Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am actively enjoying my life, and am only interested in people
who understand and pursue adventure and sustainable hedonism.
I am not your curl-up-with-a-book, nice dinner at home bisexual
polyamorous fantasy girl, at least not more than once a
If you want to ride motorcycles, scuba dive, garden, and discuss
how to create consent culture and how to end racism, then please
send me a message.
I'm kinda tired of being "exciting" and "so adventurous" and
otherwise perplexing to the mundane and mainstream. I want partners
who are full of life, who are passionate about something, and who
are willing to dance to the beat of their own accordion.
I came out as a lesbian in 1988, and figured out that I'm bi in
about 2002. I've been polyamorous since 1986, excluding my second
marriage from 1996 to 2004. I don't care what your sexual
orientation or gender identity is, so long as you find "queer" and
"feminist" to be sexy and have your jealousy issues reasonably well
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Revising it. Always.
Scuba diving in Monterey 1-3 weekends per month. Growing fresh
veggies. Riding my motorcycle. Contra dancing. Kissing.
Making mischief, making money, making sense, making social
Building community, building home improvement projects, building
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making awesome salads
Planning my next adventure
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The bright colors I'm wearing?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(a) Illusions, The Faggots and Their Friends Between Revolutions,
Touching our Strength, The Time Traveller's Wife.
More generally, Dorothy Allison
, Margeret Atwood
, Barbara Kingsolver
, Mercedes Lackey
and the obligatory dash of Robert Heinlein
, but I really see movies
fairly infrequently, and mostly in order to make the children I
care about happy. I am joyfully television-free
(c) the score to La Cage Aux Folles, Mary Chapin Carpenter, Indigo
Girls, Great Big Sea.
(d) Massaged kale salad, tomatoes from my garden, butternut squash
soup. I'm revising this in winter, and it shows. I grew up in New
Orleans, and maintain a love for some creole comfort food, while
opting to have my vegetables Not Usually Fried and Never
Overcooked. I've spent my adult life as a vegetarian, mostly as
"one who also eats seafood", but sometimes not. Fresh, organic, in
season, and low on the food chain are all things I care about in
food. I'm also diabetic and soy-avoidant, which I manage via a
pescatarian low-glycemic diet, so that makes me eat rather often
and somewhat curiously.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, love, sunshine, cheese, Internet access, good shoes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Relationships, menu planning, how to bring more joy into my life
and the world around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* Enjoying the company of friends
* At a baseball game
* Finding out who is wrong on the Internet
* Driving down to Monterey
* Very unlikely to be watching a recently-released movie or gaming
(though people I love are likely to be engaged in WoW, KoL or SL,
it isn't something I do personally).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Used to be: I have never met a linux sysadmin named Michael that I
haven't had sex with. But I've now met one, and while we might have
sex some day, it isn't on the near term agenda.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're a feminist who is experienced with polyamory/open
relationships and would like to meet me, date me, or have sex with
You have a backplate and wing, and don't mind diving with someone
who dives HP100s with 32%.
You're a queer polyamorous contra dancer. Location isn't that
important, as I schedule vacations to include contra dances;
If you let your life be inspired by a line from a Mary Oliver poem.
(one of my tattoos is quote from Wild Geese); or
If you're brilliant, can keep up your end of the conversation, and
can talk about sexual desires in a consent-based, non-creepy way.
Who are you looking for?
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