"I do SM in search of a moment's clarity and pureness of existence. In the act of SM and D/s I shed layers. I shed the layers of calcified defenses and starched propriety and peel away my civilized veneer. In the act of SM and D/s I must be fully present in the moment. There's no other choice. No other way for me to live leather. Anything less would be an act of self-disrespect and dishonor.... In the moment of SM, nothing else matters. Only this I know to be true; that there is only me, my partner and the world formed by the two of us. Even in the midst of a crowded play party, the crowd simply becomes the backdrop and the grand chorus for the unfolding primal drama. They bear witness to the sublime arias."
- Midori

Life is too short to fuck around. Or too short not too. Take a chance, live a little. These are words I've been trying to live by as of late.

I like living in the moment. I like surprising myself. I like taking total responsibility. Owning my own shit. I like feeling just. Feeling strong, healthy, and balanced. I like earning respect.

"... If you see what I see, if you feel as I feel, and if you would seek as I seek, then I ask you to stand beside me..."
- V -

I'm a very fast learner when it comes to anything I'm truly passionate about. And I find passion (or it finds me) quite often. I'm one of those obsessively-determined-to-be-an-expert-at-it-,-by-4:30 types.

I love my friends - and I love finding the good in people. I love my ability to see what others don't.
I'll get along with any halfway decent person, but I don't betray who I am in a desperate attempt to be liked.
I tend to have the respect of everyone I myself respect.

- I have the least amount of regret out of everyone I know. Every stumble and trip has created me and brought me here. And I am grateful.

Note:
Either we have chemistry or we don't, and luckily I can tell in person almost immediately. If we're not great for each other, I'd rather not waste your time... or mine.

I've spent my whole life teaching, and now I'm out to explore the world beyond. I love the idea of teaching, what it gives to the world, and what it gives to me. But there has got to be something more challenging.
SO, I'm doing what any sane person looking to switch fields would do in this economy. I'm avoiding it altogether, going "back" to school. I'm always excited to learn more, so this could be just what I need.

I also have a small soap company.

And I enjoy bicycling, people watching, going anywhere on my motorcycle, boxing/kickboxing, talks about philosophy/thought/meaning/history/science, building things, taking apart things, fixing things, welding, jiu-jitsu, uncovering the lies told by those in power, finding the structures prescribed by chaos theory throughout nature, judo, jogging, running, trail running, free-running, parkour, hiking, playing piano/guitar/drums/bass, singing during every shower I take, writing music, making BDSM gear, using BDSM gear, theme parties, helping people, throwing wrenches into cogs, preparing for the zombie apocalypse (and any other pending apocalypse), and being way overdressed no matter where I am.

Emotional connection, artistic endeavors, problem solving, getting lost in the moment, teaching/development/practical psychology, turning snuggling into mind-blowing sex, and matching wits.

I happen to enjoy looking my best, so sometimes it's my outfit.

Or maybe my piercing blue eyes. Or my Draculesque widow's peak. Or the gorgeous girl on my arm.

Favorite book and movie: Fight Club

Music: MUSE, The Matches, The Pixies, Nirvana, The Kinks, Justice, The Knife, M.I.A., Peaches, Danny Elfman, Tom Waits, Queens of the Stone Age, Metric, The Faint, Portishead, The Littlest Man, Street to Nowhere (and Dave alone, too), Desa, Bush, Death Cab for Cutie, Ratatat, old Depeche Mode, Rasputina, some Rilo Kiley, At the Drive-In, The Mars Volta, Gorillaz, Interpol, Ladytron, Pretty Girls Make Graves, Billy Talent, Elliot Smith, some Beastie Boys, old Hole, Modest Mouse, The Doors, Aphex Twin, The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Eminem, some Frank Black, Radiohead, Green Day, Supergrass, Superdrag, Cursive, The Weakerthans, Soundgarden, The White Stripes, The Cranberries, some Wallflowers, Ben Folds, some Elvis Costello, Outkast, The Hives, Daft Punk, Reel Big Fish, Stone Temple Pilots, 2pac, some Bad Religion, Jimi Hendrix, Jay Z, Bjork, the first Third Eye Blind album, Moe Wanson and the Mean Fiddlers, The Beatles, Hot Hot Heat, Oingo Boingo, My Chemical Romance, The Dust Brothers, Linkin Park, The Postal Service, R.E.M., Alanis Morissette, The Foo Fighters, Husker Du, The Suicide Machines, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, some Joe Jackson, The Strokes, Tenacious D, Operation Ivy, The Clash, Sneaker Pimps, Smashing Pumpkins, Reggie and The Full Effect, Dasein Entertainment, Frou Frou, Suede, some Sigur Ros, Judgement Day, Dashboard Confessional, Lit, The Prodigy, old Weezer, non-new Coldplay, Nine Inch Nails, Jawbreaker, the stuff I write. Of course, every artist has songs (or even whole records) I don't like.

Food preferences change daily.

1. sex
2. very close friends
3. strenuous physical exercise
4. food
5. sleep (mmm)
6. knowing that I'm making a difference in this world

Domination and submission.
Power exchange.
Bondage.
Shibari.
SM.
Engineering.
Combat sports.
Art's effect on the human mind.
How to use this economic depression to get ahead in life.

Oh, and your mom.

Now that I've moved into a warehouse with 16 or so other people, Friday nights can be as exciting or as chill as I want. Any night, for that matter. And most of the time we don't even have to leave - we make the fun happen right here. Between playing with fire, welding things, djing, vjing, juggling, breakdancing, sparring, trapeze, gymnastics, aerial silks, the indoor tire swing, hosting movie nights, and hosting "skills share" nights for all these things (and a bunch more), it's a blast whenever I want it to be.

And if I'm out, you might see me at a hoppin' house party. Or at a club where they play good music (as opposed to bad music). You might even catch a glimpse of me gettin' down on the dance floor. Or perhaps you'd see me at a concert. Or somewhere else. I enjoy many things.

I've already mentioned things quite sensitive, personal, and a private in nature. You'll have to get to know me to know more than that.

You should message me if you want to talk about BDSM. Or if you enjoy getting tied up, or having workshops on rope bondage.

Ideally, you are passionate, smart as fuck, drama-free, a skilled communicator, petite, and good at following orders.