So: I'm professional and responsible and dependable--I have a mortgage and a dog and an ex-husband and an accountant. But temperamentally I'm not traditional or conventional really at all--I have large tattoos, a published book of poetry, and an enormous appetite for adventure. I am enthusiastically literate. I am enthusiastically a lot of things in fact. I prefer cultural doings over sporty type events--indie rock and indie films, literary fiction, theater, and museums--but plenty of room for trashy TV too. Plenty. I like culture, including popular culture. I'm ridiculously verbal; I swear a lot, listen well, and have many, many opinions. I'm not an emotional wreck, a flake, an addict, or a scammer. I show up when I say I'm going to show up. I am not monogamous but I am quite intensely in love with my partner, so I am not your next wife or anybody else's either, but I am all sorts of fun, and no-pants options do exist under the right circumstances, with the right chemistry, and in the right time frame. And I'm also 48, not 45, but I tend to match better with a slightly younger demographic so I game my profile to show up in those search results.
I live and work in downtown Oakland but I am in downtown SF quite often. I'm funny and smart; I'm assured, polite, I talk a lot, and well. And if you are fascinating, I have a lot more than just convention to offer. So for god's sake, be fascinating. Keep up. Have something to say. The way I'll know you are interesting is if you send an interesting message--HI! and a smiley face is friendly but not interesting. Liking long walks on the beach and the sound of rain is not interesting--they're cliches. It's fine if you like them--everybody does--but be more interesting than that. I'm a specific kind of person and I like specific kinds of people. Please: I don't need to see a photo of you naked. But I do need to see a photo of your face. Guys with photoless profiles, I probably won't write back to you--sorry, but I'm as visually oriented as you are. Probably best if you're over 40, and if you're over 50, you had really better mean that "youthful" thing you like to say. Bonus points for eyeglasses, lankiness, and a post-punk sensibility.