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Thistlebee

28 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
NOTICE: For your browsing convenience, I've added a TL;DR to the bottom of my lengthier sections. So scroll down if you're impatient!

I'm a player of video games and a drinker of beer. I'm in a committed relationship with my girlfriend of ten years, and said relationship is open. Tantalizingly open. Delightfully open. Sexily open...?

Less tantalizing, delightful and sexy is my social anxiety. Interacting with (most) humans builds up stress in my brainses, and I need time to myself to decompress. However, I've been told this anxiety doesn't show when I'm on a date. I attribute this to my non-degree in Theatre Arts leading to a non-career in acting. That, and I'm usually VERY excited to go out on dates.

I've learned to be aware of my privilege as a cis-gendered, heterosexual white man. I do my damnedest to keep from mansplaining and male-gazing. I'd call myself a feminist, LGBTQ and POC ally, but "ally" is kinda becoming a safety zone, like "oh good I'm an ally now so I don't have to worry about this shit anymore."

If you're curious about my girlfriend, she's foulowl and she's awesome.

Lastly, the internet tells me I'm INTJ, for those who like four-letter combinations.

TL;DR: I'm a sometimes-awkward gamer geek in an open relationship.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Testing games for a living, playing games for fun, and chilling with my lady. Trying to get back into my homebaking and homebrewing hobbies, but the going is slow. On the backburner is blacksmithing. Gotta get back to the Crucible someday...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding misplaced objects, baking bread (though I wouldn't say "really" good), self-mockery, being mocked by others, setting myself up for being mocked, gracefully accepting and even hamming up my reaction to being mocked.

Seriously, apparently I give off a Little Brother vibe that all Big Sisters pick up on as soon as I open my mouth. It is often exploited with merciless teasing. It's actually kinda comforting.

Maybe that should go into the "most private thing I'm willing to admit" section...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have commented on my eyes, my vocabulary (oh my, it's so big), the way I emote, my accent (California-raised, but I stretch my vowels oddly sometimes), and my rings.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Disclaimer: These aren't necessarily my favorites, but they spring to mind.

Authors: N. K. Jemisin, Douglas Adams, Terry Pratchett, China Mieville, Octavia Butler, Alan Moore, and Neil Gaiman.

Movies: Lord of the Rings (they're better than the books and I'll defend that position to the death or the successful refutation thereof), Brick, Princess Mononoke, Alien, The Prestige, Pan's Labyrinth, Star Wars: Episodes IV through VI, the Fifth Element, and Die Hard.

Shows: Bob's Burgers, Adventure Time, Regular Show, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Cowboy Bebop, Buffy, Luther, Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, The Office, X Files, Clone High, and the Wire (which may be the most perfect television I've seen).

Music: Most of my music collection is gaming soundtracks, remixes, and chiptunes. Exceptions include Johnny Cash, Daftpunk, and Beyoncé (there is a time and a place for "Blow" to get stuck in your head, and 2:00 PM in the office is NOT it).

Food: Burgers and bread are passions for me, and I can speak at length about both. I'll be happy to tell you why bacon is a poor choice to order on your burger despite how delicious it is. Sandwiches of any kind are high in my esteem. I love Mexican, too (like any good Californian boy). Korean food is fucking amazing. There's an Off The Grid market near my work three times a week; my favorite trucks are KoJa Kitchen, Old World Food Truck, and Rib Whip (solely for Grandma Ruth's buttermilk pie).

Beer: Stouts and IPAs are my favorites, with all manner of Belgian ales close behind. I'm trying to learn to like sours. The only style of beer I come close to disliking outright is most types of lagers, and that's just because I'd rather have an ale. In terms of brewers, I like Dogfish Head, Green Flash, Ballast Point, North Coast, Stone, Allagash, and Goose Island (begrudgingly, since Anheuser-Busch owns them).

Video Games: Hearthstone, Dark Souls, Nuclear Throne, Half-Life, Team Fortress 2, Mass Effect, Portal, Super Meat Boy, and why the hell not, Final Fantasy VII.

TL;DR: I don't think this applies as much here, but here goes. Sci-fi and fantasy, whatever's on the radio, burgers and craft beer, and first-person shooters and indie games.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Entertainment: From video games to sci-fi/fantasy novels to sex, having fun is serious business for me.

2. Yeast: In order of priority, beer, bread and kimchi are some of my favorite things to put in my body. Fermentation for the win.

3. Fresh Food, Good Cooking: Avocados, burgers, expensive cheeses, my mom's pie. The application of effort and expertise to well-grown, well-raised organic matter.

4. Information: Namely teh interwebs. And I don't always pay attention to everything, but dammit, I at least want access to knowledge.

5. Rules: Sounds odd, but here's my take: they make language function, they make games enjoyable, and they make sex consensual and fun. Even Calvinball has rules.

6. Companionship: From my girlfriend to my pets. I need the satisfaction and contentment that comes from understanding and being understood by another living thing.

TL;DR: Fun, fermentation, food, facts, fiats, friendship. Okay, "fiats" is a bit of a stretch for "rules," but I was on an alliteration roll.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In no particular order: game design, wordplay, sex, social justice, dogs, and beer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Because of the social anxiety I mentioned in my self-summary (which you read in depth of course), I default to staying in to play video games, drink beer, and watch movies with my lady. Thrilling, yes? I do sometimes go out for libations, though!

Crowds of hot young hipsters bother me, so I don't leave my apartment during Art Murmur. No exceptions.

...Okay, well, I'm physically and emotionally capable of making an exception, but I TOTALLY WON'T.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I prefer women of a specific age.

Because, honestly, if someone has a nonspecific age, that person probably exists outside linear time and I do not know if we'd be all that compatible.
You should message me if
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I can be pretty terrible at making first contact (though it's something at which I'm continuously getting better). If you're interested, send me a message.

That said, you should also message me if:

- You hail to Lord Helix, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster, or the Cosmic Owl, or Our Lady and Savior Beyoncé.
- You understand and are down with my commitment to my girlfriend.
- You're not interested in me at all but are curious about my lady.
- You find me attractive and want to find out if I'm worth your time.
- You want to talk about or play video games, talk about or drink beer, or talk about or eat food.

Bonus points if you're experienced with open relationships and the EXCELLENT written and verbal communication skills navigating them requires.

Also, bonus points if you have short hair. But, um, if you have long hair, you still get bonus points. Bonus points for everyone!

TL;DR: When in doubt, go ahead and message me!