This might be the most unusual profile on this site (I hope), so hang on to your, um, whatever you enjoy hanging on to.
For starters, I'm not a single guy. Since I know *many* of you are here looking for your soulmate, I wanted to get that out there up front so I don't waste your time. For those of you still reading, I'll explain everything.
"If you're already in a relationship, why do you want other women?" I get this question all the time. In the past my answer has been simple: Because it's fun. I was explaining this yet again yesterday and I thought of this analogy: Suppose you have one really great friend, a best friend, someone who you just love dearly. Taking sex out of the equation, would you stop yourself from seeking/having friendships with other people in spite of already having a best friend? I mean, why not? It's not like having other friends diminishes this amazing friendship. Now put the sex back into it, same thing. When both people in a relationship agree to be open, what we're doing is confirming that we're both confident and trusting enough that we know our primary relationship cannot be hurt by befriending, dating, and fucking other people.
But that's been the easy answer. There's a deeper one. See, it took me a long time for me to blossom into the self-confident, empowered man that I am now. I missed out on a lot of opportunities when I was younger, when I was too shy to approach women, when I felt a lump in my throat when it came time to ask them out, or even worse when I was riddled with doubt as to whether they wanted to be kissed or not. My entire 30s were spent with one woman (the last few years married to her) and so the decade where I became an empowered, confident man were spent not being able to wield that power. So tons more missed opportunities. I'm not a cheater, so meeting women on the side was out of the question.
So that leads me to where I am today. My confidence has soared even further than before. I launched a successful, profitable, growing business and that has given me an unprecedented amount of life validation. I mean, it's a fucking amazingly hard thing to do. And I launched this business right before the recession, so that makes its success all the more rewarding that it's continued to work and to grow. I've also met an amazing woman who adores me and who trusts me so much that the idea of my dating other women doesn't faze her. In her own words: "I'm happy when you're happy. So if being with other women makes you happy, then that makes me happy." Think about what that does for a man's self-esteem? Of course, it goes both ways. She gets to date as well.
So why do I want other women? Because I just adore women. I love their company. I'm in awe of their beauty. And I want to make friends with other women and even to have sex with them because, well, it's fun.