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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 2:37am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Trying to quit
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I believe there is no one right way to live and I live as if no one owes me anything. My way is no better than anyone else's. Feminist, maybe, more like egalitarian. Definitely sex positive.

A co-worker once said that she thinks that I'm so far out side the box that I've left everyone else behind. I told her that I've covered the box in dark purple glitter and exploded it. What ever that means.

My boss says I'm too positive. Yet my tastes would say otherwise.

I was in the Army and the Army National Guard. I loved what I did, though that may be because I never saw combat. It did take me to Korea and Yakima, two of my now favorite places. I miss the woods where I grew up. I spent a lot of time there alone and with friends. A favorite place now gone.

I'm a children's casemanger for a mental health center. I've worked in mental health for the last 8 years, I excel dealing with crisis though flounder with paperwork which are both products of my strange mind. I can be brilliant and laid back. Or pacing and aggravated trying to figure out how to spell a 5th grade vocabulary word. Dyslexia. Yeah.

I'm looking for a relationship that progresses without an ultimate goal, let's see where it takes us there are many options. <----- cheesy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking for a new job that's closer to home, doing interesting things with the oddest of people, and caring for my children.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people, being truthful and tactful. Listening to others. Using spell check. Antagonizing uncomfortable conversations with out making people feel out of place.

* they should add Pig Latin as a language on here.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Long hair---- I cut my hair! It's all gone! Yup no more hair... at least for a while----and forked beard, and/or my blue eyes. Some people find me as an intimidating metal head or mistake me for a hippy. I share qualities of both.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I've read books, I watch very little TV, movies are nice, mostly whatever is on Netflix. I watch cartoons, sometimes with my kids. I spend too much time on the computer.

I prefer Metal or alternative rock with a strong blues influence, mellow or darker tones. Fast and a strong beat. Dance music in most forms and with a little help from alcohol you may be able to get me on the dance floor. I love the sounds of a cello, french horn, kettle drums. I'll listen to classical and pull out my favorite instruments. Not a fan of most jazz or some pianos for some reason. I mostly listen to 96.5 (alternative) and 89.3 (npr) out of Kansas City.

I am not a fan of country music. I mostly think it's me denying the red neck side of my family.

I like listening to audio books because it's faster for me and I have a 45 minute commute each way.

Food? I don't eat onions or bell peppers, I love Mexican or Italian, I love spicy, I love home cooked meals, I'll try anything, not a big sea food fan, I'll eat most Asian (Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Veitnamese) too. Complex meals are good but a simple noodle dish is fine. I miss real cheese steaks and you can't go wrong with hoagies, New York or Chicago pizza. (Pizza in most forms) I guess I can say I appreciate regional foods as well.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children, ice water,Companionship (stolen) , a meaningful job, fresh air or the smell of a Pennsylvania forest (cheesy), the military taught me the value of a very hot shower.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What's next. Personal value.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With my children, I try not to waste a good Friday night. Board games, movie night with popcorn, or reading a long book. You should ask me what I do on Saturday nights...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm currently dating a married woman and her husband is cool with it. I'm open to new relationships of all types.
You should message me if
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You can get past the stereotypes of what a woman or a man should be. Are not self important. Understands cynicism as sarcasm. Can laugh at anything but understands the impact of everything (well almost everything).

Doesn't mind that I like to jump in puddles.

You are not afraid of messaging a guy first.

You'd like to meet me at a coffee shop, park or where ever of your choice.