What was that? Which martial arts? Aikido...that and samurai swordsmanship. Yeah, I know, right? I think the samurai sword is way cool. Just started studying it fairly recently, but I've been involved in Aikido for most my life, and have dabbled in a bunch of other arts as well. In fact, my dad brought Aikido to Omaha 25 years ago, and he, my brother, and I are all instructors. We moved here from Hawaii...
Yeah, I get that question a lot. The short version is that dad is from here, mom is from Hawaii (she's Chinese) and we grew up there. Dad moved back to Omaha because of his job and I followed several years later to go back to school. Being an EMT doesn't pay much and the cost of living was just insane there. Hmm? Oh, I'm a computer programmer now and I can truly say that I love my job.
I am at a pretty good place in my life right now. The only thing that's really missing is someone to share it with. I have been divorced for almost two years now from an eight year marriage. It is quite a long story, but let's just say that I have learned that I tend to want to rescue broken people, and that never makes for a good relationship dynamic. Don't worry, she and her daughter have moved out-of-state and I no longer am in contact with them, so you won't have to worry about any ex-drama. Frankly, I've had enough drama to fill several lifetimes, and the only drama that I'm willing to entertain is on TV or in the movies. I've been through an ordeal with my last two relationships--and I really don't mind telling "the story" when there's more time.
I have learned from my mistakes, and I truly believe that I'm a better person today because of my experiences. I have always been an insightful and introspective person, willing to admit when I am wrong and working on things that need changing in myself. I have a good heart, am kind, considerate, and respectful. The problem is, my past two exes were manipulative users and they exploited my vulnerabilities for their own gain. For once, I'd like to find someone who is truly a "nice person"--is that too much to ask for?
I do feel that I should mention that although I am spiritual, I want nothing to do with traditional Christianity. I am a former Christian and was a lay minister, worship leader, and bible scholar for many years. I have struggled with many of the attitudes and beliefs even during this time and have come to the place where I no longer consider myself a "Christian", nor do I believe in a "personal" God, although I do still believe in a metaphysical higher power. My beliefs now lean much more toward Eastern Asian mysticism (Taoism, Buddhism) with a quantum physics view of spirituality.
I am politically and socially liberal, although not extremely so. I still believe in personal responsibility, but absolutely loathe the selfishness, self-righteousness, hate, and greed that masquerades itself as conservatism today. I also believe in the responsible medical and recreational use of marijuana as well. (Please go back to the previous sentence and re-read the word "responsible".) Like alcohol, I believe that it can be abused and is opposed to such.
Are you still with me? Yeah, I know that a lot of people might have a problem with that, so I figure I'll just get it out of the way now and be done with it. I appreciate your open-mindedness and have learned over the years that there are very few things in life that are truly black and white. Many people like rigid rules because it is neat and easy and absolves them from taking responsibility and having to think for themselves. I believe that everything should be judged on its own merits and that people are too quick to make snap judgments when they don't really understand what is going on. Sorry for getting all deep and philosophical on you there. Obviously I'm a deep person and like to think and talk about--well, everything. Hope you don't mind.
Let's see, what more can I tell you about me? I love movies, love to read, am a great cook, love to talk and communicate. I am a Jack-of-all-trades, master of some. I have so many interests that it would be difficult to list them all. I just want to learn about everything. Aside from martial arts and samurai swordsmanship, I love yoga, meditation, marksmanship, archery, cooking, gardening, playing guitar (acoustic), singing, writing (poetry mostly), drawing (pencil art), various crafts. I suppose I would fit in as a cultured warrior artist in a past age. What was that? Do I do anything "normal"? Not sure if I should take that as an insult or not. LOL.
No, don't get me wrong. I'm not completely weird and "out there" (although some people might disagree)-ha ha; I'm still a guy and I still love watching football and the UFC. I still love sex (duh) and am still protective of those people whom I love. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm not one-dimensional--that I'm not a stereotype. I'm very in-touch with my feelings for a guy and am not afraid to show emotion or affection. I will absolutely bawl while watching sad movies, but at the same time, am not a nerdy weakling or pushover either. I am not at all metro, but neither am I an unwashed slob either; yes, I do practice good hygiene and expect you to do the same. That would seem like common sense, but apparently, I can't take anything for granted.
Anyway, what I miss the most now that I'm single is companionship: sharing life with another person. While I can truly say that I'm happy with my life, I can also say that I'm lonely. Life is so much more fun and has so much more meaning when you're sharing it with someone else. I'm not looking for someone to "complete me", I'm already a complete person. I'm looking for the proverbial "soul mate" like so many others. They're out there, it's just a matter of meeting them.
But enough about me, what about you? Tell me about yourself. :-)