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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22-38
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Yesterday – 1:06pm
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5' 8" (1.73m)
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! I'm a cheerful geek with a sense of humor and at least 4 hats.

I do have a girlfriend, and yes, she does know I'm on this site. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to achieve the right balance of minimalism (focus on what matters!) and maximalism (do all the things!) For example: I'm trying to do a really excellent job as a computer programmer while still making space for the ridiculous and sublime.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Well, I wouldn't say I'm "good at" bass guitar yet, but I'm trying!

I'd also like to think I have a gift for metaphors and analogies. In high school, I put that gift to use writing angsty poetry. Now that I'm no longer angsty, it's a talent in search of an application.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out! that I'm unusually well-dressed for a computer programmer. Admittedly, this is like being the fastest sloth in the jungle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Oh, I can (and will) go on and on about music! As I type this, I'm listening to Justice (French techno), and I couldn't live without Depeche Mode or Nine Inch Nails. And Aesop Rock and El-P and, uh, sea shanties. (Long story!)

For movies, I'm an omnivore. Halloween just passed, and I'm still on a bit of a horror kick. Last night was the original Night of the Living Dead, vastly improved by the Rifftrax guys.

TV shows? --I'm going through Rome right now, and when I need a break from the pathos, Futurama and Monty Python.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. York peppermint patties
2. My friends, here and around the world
3. Strongbow cider
4. Blue skies (for cheer) and gray skies (for mood)
5. Rookworst and andijve-stamppot (ik ben goed ingeburgerd)
6. My girlfriend (see "my self-summary", above)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Urbanism, the Dutch social model, American politics, music of all stripes, and whether Heineken is overrated, underrated, or exactly-right-rated.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, the fact that I'm in an open relationship (non-monogamy, poly, whatever) is already a private thing that I'm admitting! ;-)
You should message me if
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... you're reading this and wondering, "should I message him?" A few years ago I decided that, when in doubt, I should say "yes," and it's worked out very well for me. (It's why I'm in Amsterdam in the first place!) I'd recommend you do the same!