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TheNotoriousADD

40 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$60,000–$70,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I think of myself as an idealist with realistic tendencies… a dreamer with hard-won survival skills and a natural inclination toward optimism.

INFP
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I made a short video so you could get a sense of what I look and sound like. Still photos can be misleading (for better or worse) and a video does a better job of capturing anyone’s essence… even it’s nothing more than a one minute ramble! ;-)

http://youtu.be/Dsth3HBFVCA

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What I’m doing with my life
I’m a writer. I’m passionate about literary journalism (creative non-fiction), screenwriting and poetry. People fascinate me, and I love finding the narrative arc in seemingly ordinary lives.

I’ve done the starving artist thing and have no desire to go back, so I write marketing and advertising copy for a living. I’m thankful to have a skill that can support me anywhere there’s a WiFi signal, but I haven’t given up the larger dream.

I have an abstract vision of traveling the world and writing about how people find meaning and purpose in a universe that often appears absurd. Meanwhile, I’m working on a far more concrete goal of selling a screenplay.

I’ve got something else in the works... a whole master plan... but I won’t inundate you.
I’m really good at
Getting lost! I’ve lost my way in strange cities all around the world, and it always leads to an adventure.
The first things people usually notice about me
My striking resemblance to Vin Diesel.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Unbearable Lightness of Being (Milan Kundera), Zen & the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (Robert Pirsig), Into the Wild (John Krakauer), The Writing Life (Annie Dillard), Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim (David Sedaris), Unweaving the Rainbow (Richard Dawkins), The Happiness Hypothesis (John Haidt), The Stanger (Albert Camus)

Movies: American Beauty, Pulp Fiction, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Boogie Nights, The Truman Show, Run Lola Run, Jesus de Montreal

Shows: Six Feet Under, Breaking Bad, Sopranos, The Wire, Curb Your Enthusiasm

Music: Regina Spektor, Jenny Owen Youngs, Rufus Wainwright, Of Monsters and Men, The Shins, Cake, Ben Folds, Paganini, Die Antwoord, Chopin

Food: I'm a bit of a health nut. Lately I've been going buck wild with my Vitamix.
The six things I could never do without
* Conversation
* Intimacy
* World travel
* Creative expression
* Abstract ideas
* Snow cones (!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I really have spent a good portion of my life pondering the big questions… why are we here? Where are we going? Why is there anything in the universe as opposed to nothing? My focus lately has tended to be a bit more pragmatic, but I can easily become enraptured with the existential questions if I let myself.
On a typical Friday night I am
So many possibilities… a lecture, a performance of some kind, a film, a dinner party, or at home lost in a book or delving into a project of my own.

You may have noticed that I don’t drink (quit 8 years ago). I have absolutely no problem going to a bar or dating someone who drinks, but if alcohol is such an important part of your life that you’re hesitant to date a sober guy, trust your instincts! We’ll both be better off in the long run. :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Less than a year ago, I couldn’t walk more than a few city blocks without experiencing intense, crippling pain. Despite one doctor’s gloomy predictions, I’ve fully recovered after eight years of chronic pain… and I do my best to never take life (or health) for granted.

In my experience, suffering has a way of focusing the mind and stripping away those petty obsessions of the ego that just don’t matter. At some point I made a decision to surround myself with amazing people… people who are doing whatever they can with whatever they’ve got to make their dreams a reality. We’re social creatures, and engaging life alongside ambitious, confident, kindhearted people has fueled my drive toward self-actualization. I’m not quite there, but I’ve been to the mountaintop. I know how fragile life can be and I refuse to waste a second of it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You tend to embrace possibilities rather than dwelling on obstacles… you have a soft spot for humanity despite our salient flaws… you strive toward self-awareness and know how to communicate your thoughts and feelings… and in your own small way, you want to make the world a better place.