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46 San Jose, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35-54
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 7
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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1) Please send a photo if there isn't one on your profile...I'd love to see your face.. .
2) Please include your first name when you email me, I find it much nicer to reply to a name than a nickname.
3) If you don't like big women, please don't reply. If you aren't at least sometimes in the Dallas area, please don't reply.
4) I'm not interested in ever being married, and while I'm open to deep, loving relationships, I am ethically non-monogomous. If marriage is your goal, we're not a good fit!
5) I'm pan-sexual and am not into gender stereotypes... I identify as queer. I love hanging out with other people who gender bend!

Here's what you can expect from me:
1) After a few email exchanges, if there is chemistry, we can meet for coffee ...real coffee, not "coffee"/hanky panky ;)
2) If coffee goes well, we can find another time to get together.
3) The second meeting may include a meal or coffee.
4) I take things slow. After a few dates, if there is chemistry, there may be hanky panky- which can mean kissing, touching, or massage exchange. It really depends on what is mutually agreeable and what feels safe and right for both. If I don't feel safe and ready, I don't go there. Taking it slow can be delicious!

My intention is to date and create connection with fun, intelligent, warm people. I want people to have coffee with, dinner with, and physical connection with. I love relationship/sex-geeks and those who know that sex and intimacy are more than what they show in sit-coms.

I love spending time with people who are up to things, creating something new in the world. I enjoy discussing ideas for marketing from a mission/touch people's lives point of view, and brainstorming new ideas. Collaboration turns me on!

About me:
I am smart, love to laugh, sensual, and take things slow.

I am energetically sensitive, the flow of energy is delicious to me. I would love to explore that more, exchanging that with an aware man.

I am looking for a healing, caring interaction that includes laughter, sensual touch and conversation.

I require clear boundaries and intentions and am willing to share same. No drama, or games.

If you'd like to get my attention, feel free to share 1) what makes you laugh, 2) a funny dating story, 3) if this were the only opportunity to get to know me, what would you like me to know?

My Ideal Person: Self-aware, looking to connect deeply without needing to own or possess.

Energetically powerful and respectful.

Great boundaries.

Safe, gentle, intelligent, strong sense of humor, clean.
What I’m doing with my life
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Following my passion and creating what's important to me. I'm an engineer and I do online marketing and relationship coaching. I have a lot of fun, exciting things going on and I enjoy hanging out with people who are excited about life and eager to create.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and sharing honestly. Enjoying humor.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile.
My laugh.
My eyes.
Soft skin.
Sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love Connie Willis, have read the DoomsDay book bunches of times. Ayn Rand. The 5 Love Languages. Radical Honesty. The Mechanic, Harry Potter, Easy A. I like most music, usually too busy to listen to a lot of it. I enjoy lots of different kinds of food- sushi, thai, mexican, italian, seafood... as long as it's not spicy!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Laughter, love, good friends, a passion to follow, curiosity, touch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Connection, truth, laughter, courage.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either working or out with friends, occasionally I'll end up home with my feet up and a good movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Look at my questions- I answered openly...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You enjoy laughing, and want to find someone to enjoy some time without trying to control or possess. I love spending time with people who are creating something that is important and inspiring to them. No expectations.