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ThePrivacyMan

48 M Studio City, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:20pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Before I plunge into this, did you know that for men, there's no "Body Type" for those of us who are "athletic" but not chunky? Some of us are "athletic" but on the slender side, as opposed to human doorstops.

And now, on with the profile:

They say a cynic is nothing more than a disappointed romantic. That may be true. I'm a rogue male in search of my muse. A financially secure man who makes no apologies for being a man, seeking a real, smart, sensual, secure woman who knows who she is and what that entails. I'm also a very private man, but more on that later.

Before we get too far, know that I'm definitely not the muscle-headed, stubble-faced man-child wannabe actor tending bar and working for tips. I'm old school. The dark haired stranger whose strands of silver are finally making him look more grown up. The type that calls the next day if it was good and sends flowers if it was fantastic. Definitely more James Bond than Chuck Norris, I've been told I'm physically more a mix of a Euro-American looking type, which means I lean more to the "olive" than "pasty white" on the complexion scale.

I don't work in an office and since none of my clients are here in L.A., OKC is just about my only local social outlet. So here I am.

The way I see it, relationship math works out like this:
I make you feel good + You make me feel good = Wonderful.
Yeah, it really is that simple.

Although I don't care about age, I seem to relate best to women (and people in general) in their 30's and early 40's because that's when people seem to be really dynamic and interesting (or maybe because a lot of my clients are in that range?). Twenty-somethings are nice, too, but only if we can hold each other's interest (to be fair, I guess I could get accused of cradle-robbing, but in fact I've met some wonderful, interesting, fun women who were in their 20's -- what am I going to do, NOT meet up with them?). So if I've contacted you and you're wondering "what's this older guy doing contacting me," now you know.

I could just as easily be your friend as fall in love with you. Which means if you'd rather just be a pal or a playmate (of all kinds), by all means approach, even if it's just a chat here on OKC (assuming my chat button is on).

People have asked me, "Why the big deal about privacy?" The answer is simple: First, I like being private, especially with you. I don't need to broadcast my private life, which is why I hardly pay attention to my Facebook page. Second, in my line of work, discretion is important....I have no problem sending photos if/when we connect, but I do that offline.

As for my profession, I solve problems for businesses when nobody else can, mainly because I have this knack for seeing things from all kinds of different perspectives. At first I thought it was a personality flaw, but then I turned it into a career. I really enjoy it.

Funniest reply I've ever gotten here is from one woman who cracked, "It's okay to have Daddy issues....as long as you find the right Daddy." And yeah, it really does happen in real life.
What I’m doing with my life
NOT spending it rooting for some football or basketball team, I can guarantee you that. We spend more time in the earth than on it, and sitting in the bleachers watching a bunch of over-inked goons play games is not my idea of optimizing pleasure.

Remember that great line from As Good As It Gets where Jack Nicholson's character tells Helen Hunt's, "You make me want to be a better man"? Yeah, that.

I have no baggage. No drama. A few strange and funny stories, though. I don't do mud runs or sky diving, because I've nothing left to prove -- and nothing is sadder than someone past 40 who still craves approval.

I'm fortunate to be financially comfortable, and while I don't donate to charities, I mentor a lot of new, young, struggling owners with their businesses because I think that's the most effective way of giving back. I've even met some of them here.

Also, I think the beach is way overrated.
I’m really good at
Putting you at ease. Making you feel fabulous. Understanding heartache. Knowing that nothing makes a man feel like a man more than knowing he's made a woman really happy.

Hey, wanna see me make you smile? Watch this:

You're smiling....
right.......
......now.....
....aren't you?
You are, right?
Come onnnnn.
AHA!
See? Told ya.
The first things people usually notice about me
...the smirk on my face, the sparkle in my eye, the tongue in my cheek. I also get a lot of compliments on my hands.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TED talks, although I skip the ones that have to do with over-discussed third world issues, extreme poverty, man-made end-of-the-world scenarios or idiots who think that downsizing one's living space is some sort of grand accomplishment.
Movies: GoodFellas, Zardoz, Heat, What the Bleep Do We Know, The Great Race, The Artist, The Sixth Sense, Walk Hard, Hoffman, Ferris Bueller's Day Off. I don't do chick flicks because I'm not gay.
Food: Italian gets me every time. I'm fear no gluten.
Music: I regret that most people use music as a crutch to avoid real interaction with the world and others. I like music, but unlike so many others here, it's not my religion. Then again, this may be my favorite song of all time.
Books: Biographies, mostly. Everyone's got an interesting story, including you, I bet.
The six things I could never do without
1. A really secure, sexy, enlightened woman that inspires this.
2. A great hideaway.
3. A hot cup of coffee.
And three other things I could tell you, but prefer to show you in real time because they involve pillows.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1. Why so many women here seem to pander to what they think are guys' sensibilities, like sports and jock stuff. I just want to be with you because you're you. You know: a woman. The stuff that makes us glad we're men.

2. Wouldn't you rather be home where it's warm and cozy and with someone who makes you feel special and loved and is willing to try that thing you've always wanted to try but were too shy to ask for? Yeah. Me too.

3. Why some women return to visit my profile so often but don't say a word. I mean, if you keep coming back, why not say hello?

4. What's the preoccupation with yoga? There are FAR MORE pleasurable things one can do with, or preferably to, one's body, I promise you.
On a typical Friday night I am
...the very same man I was Thursday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1. I have a 32" waist and a 34" inseam.
2. Sometimes I check out women whose profiles are REALLY LOW percentage matches, just to see what I'm missing.
3. I consider the three greatest inventions of all time to be the wheel, the internet and the Brazilian Wax...but not necessarily in that order.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You're a real woman, as opposed to a little girl looking to be rescued.
You agree that most men in West Los Angeles are actually more like women with penises.
You prefer men to cats.
You're not bitter.
You're Sapiosexual.
You're white, Euro, Latina, foreign or just interesting. I'm a strong believer in equal opportunity pleasure.

You can also just e-mail me.

Anyway, if you're too shy to reach out, drop a reasonable hint that even a moron could get and I'll take it from there. If I don't answer, it's probably saving you a lot of time, believe me.