So...don't embarrass yourself when approaching me. A female's Parenting skills and her Character is attractive. Not her Looks. If you're still using looks as your best impression...always remember: ONLY dogs and flies go for the meat. Real Men want women that MATTER. And only Boys want what they see.
Now with that said:
Ladies...Respect yourself. Being a DIVA OR TOUGH is a complete turnoff and it shows the lack of maturity you STILL carry. Talking and acting tough when WE ALL know...inside lives a soft lil lady screaming for attention and solace with someone who will care for you, protect you, defend you, guide you, teach you, provide for you and your children...is what is really shown in your "rules" you have for the "next man." Having your rules for the next guy only gets the door to the right man shut in your face.
You don't have to show skin, or brag on your mothering skills, or act like you are so independent and you have the world floating around you...because REAL men (who DON'T have the heart to hurt females)...see right through the talk. It's easy to read in your words about the hurt and the pain other men caused...and the loneliness that caresses your heart every night you lay there and wonder where the right guy is for you.Trying to pretend like it doesn't matter is why the cycle is never broken and you continue the search. Respect yourself.
All you have to do is be a beautiful woman INSIDE.
REAL men can pick you out in a valley full of flowers if you smell right. Men smell the flowers all day...some flowers smell nice..but are actually weeds. Some flowers grow tall and look beautiful...but end up being poison and irritating when touched. Then, there are flowers who are just radiant with simplicity and strength of perseverance and they have crafted such a beautiful smell that can not be ignored.
......REAL men...take home the BEST flower for Mother's Day...Truth Told.