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33 M Santa Rosa, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Other, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Ok, this profile is still somewhat out of date as of Feb 3. Question answers related to employment and some others are now inaccurate due to massive life changes. GOOD LIFE CHANGES!

I like to read. I like to write. I like to think. I've been trying to cram everything that's ever been written into my brain lately. I am an unrepentant, unreformed, unreconstructed Geek; love it or leave it. I've had a lot of diverse experiences, to say the least. I've been a lot of places, done a lot of things, and learned a lot. I am almost some sort of Renaissance man, but kind of less awesome than that sounds. Still trying to grow because its, like, your DUTY. I'm a jackass, but I like to think I'm a lovable jackass.
What I’m doing with my life
Listening to Mastodon and turning lives around. I am kind of a life coach, sort of. I work in mental health fostering recovery in people with serious mental illness. It is quite an amazing job and I'm excited to be on the cutting edge of mental health care worldwide.
I’m really good at
I have an alarming array of skills because I've really gotten around in the last ten years. I have been told I'm extremely perceptive and have good social skills which I almost never use to bilk people out of money at the poker table. I know a lot about history (academic history, not 'History Channel history'), am fairly well read in the philosophical and literary classics, was once certified as an EMT, can probably still remember how to mic a drum kit, have had respectable success growing beans and garlic (homegrown is so much better), have studied Jiu-Jitsu and can still armbar you, can explain macroeconomics in a way that lay people can understand, am/was considered an Expert by the US Army in the employment of a variety of weapons (Rifle, Pistol , M249 SAW, 40mm Grenade Launcher, I am the world's most fearsome Liberal), hate war as only a soldier can, may possibly remember how to play classical guitar, once near-singlehandedly cleared a backlog of legal cases against the US Government because the State Department was too scared to go where I was (long story), I mix a mean cocktail, I'm handy with a sword (rapier and broadsword/saber, specifically), I am ok at wielding a knife or stick (been studying Kali on the side), I play a passable game of chess, I am a HUGE GEEK (its like a nerd, but with social skills), I'm reasonably handy at practical science, I have an herculean tolerance for pain (this is not always a good thing), passably good at no-limit Hold 'Em, am far more flexible than I look, I can make you understand interest aggregation in the US political system and what that means for you, I fence and shoot ambidextrously but write and throw right-handed, and am a dangerous man at Trivial Pursuit.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told my eyes are very noticeable. They're bright blue. I expect my bald head of Patrick Stewart-like awesomeness also stands out. I am often mistaken for a much younger person, which I find unbelievable. I've also had people remark about how polite I am, which I also don't really understand. I just try not to be a dick to strangers. I run off at the mouth when someone asks a question related to subjects in which I have particular expertise or interest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: I read a lot of political theory, economics, and counter-terrorism literature, it was what I studied in college. I'd list my favorites, but it would be a long list and would bore you. I'm slowly switching back to fiction and absolutely love the works of Philip K. Dick (A Scanner Darkly, Flow My Tears the Policeman Said, and Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? in particular). I have a love/hate relationship with the works of William Gibson. I enjoy Raymond Chandler's stark, hard-boiled prose and oblique similes as well as his gritty world. I adore Pablo Neruda's verse, given a good translator (I speak Spanish well enough to appreciate the aesthetics of his verse, but often not enough to get the full meaning). Naked Lunch is quite an experience to read, as is Alice in Wonderland. I have a love/hate relationship with the works of Larry Niven. I plan on reading the cornerstones of Beat literature. A Clockwork Orange was brilliant if blunt. Dante's Divine Comedy had an early impact on my literary explorations. I love to puzzle out TS Elliot. I am almost up to date on A Song of Ice and Fire, which is my only swordsy Fantasy anymore. I tend to like my fantasy to be more along the lines of Gulliver's Travels, James and the Giant Peach, Alice in Wonderland, or Rats of NIMH. I have a deep and burning hatred for the works of Ayn Rand. Lately I've been reading a lot of Renaissance literature about fencing, geometry, and western philosophy, all in the same books. Camillo Agrippa, Ridolpho Capoferro, Nicoletto Giganti (they found and translated his second book, so excited), Vincentio Saviolo, and Gerard Thibault (that one is so weird).

MOVIES: The Men who Stare at Goats, Watchmen, Charlie Wilson's War, A History of Violence, Aliens, Blade Runner, Bronson, Cinderella Man, Departed, Dr. Strangelove, Dune, Eastern Promises, Fight Club, V For Vendetta, Pulp Fiction, Gangs of New York, Star Wars, Army of Darkness, The Big Lebowski, Apocalypse Now, Grindhouse, Ginger Snaps, Halloween, Hard Boiled, Hard Eight, Hudson Hawk, Kill Bill, Last of the Mohicans, Mad Max Trilogy, Office Space, Rob Roy, Romeo Is Bleeding, Shogun Assassin, The Good, the Bad and the Ugly, The Deer Hunter, The Duelists, The Outlaw Josey Wales, There Will Be Blood, Tron, Movies with Zombies, Zombieland in particular, many many others.

MUSIC: Good lord, its a huge list. I get around, but am always listening to Tool (seen em 3 times, totally worth it). In no particular order, out jazz, death metal and thrash, classical (piano and guitar in particular), Lamb of God, Tom Waits, Industrial, classic rock, folk instrumentalists, prog-rock/metal, 80's goth bands, very old country or Johnny Cash, Dethklok RULES, certain jazz fusion groups, old gyangsta rap (grew on me), others I'm sure.

TV: The Wire, which may be one of the best works of fiction I've ever encountered; definitely genre-transcending. Ridiculous Being Human fan. Huge Archer fan, wish Dead Like Me and Firefly had never been canceled, watch Mad Men for the menswear and the subversive social critique...and the hot ladies, Metalocalypse has reneweds mys loves fors the Metals, love the Venture Bros, and have always planned on watching Twin Peaks, but never have.

FOOD: The only thing I love better than learning, modifying, and concocting recipes for food and cocktails is consuming food and cocktails. I'm particularly proud of my Ful Mudammas, my Garlic Balsamic Vinaigrette, my pan-seared steak, my invincible stir-fry, my corned beef and cabbage, my refried chickpeas (about a million times better than it sounds), and my pea and lentil soup. Lately its been a lot of lentil and vegetable soup.
The six things I could never do without
My Family, swordsmanship (in a world with nuclear weapons, I master the sword, because fencing keeps you young), the internet (I free-base data), my veterans, my Bob Cat (who lives far away now), and my home library (that counts as one...right?).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to provide better care in the mental health care system. How to be a better person. How to teach rapier combat more effectively :) How to achieve nirvana.
On a typical Friday night I am
Unwinding from my week, possibly lesson planning for the class I teach on Saturdays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't know, guess you'll have to try me and find out.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if are reading this. If you've spent this much time reading, just message me, I'd love to hear from you and I don't bite. For serious, stop reading and write me. Do it. Don't be a jerk. Do it.