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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 34-45
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 16
Relationship Type
6' 6" (1.98m)
Body Type
Average build
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Genius is Childhood Recovered at Will"--Charles Baudelaire

I'll make an honest attempt here at the good, the bad, and the ugly. The simple stuff: I'm tall, so I hit my head a lot and don't fit in many cars or most economy class seats in planes. I love the city, but need to escape frequently and perhaps am really more of a country person at heart, ie this means I am not married to any one place on the planet. I have a very solid group of friends and family that I know will always be there and that in many ways makes the possibility of living in far off places more comforting. As for NYC, I once took some quirky Time Out survey of where I should live in the city and landed as a 50/50 Manhattan/Brooklyn person, whatever the hell that means.

I love peace and tranquility, learning, experiencing new things. Travel is like my imagination played out in real life. I've "lived" (at least for a few months at a time) in Paris, Bangkok, Beijing, Amman........and there are other places on the list I'd fact a few months a year in Paris or Rome is a serious consideration if a counterpart doesn't come up with a better idea ;). I love art, good books, good film; another escape into my imagination. My work includes seeing patients in the emergency room, teaching MPH students, and working on a project in 11 countries in Africa. It's pretty cool :) I'm a very easy going and happy person; I really don't make a big deal about the little shit, nor should you, or we may be engaged in battle often. Having said that I am laid back, all true, let's call it what it is: I'm 45 and never married so I am somewhat set in my ways, and while I am a bit stubborn, I'm aware of the importance of compromise if I want to share a life with someone (yes, this should have been more than one sentence, stream of ideas, what can I say). I'll be patient if you'll be patient :).

I'm active, cycle, play in a winter basketball league, and occasionally head to the gym; thinking about getting into more long distance rides (I hate running :) ) and while I rarely do it, love to kayak. I have (ironically perhaps?) become more active as I've gotten a bit older; perhaps being in medicine and seeing how out of shape so many of my 30-50 yo patients are inspires me :).

My brother and has family, including one niece and one nephew, live in Westchester. I have a great relationship with my parents who are still in the Midwest and together since 1965, happily! I'm passionate about cooking, and spent time improving my outcomes (sometimes!!) at Le Cordon Bleu in Paris for 3 months. Wine, Belgian beer, and brown liquor make me happy. I sometimes eat too much and drink too much, but I have a hell of a lot of fun.

In addition to the Baudelaire quote, I love the following that I think also over a glimpse into my brain:

“If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”--E.B. White

" Not only is another world possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing"--Arundhati Roy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it*. Learning*. Exploring*. Having fun with friends. Trying to find grant $$ to fund my work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. Drinking. Sometimes writing. Always being up for anything and (almost) everything.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile a lot. Perhaps too often. Maybe you can teach me to scowl.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Enjoy fiction and nonfiction both. Currently (June 2015) COLOR, a great history of just that; recently one of the fascinating first novels I've ever read, The Evolution of Bruno Littlemore. Shantaram, A Fine Balance (brilliant), A Prayer for Own Meany, The Drifters, In the Country of Men, The Autobiography of Henry the VIII, War in a Time of Peace, Love in the Time of Cholera.

Films........ahhh, so many. I try to see at last a film every couple weeks, sometimes more often. Recently saw The Grand Budapest Hotel, and Particle Fever, both great.

Music--played classical on the piano for about 10 years, still love it, but my tastes are varied. Flamenco guitar. Go to see jazz in the city fairly often, prefer live Blues however. A Love Supreme and Kind of Blue are tremendous albums. Have been 3 Xs to Ibiza and danced all night, fun fun :)

Food and art. This will require a long and fun discussion.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Defining "things" with some latitude and perhaps not terribly creative: family, friends, my imagination, books, my kitchen, touch (you could add good wine/beer, passport, music, art, film, a really nice espresso, sublime olive oil..........mmmmmm, that should do me)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My travel, the book(s) I want to write, new adventures to pursue, the fairer sex, when I'm going to get more serious about my flamenco guitar and language studies, how to improve my work (ok, perhaps not quite enough time on this one)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending it over a meal with friends, or lazily recovering from my week!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an open book
You should message me if
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I'm cute enough to you to at least go on a first date and we have some things in common. Some important things I look for: you're nonjudgmental, kind, and give a hoot about the world; you believe that intellectual curiosity is fundamental to a happy life; you believe that in addition to love and a strong supratentorial connection, that sex is an important and frequent part of a health relationship; food, wine, travel, creativity are important parts of your life; you're very comfortable in your own shoes; your greatest motivation is not money. You simply don't take life to seriously, except for those few things that really are serious!