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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:10pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Me? Later. Let’s talk about you.

You're a reflective person who pauses to admire little things: fallen petals on the sidewalk, quality tools, and elegant mannerisms. But you don't stop at mere appreciation- you’re fascinated by how things work, and probably love science.

What else? Your cleverness makes you witty and insightful, but your superhero ability is synthesizing many perspectives. This bestows you with a rich inner world, full of parallels and connections that seem hidden to others. As Antoine de Saint-Exupéry said:

"Behind all seen things lies something vaster; everything is but a path, a portal or a window opening on something other than itself."

Even so, friends know you as practical and determined, and you feel accomplished if you go to sleep with dirt under your fingernails.

And of course you think cigarettes and random hookups are lame.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Daydreaming about ancient sages and nodding my head to reggaetón as I send millions of dollars to the four corners of the earth.

Rediscovering piano. Yoga. Going on idealistic rants in the shower while I'm still waking up... my roommate must think I'm a card. I'm sure she knows my whole party platform by now (secular and progressive, by the way).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The foundations and firmaments.
Becoming a better human becoming.
Typical INTJ musings about absurdity and global domination.
The work we all have to do, together (international studies major).
Stuff Buddha said. And tarot cards.
Awkward things I did today that make me burst out laughing in retrospect.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like chivalry, but I have a fairly egalitarian idea of it. Let me paint you a picture:

You're the kind of princess who, when kidnapped, single-handedly takes out all the guards in the castle by the time I ride up on my bitchin' white stallion. Inwardly, I'm disappointed because I wanted exercise after my long commute, but outwardly I say 'I've brought the wine, darling!' in a hokey English accent. You smile, but don't care to ask what kind, because wine is just wine. We share a toast in the amber evening light, get silly, and you provoke me by tickling (which I hate) until we're wrestling across the courtyard- whereupon one of us bangs a shin on something and there is just cursing and laughing, and then kissing. And they lived happily ever after....
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're likewise looking for a sexy-ass equal/companion/friend.
I like people who have their shit in order but are still quirky enough to make interesting conversation.
You often think in images and visualizations!
In Myers-Briggs terms, I sync best with fellow iNtuitives.

No thanks if: you're poly or have children. Sorry! I respect ya, but we're in different places.


Possible conversation starters:

- My dad's a mestizo from Guatemala, and my mom's a Swedish/Norwegian hybrid (and both are social workers), so if you want to talk gender, ethnicity, class, etc., you can bring your experience and we'll have fun lasing apart all this madness.

- I love talking with self-aware, open-minded people, whether spiritual or atheist; I've explored many paths and favor naturalist outlooks, like: atheism, pantheism, Taoism and Zen.

- I'm very impressed by athletic ability and fitness, but televised sports bore the hell out of me. The only way I would watch a game on TV is if there was a radical change, like "Tonight, the losers will be castrated." I guess that's why I watch Game of Thrones instead.

- In my early 20's I had a psychedelic 'phase' where I figured out a lot about my values and purpose. I got what I needed from the experience and now live a somewhat sober lifestyle of 0-3 drinks per week and very little caffeine. I'm a fan of simplicity.



Addendum (if you're drinking the Kool-Aid at this point)

I went to a Catholic high school. Great education, and left me with some strong beliefs (though I'm no longer Christian)... so here's a line of thinking that's important to me, and may be a big turn-on/off for you:

We get to know people by spending time with them, understanding their concerns, sharing their joys and sorrows, forgiving shortcomings, etc.

But if sexuality is thrown into the mix right away, then instead of being powerfully unitive, it's more something we're doing to the other than with the other (because we don't really 'know' the other person yet, we can't even differentiate the truth of them from our hopes and assumptions).

So, if sex isn't sex-with-the-other, it's really just masturbating with someone else's body. Which is 'treating a person as a means to an end, and not an end in her/himself.' This is uncool, because each person has a certain dignity and shouldn't just be seen as a means of releasing lust/craving/desire.

Getting to the point, you and I both deserve to be addressed as whole people- not just as our most useful or pleasant aspects. For me, that means I have no cause to lay a hand on you unless I can say "I care enough about you to put your needs before my desires."

So, even if I find you very attractive, I'll be in platonic mode until we get to know each other and share a sense of genuine affection. I won't try to kiss you on the first date.