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42 Palo Alto, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–64
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:02am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Ancient Greek (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
ETA: just got my scuba certification and am seriously in love with scuba diving. Most of my partners dive (the one that doesn't also doesn't swim-- but she's utterly awesome). So, people who dive and/or live near dive locations on the west coast go to the top of the queue.

I'm a sorta-fat, sorta-butch, definitely bisexual, sex-positive feminist who lives on the peninsula and works in Silicon Valley. I foster kittens, I organize sex parties, I have an excellent life (though as a vegetarian, I'm still working on sucking the marrow out of it).

Things I love: femmes; women with curves; geeks; brains; books and their readers; cats and their minions; artisanal cheeses; fresh vegetables; most Asian cuisines, sunshine; sex; making soup; hosting parties; puttering around and doing home improvements; exploring; long conversations; deep kisses; the ends of the visual spectrum; liminal spaces; creating joy.

Things I prefer to avoid: Libertarians, prudes, misogynists, music that doesn't make me tap my toes or dance; alcohol as mandatory precursor to frivolity or intimacy; people who don't make my synapses fire.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Revising it. Always.

Growing fresh veggies. Riding my motorcycle. Contra dancing. Kissing.

Making mischief, making money, making sense, making social change.

Building community, building home improvement projects, building karma
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Making awesome salads


Planning my next adventure
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile.

The bright colors I'm wearing?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(a) Illusions, The Faggots and Their Friends Between Revolutions, Touching our Strength, The Time Traveller's Wife.

More generally, Dorothy Allison, Margeret Atwood, Michael Chabon, Barbara Kingsolver, Mercedes Lackey, Deborah Madison and the obligatory dash of Robert Heinlein.

(b) Dr. Strangelove and Casablanca, but I really see movies fairly infrequently, and mostly in order to make the children I care about happy. I am joyfully television-free.

(c) the score to La Cage Aux Folles, Mary Chapin Carpenter, Indigo Girls, Great Big Sea.

(d) Massaged kale salad, tomatoes from my garden, butternut squash soup. I'm revising this in winter, and it shows. I grew up in New Orleans, and maintain a love for some creole comfort food, while opting to have my vegetables Not Usually Fried and Never Overcooked. I've spent my adult life as a vegetarian, mostly as "one who also eats seafood", but sometimes not. Fresh, organic, in season, and low on the food chain are all things I care about in food. I'm also diabetic and soy-avoidant, which I manage via a pescatarian low-glycemic diet, so that makes me eat rather often and somewhat curiously.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, love, sunshine, cheese, Internet access, good shoes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Relationships, menu planning, how to bring more joy into my life and the world around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* Enjoying the company of friends
* At a baseball game
* Finding out who is wrong on the Internet
* Freaking out the mundanes
* Very unlikely to be watching a recently-released movie or gaming (though people I love are likely to be engaged in WoW, KoL or SL, it isn't something I do personally).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Used to be: I have never met a linux sysadmin named Michael that I haven't had sex with. But I've now met one, and while we might have sex some day, it isn't on the near term agenda.
You should message me if
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You're a feminist who is experienced with polyamory/open relationships and would like to meet me, date me, or have sex with me; or

You're a queer polyamorous contra dancer. Location isn't that important, as I schedule vacations to include contra dances; or

If you let your life be inspired by a line from a Mary Oliver poem. (one of my tattoos is quote from Wild Geese); or

If you're brilliant, can keep up your end of the conversation, and think sitting on my sofa with a cat snuggled on your lap would be a fun evening.