Establishing a solid, legitimate friendship with the possibility of potentially upgrading to romantic relationship later.
Guys who like the same books I like.
Guys who LOVE READING.
Guys who are kind.
Guys who love their mothers.
Guys who have lots of female friends.
Guys who have actual skills, hobbies, and talents that would be useful/marketable in the event of the apocalypse (zombie or otherwise) (such skills might include: making ANY physical object (ie: woodworking, metalwork, any fiber art), music, drawing, building things, cooking.)
Guys who like learning to do things they don't know how to do.
Guys who are passionate and enthusiastic about things.
Guys with a greater emotional capacity than that of a brick.
Guys who can dance (proper dancing, not this newfangled tomfoolery all the kids are doing these days).
Guys who LIKE WOMEN (this does NOT, i repeat, NOT refer to sexuality in any way. You can be a heterosexual male and still not really like women.)
Guys who get dressed up to go on dates.
Guys who aren't so insecure in their sexuality that they can do things like admit that another guy is objectively attractive.
Guys who don't think that periods or menstrual accoutrements (ie: tampons, pads) are gross.
Guys who really don't think it's a big deal to go out and buy said menstrual accoutrements (it's the same as buying toilet paper, everyone knows where you're gonna put that.)
Guys who hold doors open without bitching about "chivalry" later.
Guys who are interested in academic subjects like history and science.
Guys who have a damn job.
Guys who have a damn job that they're excited and passionate about.
Guys who like videos of kittens.
HERE IS WHAT I AM ***NOT*** LOOKING FOR:
One night stands.
Guys who wear their hats sideways.
Guys who pop their collars.
Guys who make the duck face in photographs.
Guys who don't pay attention and listen when I'm speaking.
Guys who can't follow directions.
Guys who think "Go make me a sandwich" is funny.
Guys who do drugs, drink heavily, or smoke.
Strangers who call me sweetheart.
(I maintain the right to add to this list as necessary.)
I do not find ignorance attractive. I'm also a former English major and a 5-time NaNoWriMo winner, and my Big Dream is to be able to support myself writing novels. I am a feminist -- if you recoil at this, then 1) you don't understand what feminism is about, and 2) you're wasting your time here. We will not get along. Move on.
I published my first novel about two years ago. Y'know, like you do. If you're interested, you can check it out here: http://alexandrarowland.wordpress.com/books/
I would recommend looking at my "You should message me if" section. I would HIGHLY recommend this.