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You're likewise looking for a sexy-ass
I like people who have their shit in order but are still quirky
enough to make interesting conversation.
In Myers-Briggs terms, I sync best with fellow iNtuitives.
No thanks if: you're poly or have children. Sorry! I respect ya,
but we're in different places.
Possible conversation starters:
- My dad's a mestizo from Guatemala, and my mom's a
Swedish/Norwegian hybrid (and both are social workers), so if you
want to talk gender, ethnicity, class, etc., you can bring your
experience and we'll have fun decompressing all this madness.
- I love talking with self-aware, open-minded people, whether
spiritual or atheist. I've explored many paths and favor naturalist
outlooks, like pantheism, Taoism and Zen.
- I'm very impressed by athletic ability and fitness, but televised
sports bore the hell out of me. The only way I would watch a game
on TV is if there was a radical change, like "Tonight, the losers
will be castrated." I guess that's why I watch Game of Thrones
- In my early 20's I had a psychedelic 'phase' where I figured out
a lot about my values and purpose. I got what I needed from the
experience and now live a somewhat sober lifestyle of 0-3 drinks
per week and very little caffeine. I'm a fan of simplicity.
- I've been to Spain and Norway, Mexico and Guatemala, Chile and
Bolivia, the Dominican Republic and Easter Island, Washington DC
and Native American reservations. I'm a homebody who likes crowds
Addendum (if you're drinking the Kool-Aid at this point)
I went to a Catholic high school. Great education, and left me with
some strong beliefs (though I'm no longer Christian)... so here's a
line of thinking that's important to me, and may be a big
turn-on/off for you:
We get to know people by spending time with them, understanding
their concerns, sharing their joys and sorrows, forgiving
But if sexuality is thrown into the mix right away, then instead of
being powerfully unitive, it's more something we're doing to
the other than with the other (because we don't really
'know' the other person yet, we can't even differentiate the truth
of them from our hopes and assumptions).
So, if sex isn't sex-with-the-other, it's really just masturbating
with someone else's body. Which is 'treating a person as a means to
an end, and not an end in her/himself.' This is uncool, because
each person has a certain dignity and shouldn't just be seen as a
means of releasing lust/craving/desire.
Getting to the point, you and I both deserve to be addressed as
whole people- not just as our most useful or pleasant aspects. For
me, that means I have no cause to lay a hand on you unless I can
say "I care enough about you to put your needs before my
So, even if I find you very attractive, I'll be in platonic mode
until we get to know each other and share a sense of genuine
affection. I won't try to kiss you on the first date.