39 Topeka, KS
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My self-summary
I believe there is no one right way to live and I live as if no one owes me anything. My way is no better than anyone else's. Feminist and egalitarian. Definitely sex positive. Polyamorus.

A co-worker once said that she thinks that I'm so far out side the box that I've left everyone else behind. I told her that I've covered the box in dark purple glitter and exploded it. What ever that means.

A boss once said I'm too positive. Yet my tastes would say otherwise.

I was in the Army and the Army National Guard. I loved what I did, though that may be because I never saw combat. It did take me to Korea and Yakima, two of my now favorite places. I miss the woods where I grew up. I spent a lot of time there alone and with friends. A favorite place now gone.

I've worked in mental health for the last 10 years, I excel dealing with crisis though flounder with paperwork which are both products of my strange mind. I can be brilliant and laid back. Or pacing and aggravated trying to figure out how to spell a 5th grade vocabulary word. Dyslexia
What I’m doing with my life
Doing interesting things with the oddest of people, and caring for my children.

Wondering if you are free.
Job interview on Monday.
I’m really good at
Reading people, being truthful and tactful. Listening to others. Using spell check. Antagonizing uncomfortable conversations with out making people feel out of place.

* they should add Pig Latin as a language on here.
The first things people usually notice about me
Long hair---- I cut my hair! It's all gone! Yup no more hair... at least for a while----and forked beard, and/or my blue eyes. Some people find me as an intimidating metal head or mistake me for a hippy. I share qualities of both.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've read books--- Harry Potter to Kurt Vonnegut, I watch very little TV, movies are nice, mostly whatever is on Netflix. I watch cartoons, sometimes with my kids. I spend too much time on the computer.

I like an eclectic mix like most people, with many of my favorites stemming from my teenage years. Though I find myself listening to alternative and NPR mostly and my kids have more stations on my Pandora than I do.

I am not a fan of country music. I mostly think it's me denying the red neck side of my family.

Food? I don't eat onions or bell peppers, I love Mexican or Italian, I love spicy, I love home cooked meals, I'll try anything, not a big sea food fan, Complex meals are good but a simple noodle dish is fine. I miss real cheese steaks and you can't go wrong with hoagies, New York or Chicago pizza. (Pizza in most forms) I guess I can say I appreciate regional foods as well.
The six things I could never do without
My children, ice water,Companionship (stolen) , a meaningful job, fresh air or the smell of a Pennsylvania forest (cheesy), the military taught me the value of a very hot shower.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Like the difficulty of women on dating sites to sift through their mailboxes to find actual people they are interested in. Like the limited number of people who subscribe to polyamory in non-metropolitan locations. Like the Syrian refugee situation and all of its complexity including the slim possibility of leading to World War 3.
On a typical Friday night I am
With my children, I try not to waste a good Friday night. Board games, movie night with popcorn, or reading a book to them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm currently dating a married woman and her husband is cool with it. I'm open to new relationships of all types.
You should message me if
You can get past the stereotypes of what a woman or a man should be. Are not self important. Understands cynicism as sarcasm. Can laugh at anything but understands the impact of everything (well almost everything).

Doesn't mind that I like to jump in puddles.

You are not afraid of messaging a guy first.

You'd like to meet me at a coffee shop, park or where ever of your choice.