Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Highlights… Born in South Africa…but moved to Boston when I was a
kid. Lived in a few different places, and spent a year in Israel,
went to college in Philadelphia and graduate school in Chicago. I
spent a couple of years racing my bicycle semi professionally (and
when I say semi...I suppose I should say semi semi semi...). But
the upside...I got to workout all day long...and shave my
legs...without even having to be gay (not that there is anything
wrong with that... :-)). I earned enough if I was lucky to get me
to the next race.
I’m now a father of three incredible boys…which I consider it a
true privilege to be their father. It isn’t a right or an
obligation…but rather a pure privilege.
Phew...I'm tired already.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE? What...have you been talking to my
mother? Did she ask you to ask me this question?
I wish I could tell you that I'm working on a solution to world
hunger, bringing peace to the middle east and figuring out why your
chocolate got stuck in my peanut butter...but I have the privilege
of running a couple of companies...between that and being a fully
committed dad...my days seem to get filled. Oh yeah...and searching
for you. A seemingly full time job in itself. Would you quit
hiding? Come on out. I'm over here... Marco?.....Polo!...
With a bit more seriousness, I don't think what I'm looking for is
so simple...but then again...if it was...OK Cupid wouldn't be
making a bunch of money off of all of us. Being direct, I'm
somewhere in the middle of searching for 'Mrs. Right'...and my
'Mrs. Right Now'. Personally...I find it empty searching for Mrs.
Right Now...but overly limiting searching for Mrs. Right.
Frankly...I'm not even sure she exists. That being said, I do enjoy
trying to make new connections. No...that isn't code for a one
night stand sex romp. It is English for...I don't want to only
expose myself to the potential Mrs. Right...and if she isn't
her...sever all relationship. Forgive me...but I enjoy meeting new
people...and if I'm lucky...making a new friend. So... I welcome
the chance to meet new people...but please don't plan on me asking
you to marry me within the first 100 or so dates. :-). That seems
to be way to much pressure...and way to limiting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
*Self Reflection (Did I really just say that? Why?)
*Laughing at the world....and almost everything in it.
*I'm even better...at laughing at myself (feel free to join
in...all are welcome.)
*Being a father (I know this for a fact... When my one son was was
four he gave me a "#1 Dad" sign he won with his tickets at Dave
& Busters... He couldn't have given it to me if it wasn't
*Being honest (with myself and others)
*Playing cards (not necessarily proud of it...but that wasn't the
*I've been told kissing (soft lips)...but I suggest you find out
Wow...kind of a short list. I better get back to my self help
guide. A lot to work on....
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
First of all, I hope it isn't my picture in the post office. It's
so hard to get a good profile shot. And orange jumpsuits really
aren't my color. I don't think they go well with my eyes. Other
than that...I don't know. Never really asked. If you tell me...I'll
be able to answer this question with better clarity. Maybe back in
the day....it was my shaved legs...(see above).
I would hope that the thing they remember is my sense of humor. If
I made you laugh...it was a good day.
(This all being said, what does it matter what other people
notice...it only matters what you think. The rest are of no
consequence at this point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm not deflecting the question...but the mix is too eclectic to
mention. Also, I sort of live in the now. I don't spend much time
reflecting on passed experiences. Additionally...I admit that I
have a poor memory...so I don't easily recall all of my life's
experiences. This being said...
Movies- Breaking Away (no...I didn't go to Indiana)
Music- A lot...but basic classic rock and blues is a strong
Food- Almost anything. Dive bar over fancy french restaurant
It isn't the thing that is memorable...it's the who that I was with
when I did it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My sense of humor
(sorry...I couldn't come up with another two...These four are
enough for me. I'm not greedy. :-))
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well...in truth...I don't spend a lot of time dwelling on
I have a job where there seems to be a new crisis each day. I spend
my time dealing with the issues of the day...not worrying too much
about tomorrow. I'll worry about that when tomorrow comes.
This being said...every time I'm on this site I do spend time
wondering...given how many women can "easily go from jeans and
sandals to a black tie affair"...How many black tie affairs are
people going too? I might get invited to one...maybe two a year.
(And that's an overstatement. Am I really that much of a social
leper...missing out on hundreds of black tie affairs?). Is it
really that much of a skill set to be able to peak on those two
days? And that supposes that you were first out hiking in some
forest before the event and had to rush home to get ready.
Interesting. I guess I have to learn to live on the edge more.
Sometimes I do wonder though how long it will take to go from the
little black dress to nothing... But that is a completely different
Okay...I just added this piece...but it might get me in trouble.
Being honest...after spending time on this site...I've been
wondering a lot if most women look at each other's profiles prior
to submitting their own. This is the only explanation I can come up
with for the fact that so many women share the somewhat strange
desire to post self taken profile pictures in the bathroom
and....somewhat more remarkably....while driving the car. It occurs
way too often to be a randomn coincidence...yet I can't help but
wonder who was the bright instigator of this tradition... who
thought that the most flattering way to present oneself to the
opposite sex (or same sex as the case might be) was the bathroom?
Worse yet...in some cases...a public bathroom. Really? Is it just
me...or am I missing something here? While I'm willing to admit
that I might be limited in my own circle of friends, it seems
prudent to me to even ask a stranger to take the pix...albeit
probably not in the bathroom or while driving the car. (As an avid
photographer...and in the interests of serving my fellow
humanity...I'll offer to help take those pix if it helps
reduce/eliminate the number of bathroom self portraits...no offense
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Every other Friday I have my kids...so that's an easy answer. WHEN
I'M WITH THEM...well...Paintball, sports, Play Station, Movies,
D&B. Didn't I say I had three boys? On the Friday nights when
I'm not with them...well...Paintball, sports, Play Station, Movies,
Somewhat more seriously...on the other Friday nights...I could tell
you that I usually spend it at the orphanage, homeless shelter or
working on my solutions to Foucaults equations...but I'd be
Most likely, I would be at the gym, playing poker, a date, vegging
at home. I know...exciting stuff...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Okay...this is very personal...so please don't tell anyone!
I do like pina coladas (I know...it's embarrassing)
I also like getting caught in the rain (but not when it's
I really really like the feel of the ocean (and smell and the
BUT...I don't really like the taste of champagne...
I'm not really in to yoga (but it is probably time I tried
I do like making love at midnight in the dunes by the cape (or 1:00
a.m or 2:00 a.m. or...any other time...but the sand gets all
So please...don't tell anyone...it will be our little secret!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Being very honest...You should message me if you want to have a
lighthearted conversation...an exciting evening...and wild
outbursts of laughter. Whatever happens after that...who knows....
(I suppose I could be somewhat irreverent and tell you that you
should message me if you want a really good massage...but
thankfully I'm more tactful than that).
Seriously...I was married for sixteen years. I've been
separated/divorced for over three years. I take my responsibility
as a father very seriously...although it is completely fun. I'm
very financially secure...and just enjoying this point in my life.
I've sowed my wild oats...so to speak. I'm not looking for a one
night stand...but I'm also not looking for my soul mate. She might
just appear...but I'm not searching her out.
If your next date is an interview for your future husband...I'm
probably not that guy.
If your next date is an opportunity for you to really enjoy
yourself, expand your horizons...and laugh out loud...have a free
spirited conversation...maybe a nice meal...then feel free to
Oh...and I'm almost embarrassed by this... But for whatever reason
I'm kind of shy in making the first move... So please feel free to
As for the second move...I hope you don't blush easily.
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