw the director's cut - 40-something minutes
more of the most paralyzing horror images which were cut out from
the movie as it came out originally),
One Flew over the Cuckoo's Nest
The Professional (Leon)
Once Upon a Time in America
The Last King of Scotland
Some Like it Hot
Escape from Sobibor
La Cage aux Folles
The Big Lebowski
American History X
The Usual Suspects
Full Metal Jacket
Silence of the Lambs
In the Name of the Father
The Inner Circle (there are more movies with this title; the one
I'm referring to is the story about Stalin's projectionist)
Little Miss Sunshine
Hemingway and Gellhorn
Half Nelson (this movie felt like it was done by someone who
actually lived through many of my experiences. It felt like it was
I've watched Amadeus 100 times I think. I used to watch it
obsessively as a child. I have it memorized. Has anyone noticed
it's actually a musical?
T.V. shows: Ok, I do have a bunch of sitcoms which
I enjoy listening to rather than watching while I do other things.
But a couple of shows stand out and they are not sitcoms: Oz and
Law and Order - the original version. My favourite sitcom is
probably Malcolm in the Middle.
Favourite quote from Malcolm in the Middle. Hal: "Look, Dewey, I've
made the microwave oven work without having to shut the
Food: dunno. Most food. I refuse to eat raw
oysters, but they don't particularly strike me as food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Actually, - life sustinance aside - there is only one thing I could
never do without: a wish. If there were 6 things,
I'd lose focus.
I will add one thing: my laptop is my best friend.
I write on it, which is damn important to me. I don't think I could
give up having a laptop (given that the world were no different
than it is, not in a world without computers and www) for any
single person on this planet. If I had to choose between never
seeing BOB again, or the laptop, my fingers speak for themselves.
Sorry, mom, you too.
And then there's the list of things I have to really concentrate
not to lose: keys, wallet,
cellphone, and whatever form of ID I have
on me. Not that they're important, but it's a pain in the
ass when you lose them. Also, I spend a considerable time of my day
thinking not to lose them. There are many things that are more
valuable to me, things that I'd really hate losing, like my sanity,
but it's just not on my mind as much as my keys, wallet, phone and
whatever form of ID I have on me.
I think I listed six in a loose sense of the word...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I could never put it as well as George Carlin. I think a lot about
I think about things that I don't agree with most people. For
example, the dichotomy between reason and emotions, treating these
as if they were mutually exclusive modes of thought. I don't think
there's any such thing as "emotional thinking", since emotions are
emotions and not thought. "Rational thinking" is pretty much the
only thinking there is.... isn't that what thought is? - to reason
through whatever is on your mind? Do you emotion through whatever
is on your mind? I don't.
I wonder, am I the only one who can reason about something, whilst
at all times feeling emotion too. If I don't act upon my every
emotion, does it mean that I am reasonable and am NOT emotional? Is
it not reasonable to look at a painting and react
And I wonder if people can tell the difference between liking
something, in the sense that it conforms to certain standards we
chose to be the standards for "things we like" and liking
something, in the sense that it brings you simple true and strong
enjoyment. To me, it seems like only the second type of liking will
make me happy, while the first is an assessment, an evaluation of
an object that, aside from the case that you are required to be a
neutral judge, is really of no use at all. Why? Cause I don't see
the point of liking if it's not what you (maybe inexplicably)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
therefore I think? *knee slap*
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I feel like I'm waking up from a nightmare. The last 2 - 3 years
were very hard on me. I am definitely on my feet again and steadily
getting my strength back, but there are moments when I still feel
how badly I was shattered.
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is a false statement in
my opinion. Although not dead, I am weaker now. Maybe the strength
stage comes later?
It actually does come later.
You should message me if
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I'm open to being friends with anyone as long as we like some of
the same things. I prefer meeting quickly, rather than having
lengthy correspondences. You can't fully trust what you gather
about someone only through online contact. No amount of
correspondence or photos can inform you of what it will actually be
like when face-to-face. And, ultimately, that's the bit that
A word of warning: I can be a very tiring person.
Sometimes it's because I've been bottling stuff inside and it so
desperately needs to comes out, while I'm trying my hardest not to
let it, resulting in some mumbled words in half-finished sentences.
When I get like that, it's best if I spend a bit of time by myself
and get some sleep. Otherwise, chances are that the mumbling will
go on and on, or get worse and worse.
Other times, I just talk too much, or analyze things too
extensively, and I get super into whatever I'm talking about and
don't notice that I have bored the listener to tears. My interests
can also be rather obscure, or too abstract/mathematical when
others just want to relax.
I'm frequently told to relax, but what they don't realy understand
is that talking about my interests is what relaxes me most. I can
only relax when I'm active. And I'm always fidgeting and a bit
restless, unless I'm happy where I am and then I'm quite often
super impassioned by whatever I'm talking about. No matter how you
look at it, I am tiring for others and all my best friends know
that sometimes it's ok to just ignore me. I don't mind. In fact I
appreciate it, cause I don't want to annoy anyone.
It's really really hard to offend me and I appreciate more than
anything when people feel free to tell me to leave if they want me
to go, or to let me know when I did something that bothered
But you shouldn't be wary of meeting me in real life for the first
time. I've met many people from okcupid and I don't think I've ever
made anyone uncomfortable. My only request is that you ask yourself
if you'd be happy to make a new friend and write to me only if the
answer is "yes", but a "yes" that doesn't mean you'll just be
making a compromise when in fact you wanted more (sex, love,
I don't "date" off the internet. I don't date at all actually,
cause I don't really like naming my relationships with others.
Pretty much everyone is in one big soup of friends, and it's kinda
hard to say which ones I'm dating, which ones are my fuck-buddies,
which I feel more romantic about, and which ones are friends with
which none of these has yet happened. Each person is unique and I
think it lacks delicacy to start placing them in categories. I
don't like to be labeled and I don't label.
Don't message me if you have a very specific agenda, like you're
looking for the love of your life or your next lay. For those who
seek a certain type of person, I assure you, either I am not your
type, or I am, but you're not mine.
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