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45 Santa Clara, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:47pm
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
My self-summary
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"There are only two choices in life. Love and fear. Choose love, and never let fear turn you against your playful heart." --Jim Carrey, actor, comedian

I'm on a journey of self-awareness, of discovery, of growth.

Love to play, be sarcastic, tease a bit, challenge you & make you think. I am a hell of a kisser. What turns you on?

I'm sharp, articulate, witty (often dry), warm, open-hearted, kind, affectionate, supportive, passionate, thoughtful, sexy, ggg, like to be still, like to be active, compassionate, good listener, like non-verbal communication, giver, sharer, always strive to be present, silly, funny, like to laugh my ass off. With you.

I seek a woman with some of these same qualities, yet I also look forward to celebrating the many that make you, you.

I like to run, chase ya, hike and camp among the trees, mountains and ocean, bike in pools, swim on trails, be a goofball, cook, turn up the music, dance, watch and participate in sports, check out antiques or go to a workshop, and lots of other things (Ireland and Italy are on my travel list). What brings you joy? What are your passions? What's important to you?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Connecting, growing, experiencing, smiling, giving fear the finger... and being a kick ass copywriter (have my own business).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, hugs, making others feel at ease (my calm presence), touch, talking and being quiet, making you smile and laugh...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Height. Eyes. Smile. Laugh. Hands. Voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A hint of each...
Book: Kitchen Confidential
Show/Movie: Trading Places
Music: Peter Gabriel
Food: Antipasto (one of the many things I love about California is outside seating at restaurants)

Something most people don't know about me:

I did standup comedy in college. Hm, wait...maybe that's the reason most people don't know that about me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
More than six:
Sleep, my imagination, warmth (human and climate), the people I love, music, nature, inner peace, touch, laughter, learning, growing, giving, sharing, meditation, books, spontaneity, sex

Those I can do without:
social norms, entitlement, love-to-arguers and controllers, the relationship escalator, labels, unrealistic expectations, being vetted/interviewed outside of my work life, should's, workaholism, flakiness, hypergamy, the standard narrative, the Cinderella complex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

Life gives us many opportunities to connect with others. Be it a minute, hour, years or for the rest of our lives. Be it a new friend, lover, partner... .
I choose to never let another one of these opportunities pass me by.

If you can relate to any of this, then we're already connected.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably being atypical.
You should message me if
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you are committed to personal growth and are excited to explore and experience new adventures. You're also interested in pushing beyond your comfort zone to explore more and different things. You bring something to the table. You have a good sense of yourself and humor. You share some of the characteristics I've mentioned and are also wonderfully different. You want to share your truth and your heart.