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ThePenguinAbides

42 Austin, TX Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 28–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Nov 17
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), LISP (Okay), C++ (Okay), Other (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

This profile desperately needs updating. And I just (late September 2014) wiped all my answers to the Questions and started over. I had originally answered most of them, like, 9 years ago. I've changed an awful lot since then.



But anyway, here's what I got right now:


This is me. I do math. I like games. I'm pretty smart.




Let's get the poly discussion out of the way. I identify as polyamorous, and I am currently in a polyamorous relationship with a very lovely woman. We're extremely fond of each other. The polyamory thing has been a big part of my life for a long time, so let's face it -- if polyamory squicks you out, I'm probably not the guy for you.


Apparently OKCupid will not allow me to be simultaneously very serious and also laughing about my spirituality. I assure you I am both.


So, most of my friends and I are on this website LiveJournal. Not long ago in the comments of one of my journal posts, a friend spontaneously decided to tell me, unsolicited, all the things she liked about me that she could think of off the top of her head. And then a bunch of other friends did the same thing. Given that my friends are awesome, I figure their words would make a better summary of me than anything I could come up with myself. Here are some of the things they said:


"I like that you're interesting when I actually hear you speak. I like that we don't have to speak.... I like that you're not all about yourself and you're willing to listen and talk with (not at) others. "


"I like that [Steven] is really damn smart. It's fun to see his brain go. I like that he's self-aware, even in long-term retrospect. It's the interest in self discovery that makes that cool. I like that he *is* motivated about some things enough to *make it go*. Motivation is sexy. I like that he's naturally musical. I like that he enjoys playing games. I like that he is open and non-prejudiced about so many of the things that most people are uptight about. I like that he is capable of redefining himself."


"I like that you're so supportive of everyone around you when they need someone to lean on. I like that you're quiet. I like that you're actively working on your issues.... I like your hugs."


"My turn! It's great that [Steven] is so smart, but what I really like is that he listens. It shows he is a caring, sensitive guy. He's willing to admit when he fucked up.... His musical ability impresses me, and I love his sense of humor. "


"I like that you hug well. I like that you're comfortable for me to sit next to.... I like that when we talk, we don't run out of things to say. I like that when we talk, we can pause the conversation and be comfortable. I like that you reflect back to me some of the things that are good about me that don't always get reflected back as much as I'd like. I like that you don't like to be really negative about third parties not present if they come up during the discussion. I like that you accept who I am, faults and all. I like that you try to be honest with yourself. I like that you try to be honest with others."


So. How's that sound? Good? Well then, read on, tout suite!



I am whip-smart, sweet, and patient
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.

I'm a mathematician by training. I'm historically obsessed with Rock Band, as I mention a few other times in this profile... don't have as much time for it these days. I finally got a REAL drum kit.


I used to hang out with burners and go to Flipside, but I don't really anymore. I was too much of a bad influence on them.


I don't drink, but don't think this necessarily means I can't hang out with you if you do drink; au contraire, I can be your designated driver! What a bargain for you. Although if you live to drink and drink to live, that probably won't work out well between us.

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Working with numbers without making mistakes. Problem solving. Teaching and explaining math. Taking standardized tests. Playing Rayman 3. Improvising on the violin even if I'm totally out of practice. Finding stuff on the web. Making people laugh. Staying calm. Keeping up my end of an intelligent conversation. Playing rhythm games (odds are I can kick your ass on any instrument in Rock Band).

An album I sang on in college is on iTunes. That's pretty cool. Maybe I'll go back to choral singing one of these days.

I once advanced to candidacy for a Ph.D. in mathematical logic, specifically set theory.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't say much but I try to make what I say worth hearing. I'm very honest, open, and friendly. I give good hugs. I was just told that I have a memorable smile, and that I have nice lips. That last one's a new one on me. I'm kind of a hick, although this perhaps is less noticeable now that I'm in Texas. Back when I had a full beard, that I looked like Kevin Smith.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: the book that changed (or ruined?) my life was Gödel, Escher, Bach by Hofstadter. I try to read mathematically intensive books so that my years in grad school weren't a total waste; I tend to re-read my grad school textbooks a lot for some reason. Lately I've been re-reading Potter's Set Theory and Its Philosophy, and I also got some Quine books cheap off of Google Books. I read The Diamond Age by Stephenson recently, and I also re-read Watchmen; and I think I'm obligated by law to mention The Ethical Slut (which is not really the best-written book ever, but it has historical value as one of the earliest books about polyamory).

Movies: all Kevin Smith (not only is he handsome, he's talented too!), Lilo and Stitch (don't smirk, it's actually very sweet and well done). Hedwig and the Angry Inch (I dressed up as Hedwig one Halloween in West Hollywood and still wear the boots on occasion [see attached photograph]; I do a mean karaoke rendition of "Wig in a Box"; and, I'm sort of friends with the lead guitarist on the soundtrack! Hedwig hat trick!). The Dark Knight [insert zero or one words here]. A Scanner Darkly. I'm a sucker for any kind of "Is this real? What is real?" movie -- The Matrix, Inception, Cabin in the Woods, Jacob's Ladder, eXistenZ, etc. Also, Pi, Memento, any Monty Python, Groundhog Day, Office Space. Guilty pleasure: Romy and Michele's High School Reunion

Video games: Rhythm games like Rock Band, Guitar Hero, Amplitude, and Space Channel 5; Rez, Rayman, Zelda, Beyond Good and Evil, Jet Set Radio Guilty pleasure: BloodRayne (sexy vampire, rrrowr!)

Music: Everything I know about music that's happened since 1996 I learned from Rock Band. I am very willing to be enlightened about what else I'm missing, especially about good local Austin bands. The only one I know of is The Meat Purveyors. Anyway, I dig all things Bob Mould (Hüsker Dü, Sugar, and even [hell, especially] the early 2000's forays into electronica), X, Verbow, My Bloody Valentine, Sleater-Kinney, Fugazi, Social Distortion, Bad Religion, The Beatles, Liz Phair, Richard Thompson, Superchunk, 7 Year Bitch, The Donnas, that dog., Beastie Boys, Juliana Hatfield, Sebadoh, Pixies, Frank Black, The Breeders, The Amps, Veruca Salt, Shellac, Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre, N.W.A., Run-DMC, MC Frontalot, Jurassic 5, Doug E. Fresh, Dead Prez. Lately (as of May 2011) I've had a strange fascination with Dev.

I'm quite fond of quality stand-up comedy. For example, Eddie Izzard, Bill Hicks, Mitch Hedberg, Ron White, Dave Chappelle.

Foods: mmm, donuts. I used to live in NC and really liked the food there, Eastern-style barbecue, biscuits, hushpuppies, sweet tea, greens...I gained a lot of weight in NC.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without just about anything. See if I don't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Right now, (May 2012) my new job, and thus Python, JSON, and reStructured text. Infinity and the nature of the continuum. Rock Band and Rocksmith. Virtualization and Qubes OS. Did I mention Rock Band?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends, playing a game. Maybe at a party or at a rock show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I always lie when sites ask me this question.

(Note, this is a logic joke. It's cool if you don't get it. Actually, I rarely lie about anything.)
You should message me if
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the spirit moves you. Couldn't hurt, right?