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45 Minneapolis, MN Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 42-52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:33pm
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Someday, I’ll sit for hours on my porch and write my story. I’ll start with a glorious weeping willow tree falling in slow motion in the pouring rain, landing just shy of my feet…a dramatic moment marking the end of life in a big house with a big yard (sans my favorite tree) in the suburbs and the beginning of one in a bungalow a few blocks from the mighty Mississippi. I know with certainty the people who remain permanent characters in my story and those whose part is over. I’ve learned that it’s important to understand this distinction.

I am a hero. Yes, that’s what I said. I am Erin Brockovich and Norma Ray with a splash of Valerie Plame and Robin Hood. I am both humble and proud. I work for the federal government and oversee an amazing crew doing a mix of law enforcement, social justice and business. As an old lady, I think I’ll be able to look back and have the sense that my investment of time and energy mattered...changing the world in some small way.

Doesn’t it go without saying that my story would be entirely empty without my daughters? They are my favorite company, my biggest fans, my advocates, my dishwashers, my passengers, my purpose. They keep my hero status in check. Last summer, I drove them 3,000 miles in a Honda Fit through the Blue Ridge Mountains and ultimately to Tybee Island, GA so we could see the country, spending countless hours together without screens. Believe me, it wasn’t perfect but one thing for certain – it was an adventure. I long for adventure. Always have.

Georgia O’keefe said – “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.” YES. I get it. I’ve taken my share of chances, experiencing incredible highs and lows. I don’t know any other way to be. Maybe what you want to know is whether I eat meat (yes), attend church (no), how many days a week I exercise (daily – at least I try), my salary (I’ll tell you later), whether I smoke (nope). I suppose all those things indicate some level of compatibility. But the more interesting question is - what’s your story? And, will you play a part in mine?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
This question reminds of John Lennon's quote: “When I was five years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy.” They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. I told them they didn’t understand life.”

I'm pretty busy being a hero (see above).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking about things (see below), hablando espanol, making waffles, public speaking, being a pilot or co-pilot on a roadtrip, taking pictures, reading books out loud to kids, strategizing, listening, negotiating, remembering where on the page in the Code of Federal Regulations the answer to a question can be found
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that I'm a Spanish speaking redhead
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Written words
Isabel Allende stories, Jane Austen characters, Walt Whitman & Mary Oliver poetry, Robert Reich commentaries

Movies, shows, music
Louie, House of Cards, Colbert Report, The Descendents, Moonrise Kingdom, and there's nothing like live theater.

Andrew Bird, Calexico, Bon Iver, Chambao, The Cure, Hansard, Mariza, Ojos de Brujo, the Smiths, Emmylou, Joni, Neko Case, Florence, Trampled by Turtles, Buika, Buena Vista Social Club, Juanes, salsa,, foreign/local.

Food spots
Adams Morgan neighborhood in DC, Beale Street in Memphis, Giovanni's shrimp truck on Oahu's north shore AND BLG, Birchwood Cafe, Victory 44, Blue Door, Punch Pizza, Sample Room, On's Thai Kitchen, Taco Taxi, Origami, Kopplin's Coffee, Izzy's Ice Cream.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
warmth, water, fresh air, fresh food, kiddos, a sense of community
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How can I stop thinking so that I can get some sleep? What time should we leave so we're not late? Is time slipping by too quickly? What's for dinner? Does an egg processing facility qualify for the agriculture exemption under the FLSA? When you meet the right person, is it readily apparent? Did the person that sewed my jeans or harvest these strawberries earn a livable wage? Am I late? What ARE the first things people notice about me?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
debriefing, unwinding, cooking, sipping a glass of wine, catching a film at the Riverview
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Simon and Garfunkel's Bridge Over Troubled Water makes me weepy.
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