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TantraTom

49 / M / Straight / Single

Oceanside, California

His Details

Last Online
May 18
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m).
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity but not too serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
OK, a few ladies have pointed out that a lot of what I wrote in my profile makes me sound like a player, I'm not ... keep reading. If you find me interesting, send me a note. I'm busy because I'm successful and your taking the first step counts for a lot with me. I give more than my fair share in a relationship, but don't like to have to initiate everything.

I'm looking for an emotional partner and a lover. I am not looking for a maid, a cook or just someone to do my laundry. I want someone who will SHARE these responsibilities WITH me and share all aspects of our lives together. Someone to love me and who wants me to love them completely... Someone who complements my abilities, not just mirrors them ... someone with whom we can explore and fulfill each others fantasies!

If you want to feel real love, to be held and FEEL really loved, journey there with me. I like girl next door types (think Marianne, not Ginger), though a dress makes any woman look even more beautiful. I'm very old fashioned in that small way, also I still hold doors for women, even strangers. But I'm very progressive in most other ways. You can be assured that I will read and consider all inquires because I know how difficult it is to take that chance and throw your heart out there. Go ahead and send a few sentences. So take a chance and let me know if you are interested and want to find out more about how compatible we might be. Give me a chance if I contact you. Too often people say there is "no spark" after just one date or conversation. Do you want a flash-pot relationship that ends as quickly as it began? or do you want that slow burn that lasts all night ... or a lifetime? It's your call, but I'm looking for the latter.

I am honest, loving, and generous with the one that I love. Care to find out if you're the one? .... send me a message.
What I’m doing with my life
Working! and searching for that special woman. Fixing up and settling into my house and enjoying new entertainment activities. Building friendships and helping out friends and others when I can.
The first things people usually notice about me
...are not the things that stick with them. I have a lot of hidden talents and qualities, not the least of which is being a good friend. You have to get to know me to appreciate what is there waiting for you to discover. Let's discover one another.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Cash Flow Quadrant
Who Moved My Cheese?
Attitudes of Gratitude

Saving Pvt Ryan
Exit to Eden
The Last Samurai
Fools Rush In

Nickelback!! Staind
.38 Special & Molly Hatchet
Pat Benetar, Evanescence

Sushi, I like all kinds of food, but leaning more toward healthier foods lately.
The six things I could never do without
The hope of finding love, massages, did I mention I give a great massage? sleep, friendships, trust, being in and around nature.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sharing my life with that special someone who I'm still looking for. Finding someone who can love as much as I do and who can express it!
On a typical Friday night I am
Dinners, comedy clubs, camping, concerts, motorcycle rides, movies, whatever. ... and hoping I'll find you!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
A gentleman never tells .... but, your toys don't scare me.
Love is worth fighting for but can only be won by surrendering.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
... you want a sincere, caring, loyal man who can and will do his very best to fulfill your every fantasy and work hard to keep you excited about being together the rest of our lives. ...you like to be treated like a lady and appreciated for the Goddess in you.

If you've read this far, go ahead and message me, I like a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to go after it.