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Thinking_Maybe

44 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 18
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a married woman in an open relationship seeking a man to listen to, look at, and drink with.

So: I'm professional but a bit artsy, not traditional at all, and enthusiastically literate. Enthusiastically a lot of things in fact. I prefer cultural doings over sporty type events--indie rock and indie films, literary fiction, theater, and museums--but plenty of room for trashy TV too. Plenty. I like culture, including popular culture. I'm ridiculously verbal; I swear a lot, listen well, and have many, many opinions. I'm not an emotional wreck, a flake, an addict, or a scammer. I show up when I say I'm going to show up. I am not your next wife, but I am all sorts of fun, and romantic options do exist under the right circumstances, with the right chemistry, and in the right time frame.

I live and work in downtown SF. I'm funny and smart; I'm assured, polite, and have exceedingly good diction. And if you are fascinating, I have a lot more than just convention to offer. So for god's sake, be fascinating. Have something to say. The way I'll know you are interesting is if you send an interesting message--HI! and a smiley face is friendly but not interesting. Liking long walks on the beach and the sound of rain is not interesting--they're cliches. It's fine if you like them--everybody does--but be more interesting than that. I'm a specific kind of person and I like specific kinds of people. Please: I don't need to see a photo of you naked. But I do need to see a photo of your face. Guys with photoless profiles, I probably won't write back to you--sorry, but I'm as visually oriented as you are. Probably best if you're over 35, and if you're over 50, you had really better mean that "youthful" thing you like to say. Bonus points for eyeglasses, lankiness, and a post-punk sensibility.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Having a passionate and productive love affair with the alphabet, trying to keep my hands warm, wondering when Canada became our indie rock overlords, biding my time until I can have more ice cream, giving witty and insightful advice about other people's love lives while being often bewildered about my own, gradually developing a taste for cocktails, thinking thinking thinking always goddamn thinking, and, like everyone, thundering blissful toward death.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I pay very close attention to words. I do it professionally. I do it for fun. I know the difference between compliment and complement; and may, might, and can; and since and because. And I can kick your ass all the way to Mars on matters of punctuation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair. Always. There's no escaping it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Martin Amis, Kurt Vonnegut, Haruki Murakami, Michael Chabon, Sherman Alexie, Kenzaburo Oe, Mark Leyner, Sarah Manguso, Anne Carson, John Berryman, Frank O'Hara, Anne Sexton, Blake Butler, Robert Anton Wilson, David Mitchell, Lynda Barry

Movies: Stardust Memories, The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai, State and Main, Cloud Atlas, On the Beach, Adaptation, Wings of Desire

Music: The Mountain Goats, Nick Cave, Bob Mould, Of Montreal, Grizzly Bear, Japandroids, Iron and Wine, Joanna Newsom, Destroyer, Frightened Rabbit, Cloud Nothings, Dan Mangan, Neutral Milk Hotel, Okkervil River, PJ Harvey, the Replacements, TV on the Radio, Alice Donut, Robyn Hitchcock, The Rural Alberta Advantage

TV: Breaking Bad, Louie, Mad Men, Real Housewives of Fake Boob Horrorshow, Being Human, Nurse Jackie, Twin Peaks, Mystery Diagnosis, 30 Rock

Food: meat, cheese, bread--always good in any combination or by themselves!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have spent much of my life being surprised by the things I can do without, and it's too dull to list the basics of bio-survival, so this question is essentially of no use to me or to you.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why a woman who embraces non-monogamy is seen as empowered whereas a man who embraces non-monogamy is seen as immature, punctuation, how the word "dollop" is the same upside down and backward, whether my dog is happy enough, how to balance the need for security with the need for passion, finding just the right word, anatomical art, what it could possibly mean when people say a thing is "too sweet."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Very often open to suggestion.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can sing the Preamble to the Constitution.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're a nice person and at least one thing from each category is true about you:

Category A
All kinds of brainy
Unusual
Damaged but not ruined
Complicated
Dom
Poly
Artistically productive
You are Peter Weller (Actually, if you are Peter Weller, you don't even have to bother with category B. Just come to my house.)

Category B
Funny