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Hello! My name is India.
General stuff: I am a fat-positive, liberal, kinky, genderqueer,
pansexual tomboy-femme of color who believes in relationship
anarchy, feminism, community, and consent culture in all aspects of
life, not just sex.
More specific things: I'm very affectionate. I tend to
inadvertently flirt. I surprise myself with how comfortable I am
with socializing naked. I really REALLY love dancing and have been
told I'm good at it. When I walk around, I have to actively resist
checking out my own sexy reflection on storefront windows.
Sometimes I do strange or possibly stupid things just for the sake
of a story. I have a face that makes strangers want to tell me
their secrets, and often times I'll listen because I really like
knowing and discovering people.
PLEASE READ ALL THE "YOU SHOULD MESSAGE ME IF" SECTION BEFORE
MESSAGING ME TO AVOID ANY CONFUSION LATER.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just graduated from a small liberal arts college with a BA in Child
Psych. About to start my term with this Americorp program called
I have lots of friends in the city, but I'm looking to find a
community that affirms my identity. Might try to jump in on a cool
artsy, queer project or something where i can put my passion for
community building and activism to work.
Looking to go to grad school for social work and law in a few
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting a whole bar of strangers to dance with me
Chillaxing in the nude
Cooking without a recipe
Starting random conversations with people on the street
Talking about art
Hiding the fact that I'm shy
Putting my foot in my mouth.
I can talk up a storm about very specific things like racial and
queer politics, the penal system, theater history, theories on the
adaptive nature of political parties, language psychology, child
psychology, families in America, perceptions of mental health in
the US, women's history, social theory, the history of drugs and
addiction in America, the history of the weird and scary
institution of marriage, etc. I like being challenged and debating
about these topics and love to learn new things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My boobs tend to get a lot of attention which I find mostly
annoying. Otherwise, maybe my racially ambiguous appearance?
Freckles? I don't know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I never really care to read what other people write for this
question (half the time I don't know what people are referencing),
so I'm not going to bother. Ask me in a message, if you want.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My amazing friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
friendships and relationships
sociology thoughts: power structures, capitalism, ANGST
how awesome I am
what if the whole world was queer and/or relationship
the relationship between culture, media, and individual behaviors
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chilling with friends. Parties sometimes, but I prefer them if I
know most of the people. Occasionally drugs and alcohol, I am not
aggressive about either.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a switch but people keep treating me like I'm exclusively a top
or a dom because I'm good at it and it's my default, so my
bottom/sub side is often neglected. If you are an actual switch or
if you are inclined towards dominance, then I'd be very interested
in meeting you. I am satisfied by variety and being overpowered is
something that I don't have enough of in my life.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-I assume nonmonogamy as a default. So if you are down with that,
cool. I'm pretty flexible about it though and depending on
circumstances willing to change the terms of my nonmonogamy.
-Please message me with more than just a greeting and/or a
compliment about my body and/or a weird question about my
sexuality. I really don't understand why you think that's a good
idea. Either I will delete your message or respond with something
mean if I'm feeling cranky.
-Okcupid won't let me put this in my settings, so the sort of
people I tend to be attracted to are queer whatever their gender
may be. If you are a straight cis-man who somehow ended up on my
profile despite my settings AND you actually have something
intelligent to say, then feel free to send me a message.
-If you message me and your settings indicate that you are only
looking for friends, I will be confused and unlikely to respond
because I am not using okcupid for that.
-If you aren't really interested in the whole messaging formality
of okc and just want to meet in person over coffee, I am so game
for that. I feel like there is almost nothing you can really find
out about your compatibility with a person through a few
conversational messages. Not saying you have to take this strategy,
just that I'm not against it.
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