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40 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Not at all
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I think of myself as an idealist with realistic tendencies… a dreamer with hard-won survival skills and a natural inclination toward optimism. I love artistic expression, philosophical inquiry, the scientific method, the poetry of everyday life... and I maintain that none of these things are incompatible.


I made a short video so you could get a sense of what I look and sound like. Still photos can be misleading (for better or worse) and a video does a better job of capturing anyone’s essence… even it’s nothing more than a one minute ramble.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m a writer. I’m passionate about literary journalism (creative non-fiction), screenwriting and poetry. People fascinate me, and I love finding the narrative arc in seemingly ordinary lives.

I’ve done the starving artist thing and have no desire to go back, so I write marketing and advertising copy for a living. I’m thankful to have a skill that can support me anywhere there’s a WiFi signal, but I haven’t given up the larger dream.

I have an abstract vision of traveling the world and writing about how people find meaning and purpose in a seemingly absurd universe. Meanwhile, I’m working on a far more concrete goal of launching a freelance business and selling a screenplay.

I’ve got something else in the works... a whole master plan... but I won’t inundate you.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My striking resemblance to Mae West.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Unbearable Lightness of Being (Milan Kundera), Zen & the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (Robert Pirsig), Into the Wild (John Krakauer), The Writing Life (Annie Dillard), Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim (David Sedaris), Unweaving the Rainbow (Richard Dawkins), The Happiness Hypothesis (John Haidt), The Stanger (Albert Camus)

Movies: American Beauty, Pulp Fiction, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Boogie Nights, The Truman Show, Run Lola Run, Jesus de Montreal

Shows: Six Feet Under, Breaking Bad, Sopranos, The Wire, Curb Your Enthusiasm

Music: Regina Spektor, Jenny Owen Youngs, Rufus Wainwright, Of Monsters and Men, The Shins, Cake, Ben Folds, Paganini, Die Antwoord, Chopin

Food: I'm a bit of a health nut. Lately I've been going buck wild with my Vitamix.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* Conversation
* Intimacy
* World travel
* Creative expression
* Abstract ideas
* Dreams
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
You know... the big questions...

* Why are we here?

* Why is there anything in the universe, as opposed to nothing?

* Are Kanye West songs produced by a random lyric generator... or am I just too white to understand them?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
So many possibilities… a lecture, a performance of some kind, a film, a dinner party, or at home lost in a book or delving into a project of my own.

Incidentally, you may have noticed that I don’t drink. I have absolutely no problem going to a bar or dating someone who drinks, but if alcohol is such an important part of your life that you’re hesitant to date someone who doesn't drink, trust your instincts! We’ll both be better off in the long run. :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Two years ago, I couldn’t walk more than a few city blocks without experiencing intense, crippling pain. Despite one doctor’s gloomy predictions, I’ve fully recovered after eight years of chronic pain… and I do my best to never take life (or health) for granted.

In my experience, suffering has a way of focusing the mind and stripping away those petty, ego-driven obsessions that just don’t matter.

I made a decision a while back to surround myself with amazing people… people who are doing whatever they can with whatever they’ve got to make their dreams a reality. We’re social creatures, and engaging life alongside ambitious, confident, kindhearted people has fueled my drive toward self-actualization. I’m not quite there, but I’ve been to the mountaintop. I know how fragile life can be and I refuse to waste a second of it.
You should message me if
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You tend to embrace possibilities rather than dwelling on obstacles… you have a soft spot for humanity despite our salient flaws… you strive toward self-awareness and know how to communicate your thoughts and feelings… and in your own small way, you want to make the world a better place.