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33 Shawnee, KS Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Apr 29
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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"You know what? I can over think everything and find a million ways to doubt myself. I've just come to realize that, we're only here briefly. And while I'm here, I wanna allow myself joy. So fuck it."

Lately, I have been letting this quote sink in. It is from the late 2013 movie "Her." I watched it for the first time recently, and by the time it was over, I knew that it was already my favorite film... set to replace Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. I remember lying in bed thinking... "I do not think I ever need to see another movie again."

The movie depicts love in different ways... through different types of relationships. One thing that seemed prevalent throughout all of these portrayals was suffering. Reflecting on the movie after watching it once, my mind ponders that fact.... the truth of love and suffering being synonymous. Even when we experience an orgasm, the most intensely physical pleasure we can experience, our facial expression can be confused for one of pain.

Throughout my explorations in philosophy and religion, specifically Buddhism, I came across a concept on multiple occasions...

Life is suffering.

It sounds so bleak at first, but the more you explore... the more you question... the more you experience, you begin to understand the layers of that statement.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am an artist.

Recently, I have worked towards making a career out of photography. It is a slow, but steady process. I am also an avid music lover and musician who sings, plays piano and writes lyrics and song arrangements. From time to time, I work on teaching myself the Ocarina. I am also a certified audio engineer. Off and on, I also explore Graphic Design, Web Design, Drawing, statue and miniature painting, voice acting, writing short stories and poems and so much more.

Being a paid photographer is by no means what I plan on spending my life doing. It is a great concept to make money with an artistic skill, but most of all... I want to create art on my own terms. I have a long list of ideas for ambitious projects such as a few ideas for books I want to write, photo projects that might require traveling, conceptual music albums, screen plays and even product ideas. The list continues to grow as I do and I hope that as I make money with photography, I will be able to pursue these ambitions.
I’m really good at
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I find myself intrigued with the subject of communication and I find it to be a very important, if not the most important, aspect of any type of relationship. I feel that I have great communication skills.

I tend to excel at any form of art that I put my heart and soul into, but I have to be careful not to spread myself too thin. Given that, I am really great at focusing on one thing and putting every ounce of my being into it. On the contrast, I am terrible at multitasking.

I am great with all forms of technology and find myself often dazzled by new inventions and concepts, yet at the same time, you will hear me often speak of technology with an intense dismay. I find that I require a computer for pretty much every form of art I indulge in... and yet I despise computers.

I am good at putting myself in another's frame of mind in order to see a situation from their perspective. This helps in moments of conflict.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably the odd blend of style that I have... which contains elements of goth, a modern graphic designer, a hipster, and a Buddhist Monk.

Other than looks, I would hope that anyone I encounter notices my friendly and approachable demeanor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music is very important to me and I find myself to become quite depressed when I am not involved in it in some fashion. I am a pianist, singer, lyric writer, song writer and audio engineer. Currently, I lack a piano because I had to sell mine due to financial issues. I dearly miss my instrument and long for the day when I can purchase another. I like most genres except for modern country and Christian music. Some of my favorite current bands include Future Islands, Radiohead, Arctic Monkeys, Depeche Mode, Chopin, Arcade Fire, Awolnation, David Bowie, CHVRCHES, Louis Armstrong, Gotye, Daft Punk, The Knife, Chairlift, Massive Attack, The Naked and Famous, Nine Inch Nails, A Perfect Circle, Marilyn Manson (Holywood and prior), TV on the Radio... and so many more...

I am also a huge movie fan. I like all genres really. Lately, I have been infatuated with unique love stories like Her, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Let the Right One In.... but I tend to stay way from generic romantic comedies. I love horror, thriller, action, drama, documentary... pretty much anything.

I don't own a TV (by choice), but I watch shows on iTunes or Netflix. I have enjoyed Lost, Portlandia, Fringe, Breaking Bad, Doctor Who, Dexter, True Blood, 30 Rock, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Full Metal Alchemist, Death Note, Samurai Jack and some others.

Lately I have really been into books on Eastern philosophies. I also enjoy a great novel... two of my favorites include House of Leaves and Swansong. I read physical books, eBooks as well as listening to audio books. I love reading.. and I love reading to someone else who is interested.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My camera to capture what my eyes see
My piano to capture what my ears see
Those that I love to capture what my heart sees
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Happiness, art, love, reality, awareness, beauty in the grotesque and dark, the human condition and all aspects of life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are my nights to go out and spend time with friends. With friends, I Like to watch movies, listen to music, play video games, read together, enjoy a good conversation or take a night walk. Generally, I am up for anything.

Every so often, I will go out alone and take photos out at the Plaza, Crossroads or West Bottoms in Kansas City... or Mass. Street in Lawrence.

Sometimes, but rarely... you will find me at Missy B's. Missy's is pretty much the only club that I will go to, and I don't go very often. If I drink, I only have one or two drinks. I am not much for the party scene anymore.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I get sort of lost mentally from time to time. I get distracted easily, my memory falters, I have zero sense of direction and I have trouble being present in the moment and fully aware. I am working on this.
You should message me if
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... you are interested in a friendship or more, or perhaps you are just looking for a good conversation. I am up for anything.

I am married and we have agreed to a semi-open relationship where we can each have separate relationships with members of the same sex. As of now, I am not able to pursue a relationship with a woman, but I am available for a man. I am seeking a monogamous relationship with a Man as I will be with him and no other man, as I am with my wife and no other woman.

Given that, I am interested in pursuing a friendship with either a man or a woman as well.