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TheEssayist

37 / M / gay / Single

Marion, Iowa

The Skinny

Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Rather Not Say
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently)

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I am neurotic, spacey, and verbose.

My Self-Summary

My demographics sound like a joke: a Catholic, a democrat, and a homosexual are sitting together at a bar. I could say that it sums me up, but not really. I'm a shy introverted guy, but pretty dynamic--multifacited in a way: I write classical music, I read and write non-fiction works, I'm fluent in French, and I love to spend time outdoors, even in the winter; however, I am prone to bouts of introspection and flatulance, and I have a quick sardonic wit (love me, love my quirks).

What I’m doing with my life

I'm a student at the University of Iowa studying creative non-fiction writing. My focus in this genre is social justice issues relating to those of sexuality.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

My favorite books are "When You are Englufed in Flames" by David Sedaris, "Self-Made Man" by Norah Vincent, and "Fun Home" by Allison Bechdel.

On a typical Friday night I am

Is there such a thing as a typical Friday night? If that is indeed the case I would have to say that I'm probably sitting on my couch watching a movie and drinking some Jameson.