This profile desperately needs updating. And I just (late September 2014) wiped all my answers to the Questions and started over. I had originally answered most of them, like, 9 years ago. I've changed an awful lot since then.
But anyway, here's what I got right now:
Let's get the poly discussion out of the way. I identify as
(and, full disclosure, have very, very recently ended a polyamorous
relationship -- so recently that currently I am still living in a
room in her house, for now). A monogamous relationship isn't
necessarily off the table, but the polyamory thing has been a big part of
my life for a long time, so let's face it -- if polyamory squicks
you out, I'm probably not the guy for you.
Apparently OKCupid will not allow me to be simultaneously very
serious and also laughing about my spirituality. I assure you I am
So, most of my friends and I used to be on this website
LiveJournal. Several years ago in the comments of one of my journal
posts, a friend spontaneously decided to tell me, unsolicited, all
the things she liked about me that she could think of off the top
of her head. And then a bunch of other friends did the same thing.
Given that my friends are awesome, I figure their words would make
a better summary of me than anything I could come up with myself.
Like I said this was a few years ago, now, but I'd like to think a
lot of this is still applicable. Here are some of the things they
"I like that you're interesting when I actually hear you speak.
I like that we don't have to speak.... I like that you're not all
about yourself and you're willing to listen and talk with (not at)
"I like that [Steven] is really damn smart. It's fun to see his
brain go. I like that he's self-aware, even in long-term
retrospect. It's the interest in self discovery that makes that
cool. I like that he *is* motivated about some things enough to
*make it go*. Motivation is sexy. I like that he's naturally
musical. I like that he enjoys playing games. I like that he is
open and non-prejudiced about so many of the things that most
people are uptight about. I like that he is capable of redefining
"I like that you're so supportive of everyone around you when
they need someone to lean on. I like that you're quiet. I like that
you're actively working on your issues.... I like your
"My turn! It's great that [Steven] is so smart, but what I
really like is that he listens. It shows he is a caring, sensitive
guy. He's willing to admit when he fucked up.... His musical
ability impresses me, and I love his sense of humor. "
"I like that you hug well. I like that you're comfortable for me
to sit next to.... I like that when we talk, we don't run out of
things to say. I like that when we talk, we can pause the
conversation and be comfortable. I like that you reflect back to me
some of the things that are good about me that don't always get
reflected back as much as I'd like. I like that you don't like to
be really negative about third parties not present if they come up
during the discussion. I like that you accept who I am, faults and
all. I like that you try to be honest with yourself. I like that
you try to be honest with others."
So. How's that sound? Good? Well then, read on, tout suite!
I am whip-smart, sweet, and patient