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48 M Santa Monica, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:46am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of two-year college
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Esperanto (Poorly), Swahili (Poorly), Sanskrit (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I put my age as 48 because of search purposes. Truth is, I'm actually 48 ¾.

I live my life to the fullest, except that sometimes I don't because it's too hard and exhausting, and, well, a fucking cliche on top of all that. So maybe I should say that I live my life to the mediumest. Some days I rock and make incredible shit happen; others I just fuck around and accomplish nothing.

[Disclosure: I enjoy profanity. This profile will be peppered with colorful words because I love the effect they have on speech. I also don't believe in god so the idea of having a list of forbidden words that god supposedly finds offensive is just idiotic. How can god give a fuck whether you use "shit" or "feces" to describe the creamy lump a bird just left on your windshield? Taboo language was created as a means to stratify society into faux classes, the proper vs. the uncultured. And "because that's the way society works" just isn't a strong enough argument for me.]

One thing I do know is that I'm an unconventional man. And if there's anything of value to be gleaned from the musical Grease is that conventionality belongs to yesterday. So I've got that going for me.

Okay, you want to know about me? For a second I forgot that this is a self-summary. Here goes:

I have to be one of the luckiest fuckers on the planet. I've created for myself a fun, rewarding, very free, easy, very comfortable, mostly easy life. I hit the jackpot from the get-go as my parents were cool, loving, warm, smart and open-minded, not-religious people who encouraged me to think for myself and to not accept any new information about life at face value. The even encouraged me to question their own beliefs. Smart. The more they told me not to be like them, the more I wanted to be like them.

I lost both of my parents when I was still a kid (dad at 11; mom at 16), however. Instead of dwelling on such traumatic events, I consciously chose to enjoy the fuck out of life, knowing it doesn't last forever. Not long after my mom passed away I read Viktor Frankl's Man's Search For Meaning (it's unfortunate that the title is sexist) and that catapulted me towards the adult I ended up becoming. Not jaded. Not a nihilist. Just a rational hedonist who seeks to wring the fucking juice out of life when it's convenient and interesting.

I floundered for years, kinda rudderless. Mostly happy, but not sure what I'd end up doing with my life career-wise. I didn't go to college so I didn't have a clear job path. But also, I just didn't want a job. I knew since I was little that I wanted to be in business for myself, to make my own rules (like: Never having to wear a suit). I had a series of really stupid jobs, each one teaching me something really important (like: Not ever wanting a boss). Long story/short: I went into business for myself. And that's been the best thing that ever happened to me. I get to be cool, and fun, and sweet, and I get to make humane rules for my employees to follow (always gathering their input first to make sure they think they're fair, not just me). And I get to set my own schedule, do what is fun, delegate what's not.

I never liked the idea of monogamy. Too restricting. I mean, who would ever want to be in a relationship and never, EVER feel attraction for other people? Yes, I know, people say that it's okay to look and feel attraction, that that is just human nature, but that touching is wrong. Well, I call bullshit on that notion. Lying and cheating is wrong. But I also don't believe there is any honor in depriving yourself of pleasures, as long as no one gets hurt in the process. Honesty is the key. It's your superpower. Well, my superpower. And the more honest I am, the luckier I get. So there you go.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an entrepreneur in the fashion world and it's the most fun thing imaginable. At this stage in my career I luckily have been able to invent for myself the most interesting work imaginable by delegating away most of the crappy, soul-destroying, boring-ass tedium many working people have to deal with on a daily basis. I mean, sheesh, at the very least just the fact that I don't have a commute is a major lifestyle upgrade. I'm at yoga or the gym when most people are driving to work and by the time I come out I cruise and do things when the streets are less busy.

When not working, I enjoy writing, composing music (and recording it in my home studio), reading, relating to people, cooking kick-ass food, playing with my stepson, playing my guitars, entertaining ideas in my head, being a kick-ass boyfriend to an amazing woman, learning about interesting shit. I spend a lot of time in Hawaii, where I also live. I really, really, REALLY prefer warm weather.
I’m really good at
Being honest, kind, empathetic, playful and silly.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my casual-yet-funky sense of style. That my stomach is flat. That I'm a little tall. That I'm excessively well-mannered and polite.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a ton of non-fiction but very, very little fiction (like a novel a year). Favorite topics? Business, psychology, the mind, business, the weird shit religious people believe in, etc. Oh, special nod to Sex At Dawn.

Musically, I'm all over the map, but I'm very picky. I hate techno/house/jungle or other so-called musics with a four-on-the-floor beat. Too fucking repetitive for my taste. I tend to prefer non-mainstream artists like: The Clash, Elvis Costello, Rage Against the Machine, Junip, Uncle Acid, Secret Machines, Tame Impala, Flogging Molly, Flaming Lips, Radiohead, Earlimart, Mercury Rev, Beastie Boys, Pinback, Badly Drawn Boy, Tool, Grandaddy, Atlas Sound, Roxy Music, Big Star, Ben Folds Five, Portishead, The Ramones, XTC, The Jam, Led Zeppelin, Atlas Sound, The Postal Service, How To Destroy Angels, et al. I'll dance like an idiot if you put on Abba and KC and the Sunshine Band. [Just got into Damien Jurado; it's blowing my impressionable mind!]

I tend to dislike popular artists (think Adele, Rhianna, Bruno Mars, Maroon 5, etc.). To me they're like the "impulse buy" items they sell at supermarket checkout lines. You know, it's in your face. You can't not be exposed to these artists. Truth is, to me they're more like second-hand smoke: A nuisance you can't avoid in the public sphere.

Foodwise, well, I like everything almost. You could say going out and exploring amazing restaurants is like a hobby (that and enjoying some killer wines). And I hate the term "foodie," but I am one.

TV and sports I don't care for. I'd rather be in my little studio being creative or out on a date or snuggled up in bed with my girlfriend.
The six things I could never do without
Chickens, soft nylon guitar picks, condoms, Fender Telecasters, music, sex, killer audio systems, Hawaii.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Many women on this site have pictures of themselves taken with Richard Simmons. I keep wondering what this is supposed to communicate to men.

Why so many women here have poofy white dogs of indeterminable breed.

Why such a propensity for criminality among you ladies (you know, the "looking for a partner in crime" thing).

Why so many up-in-the-air, jumping-for-joy pictures?

A disturbing thought: I'd say easily about 55% of women here are "living their life to the fullest." They generally are the up-in-the-air-pic people.

Why even short women want men over 5'10. And why always precisely 5'10? Never over 5'11. Never. [Correction: Found one today who is 5'7" and wants only men over 6'4". I wonder if she'll get to live live to the fullest with her tall-ass partner in crime.]
On a typical Friday night I am
There is not such thing as "typical" in my life. It's all over the place. I don't live on a schedule so what I do on a Friday night is usually decided that Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sheesh, I'm fucking unafraid. Just ask.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you made it this far down my profile. If you don't smoke. If you feel like meeting up for drinks and/or dinner and to shoot the shit. If you just want to ask questions or chat.

I REALLY want to hear from you if you want to vent a little bit about what's really, really annoying about mens' profiles in here (including my own; I love critique). I mean, there's definite themes in common in many of the profiles I read. Dog pictures, the up-in-the-air "I'm so thrilled to be alive" picture, short women wanting tall men, women obviously lying about their age, etc. What are typical guy things?

NOTE: This is where the stupid warning to institutions that might copy/paste your words and pictures usually goes. What, is that supposed to send them running for the hills with fear? It's going to stop people from using your pictures?

Here's my version of the warning:

Any institutions wishing to use any of the wording and/or images in this profile for nefarious, profit-seeking purposes, be my fucking guest. Just, please, don't draw a mustache on me.