I'm full of great contradictions that only seem like contradictions. A reluctant but sincere monogamist. Very interested in sex but not looking for other sex partners. A prudish libertine. High-school dropout but a college graduate. An excellent cook who enjoys dining out. An ex-homeless person and an ex-millionaire. Straight but not narrow. Solitary writer and gregarious talker. Serious thinker and lighthearted jokester. Manly feminist. All that and a non-judgmental curmudgeon too.
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Even though I'm not looking for romance, danger, or lust the people OK Cupid recommends seem like genuinely interesting, generally wonderful people. Who'd want to stop reading about people it would be nice to know in real life?
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Editorial Comment: Based on what I know about OKC's algorithms and some of their seemingly wildly off-base "you might like..." suggestions, I get the feeling a lot of people would find better matches if their answers reflected what they really feel instead of what they think the "right" answer is. Because, seriously?
"You might like" 45% enemies, 62% matches" suggests a lot of people are looking for people say they aren't. Now, where was I?

Oh yeah, I also have a reasonably popular but semi-anonymous blog about the sociology and politics of sex, relationships, and gender.

After almost 15 years of life as a stay-at-home dad I'm beginning to explore turning my interest in adult sex education into a writing and training career.

I came here because I was curious about matching services and OkCupid seems like a good one. I'm not looking for relationships but I'm always interested in making new friends as long as we all keep our pants on. Oh yeah, and also once I noticed the "blog this" button on question pages I started using it for questions that I might otherwise have skipped. Anyway if you're into that sort of thing you can find more in-depth answers on my Read Journal page.

I'm a stay at home dad, a writer, an almost full-time sex blogger, photographer, an occasional musician, an excellent cook, and I do all that and more on any given seven day period.

Reading, 'riting, and 'rithmetic (but not, evidently, spelling.) Kissing. Parenting. Photography. Cooking for family and friends. Playing guitar, banjo, mandolin, dobro, pedal steel. Learning other musical instruments (e.g. saxophone, flute, other band instruments.) History and philosophy. Socializing. Almost anything you can do with your hands including knitting, leatherwork, neck and shoulder massages, metal work, and putting band-aids on owies.

First thing? A sometimes infuriatingly cheery disposition, even when I think I'm being cranky. Other than that I'm tall (taller than I think), fairly broad shoulders, large hands.

Music? The kind I can play myself so mostly acoustic. Food? Italian, Chinese, Indian, classic American, carrot-cruncher healthy hippy -- again all of which I can cook very well. Books? Mostly non-fiction dealing with relationships, gender, human sexuality, and political or social theory. I also enjoy science fiction and some fantasy -- but not enough to go to conventions or wear corrugated foreheads for. Movies? Lately I've been devouring fringe TV programming on DVD -- Veronica Mars, Firefly, HEX, Wooster and Jeeves, Monk.

Specific recent (and recommended) books: - Esther Perel's "Mating in Captivity" - Murray S. Davis's "Smut: Everyday Reality - Obscene Ideology" - Ladas, Whipple & Perry's "The G-Spot" - Shulamith Firestone's "The Dialectics of Sex" - Elizabeth Abbott's "A History of Celibacy" - Stephanie Coontz: Marriage, a History - Joan Sewell's "I'd Rather Eat Chocolate" - Ehrenreich & English's "For Her Own Good" - Heather Corrina's "S.E.X."

Also shouldn't a web-based networking site also prompt for favorite websites?!? Just askin'

Coffee or other hot beverages, children (mine and other people's), friends, quiet time, music, things to talk and write about. Oh, and number seven would be sex. Oops, no, seven would be computers which means (yikes!) sex would be eighth.

sex and human sexuality, gender equality issues, progressive politics, child-raising, relationships, grocery shopping and cooking

Home till family bedtime, then probably writing till the early hours of the morning.

These all seem to related to my experience with OkCupid.

That I'm chagrined beyond measuring that the dang "OkCupidTest" branded me a "The Playboy..." and then just as chagrined that when I retook it I wound up "the loverboy" -- allegedly the diametric opposite even though I didn't think I answered questions that differently.

Ironically, despite being a highly progressive sex blogger I'm not at all embarrassed that I registered as "prude" on the Janus Sex Positive quiz (since it's insufficiently dimensional.)

Also totally baffled how answering non-homophobically shows up in quiz results as androgyny; how not freaking out about if others choose to take (some) drugs makes me into drugs. What's with that anyway?

Finally, my darkest, most private secret is that I have incredibly poor "clerical speed and accuracy" skills. I'm totally going to own the errors but I've evidently answered some questions exactly backwards -- for instance I somehow managed to agree that I've "hunted for sport" even though the closest I've come to hunting *anything* was maybe fishing with my dad back in 2nd grade.

You want social, but not sexual, intercourse. Or more accurately, since most people want sex with somebody I mean social but not sexual intercourse with me!