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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm geeky, shy, and occasionally charming.
I'm quiet and thoughtful, and I enjoy the company of talkative and thoughtful people.
I probably spend too much time staring at clouds.
I admire intellectual curiosity, self-awareness, and empathy.
I adore cloudy weather. If you ever hear me going on about what a beautiful day it is, you can bet the sky is gray. I blame my New Mexico upbringing.

I animate game characters for a living and can occasionally be spotted wandering the forested hills east of Oakland. I've lived all over the country in recent years but I plan on settling in The Bay for a long while. The East Bay has been fantastic so far, but If there's one thing I miss from home it's the broader space and wide-open vistas.

I'm in a polyamorous relationship. I have one serious, long-term girlfriend, and on OKC I'm mostly focused on casual dating (which could be short term or long term) and am not worrying to much about specific outcomes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Fighting a constant battle between my need to be compassionate and reach out to people and my introverted need for solitude. Art helps.

I'm pondering a bit of a career change. I'm trying to decide if I want to do more 2D art, or more programming.

In my spare time I work on indie game projects, draw things, play board games with friends, and occasionally pickle vegetables.

I dabble a little in music. I can play a little piano and I'm learning the harmonica.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Visual-spatial thinking.
Doodling weird creatures.
Worrying about other people.
Gaining the affection of cats.

I've been told that I have the patience of a saint.
I strive to always be compassionate.
I can probably kick your butt in Mario Kart.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my generally awkward but friendly demeanor. I get a lot of compliments on my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like the Discworld series, Isaac Asimov, and the book Dragon's Egg.

I'm also a fan of comics, both in print and on the web. Some favorites are Seconds, Subnormality, Concrete, Order of the Stick, and Fun Home.

I'll eat nearly anything you put in front of me. My comfort foods are Japanese and Middle-Eastern cuisine. My favorite beers are Stouts and Porters.

I'm especially fond of an old family recipe of lamb-and-rice grape leaf rolls boiled with lemon juice. It's awesome if you like sour, savory food, and it's a lot of fun to make with a bunch of people. Not to be confused with the cold oily Greek version. These are served hot straight from the pot.

I grew up listening to oldies and 90's rock. Beach Boys, Nirvana, The Zombies, Green Day, etc.
I love klezmer and old-fashioned swing.
My favorite band is probably The Ditty Bops.

Some of my favorites are Stranger than Fiction, Spirited Away, Her, and the Godzilla series. I guess I like thoughtful philosophy or dumb fun adventure in my movies.

I'm a bit of an animation geek (I am an animator, after all). I love Studio Ghibli and Pixar, and I like finding animated films that are a little off the beaten path, like The Book of Kells.

Favorites include the first 10 seasons of The Simpsons, Steven Universe, Star Trek: The Next Generation, 30 Rock, Futurama, and Adventure Time . Did I mention I like cartoons?

GAMES (Because why not have a games section! I make them for a living, after all.)
Some of my favorite games are Yoshi's Island, Zelda: Majora's Mask, Undertale, Earthbound, and Minecraft. I also enjoy arty games such as Shadow of the Colossus, Braid, Journey, and Gone Home.

As for board games, a couple of my favorites are Ticket to Ride and Betrayal at House on the Hill.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order.
1) Someone to bounce ideas off of
2) Cloudy skies
3) Time to myself
4) Daydreams
5) Toilet Paper
6) Fidget toys (I am currently playing with a slinky in my left hand)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think a lot about how I think, the shape of my thoughts, why I arrive at the conclusions I arrive at, where my emotional reactions come from, etc.

I think a lot about the relationship of art and media with society, picking apart the messages of the things I watch and read and pondering what my own art says about me and what I value.

I'm often assembling paintings in my head or rehearsing conversations. I'm usually thinking about some major creative project or another while struggling to stay focused on the one or two projects I'm actually working on.

In short, I'm usually daydreaming.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fridays I'm generally at home cooking dinner.

I usually go out on Weeknights or Sundays to play board games with friends and maybe watch a show or something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I look damn good in a dress.
I'm not the most masculine man in the world and I'm kinda proud of that.

I can't flirt to save my life.

I was always the weird kid who didn't really play much with the other kids at recess, and instead mostly wandered the playground making up stories.

Now I'm the weird adult who does those things in the parking lot on my "coffee breaks". It seems to be more widely accepted in adulthood.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'll note again here that I am in a poly relationship. So be cool with that and prepared for the open and honest communication that makes it work.

Beyond that... Maybe I can show you how to make stuffed grape leaves. Maybe you can help learn the harmonica. Maybe we can climb trees in the park.

Tell me about an interesting dream you had and where you think it came from.