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20 F Carbondale, IL

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:59pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English, German (Poorly), Sign Language (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I am in an open relationship. I am looking for potential partners or people to casually date/hook up with.


I am sex/body positive and an equalist feminist(seriously, read the article up there). My main hobby is poetry, I consider myself a poet first and foremost. If you aren't an equalist and are homophobic or anti-men or anti-women's reproductive health we probably won't connect very well as friends. I don't know what I want to do with my life overall, but I know I want to help people. I know that I want to push this world closer to equality. I try to be aware of subconscious conformity to any cultural standards and modify my behavior if appropriate.

Stuff, things.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing and performing a lot of poetry, going out to bars and DDing for my friends, meeting and spending time with lots of great people.

Just graduated from an IPP program, so I'm fluent in ASL, trying to become an interpreter. I've sang in choirs and played trumpet in bands and orchestras for years. I play various different kinds of video games. I love table top gaming, I really enjoy getting into the character of whatever character is generated. I also play a ridiculous amount of board games. I like to travel, I go to medieval/fantasy boffer events all around the country. I have all kinds of hobbies born from that (sewing, leatherworking, roleplay, learning about history, blahblahblah). I'm really good at cooking and making drinks, I know how to put flavors together well. I love learning about all different kinds of things, from molecular biology to space to the psychology of infants. Anthropology has probably the strongest grasp on me though. Culture and the study of it is probably above any other educational pursuit I have come across thus far.
I’m really good at
Being passionate, loving, learning languages, driving, cooking, poetry, grappling, not thinking in straight lines, music theory, singing, scrabble, shitting fast, softball, internet shit talk.
The first things people usually notice about me
For poetry, how passionate and intense I am. Lots of people call me angry, but I think that is misplaced. I'm not angry, just very passionate and don't always talk about happy things.

I wear pretty weird clothing half the time, most I sewed myself. Also depends on if I'm dressed up as a goblin or not. I'd have to guess my laugh and loud personality otherwise though.

But if you're a regular person who cares about typical American things probably what you'll notice and care about most is that I'm fat, have weird hair and sometimes I wear weird clothing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm skipping the first three because I am trying to shorten my profile.

I am into basically all genres of music, just gotta find the right artist. My very favorite is Nine Inch Nails/How to Destroy Angels and anything else Trent Reznor has ever touched in his life. Massive Attack, Portishead, Ray Charles, Glitch Mob, 50 Cent, Nelly, Atmosphere, Lorn, Amy Winehouse, Mindless Self Indulgence, Violent Femmes, L7, various 90s music. Anything by Dave Grohl is pretty tits too. I also like most live music, when it's actually live not just on a computer. The energy at a good show is unlike anything else.

I like basically everything, I am not a picky eater at all. I've been cooking with a lot of turmeric, mustard seed, and fennel seed lately though.
The six things I could never do without
9 things, cause I break rules! These are not in order of importance.

I have learned and been given so much by the people who have been in and out of my life. Even the bad ones, I have learned so much from and I'm really appreciative of them all because they made me who I am today.

Learning, as much as I can about anything and everything I can.

Traveling, and NOT being stuck in southern Illinois all the time. Not that's it's not beautiful here, just don't care for seeing all the same things every single day.

Not winter
I have intense seasonal depression and I have a much more difficult time motivating myself during the cold gray months. I live for the warm windy sunny times of year.

Music, and I don't just mean "cuz i just luv listening 2 it! lol!!!" I am constantly singing something in my head or tapping my foot to something or creating rhythms or beats or songs in my head. Ask anyone who is close to me, I hum or whistle or breathe beats and different music all the time.

Writing poetry and other expression with words.
I host a local poetry night and I write very frequently; probably a poem every week or so. It is my "church". It is my favorite way of expressing myself, and typically is an overflow of intensity and excessive emotional/energy build up in me leaking out. Which is like puss seeping out of a wound; kind of necessary for it's healing process.

I feel this doesn't require much explanation. Gender equality efforts in America have made being more than property or a second class citizen possible.

I lose my mind with animals. Doesn't matter what kind, I basically love all and turn into a derpy mess when I'm around them, even being dangerous. I once while visiting an alligator reserve park in Houston got less than a meter away holding onto a tree leaning over the water to take a picture of a wild alligator.

I mean more than just as a basal need. Holy crap, I love food. I eat that shit everyday. I know my way around a seasoning cabinet and love to cook. Food is my main addiction, good cooking is one of the many keys to my heart.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Agnosticism and how we can never truly know anything.

The future in all of it's forms. In my own life, in science, for this world, for the universe, for technology, for cultures everywhere, etc.

How technological progress does not equal better and morality is relative. Who is to quantify what makes something better? Something better to me is not better to you. Cell phones and air conditioning and computers and concrete are not necessarily better than living a basal life in a tribe in a jungle. What is better is for each individual to decide.

The various oppressed people and how trivial it is to treat people like badly for perceived differences. We are all so small in the grand scheme of things, hating and killing each other over perceived differences is the saddest thing.

Being bitter about christianity/religious zealots and how most brainwash their children in a way that I feel is emotional/mental abuse.
On a typical Friday night I am
It really varies. Sometimes at home relaxing, sometimes out at the bar, sometimes over at a friend's house, sometimes out camping in whatever state.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My username is because I'm really into goblins. I really identify with them and love dressing up and acting like one.

Not private, but admittances:

I ask a lot of questions.

If I could be Abed from Community I probably would be.

I am immensely irritated by the beard craze going on. I'm fine with beards, not super attracted to them, but I hate that people think that only men should have them and that you're not a manly man without them.

I am fascinated with and have done a lot of research on serial killers.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You should NOT message me if you are a Tumblr-ite "feminist" misandrist queer self-diagnosed autistic racist against white people. You would hate me, and I already immensely dislike the hatred and misandry and racism that Tumblr breeds.

You should probably also not message me if you think there are infinity genders. I believe gender is a construct the same as race and I find all the new labels (genderblahfuckqueer) to be a silly trend.

Don't message me if you are okay with transgender people but not okay with transethnic people.

You consider food, healthcare, and safety a human right.

You have watched this video and agree with her.

You don't think Big Bang Theory or Tosh.0 are funny.

Don't message me if you think women have an obligation to shave/wear make up/look feminine and that men aren't allowed to.

You will not comment on my appearance.

You aren't going to copy paste a message you send to all the pages you go to. "im intersted in talkin 2 u u have a cool profile". Tell me why you want to talk to me.

You play Dagorhir.
You feel we have something else cool in common.
You are interested in ASL and/or are involved in the Deaf community.
Or you want to be my friend! :)