If You Don't Stop That
- a favorite from Hafiz
I used to live in
A cramped house with confusion
But then I met the Friend
And started getting drunk
And singing all
Confusion and pain
Started acting nasty,
With talk like this,
"If you don't stop 'that'--
All that fun--
I am tall, red-brown haired, blue eyed, sometimes red-bearded, usually clean-shaven, massively mutton-chopped of late, professional, Pagan, poly, pervy, well read, college educated. I am a cook (not a chef, as I don't usually create menus or recipes, but a damn fine cook and/or assistant-to-the-chef, as I have much technique and can often tell whether an herb or spice is lacking or will spoil what we're preparing), seamster (again, not a tailor, as I don't create patterns nor modify things well, but I can run a sewing machine or needle-and-thread just fine), walker, gardener, camper, equestrian, actor, drummer, dancer, singer. Experienced with silk and leather; ice and wax; fire and water; soft and hard; heavy and light.
Curmudgeonly and misanthropic at times, my friends know there are few better to have in their corner when the chips are down.
I am polyamorous by nature, currently involved in no serious relationships (though there are a few long-distance and/or local-but-infrequent playmates on my dance card), but usually with two or more regular locals of varying intensity and commitment, all of whom always know about each other, and who would know about you (and about whom you would know as much as you chose). Flirting with many, as always, with some interest in, but not solely focused on, taking these further. Useful books if you're curious about this are Love Without Limits -- The Search for Sustainable Relationships (now in its second edition, retitled Polyamory : The New Love Without Limits) and The Ethical Slut.
I hope to find more people who are interested in exploring the potentials of their bodies, minds, and spirits, through sensation, conversation, sex, ecstatic experiences, and more, whether as friends or otherwise.
I'm generally not looking for one-night-stands, though the occasional purely hormone-driven romp is wonderful, and if that is how we click, I'm not dead-set against it. I much prefer to find long-term friends and playmates, which may or may not include "romance" or "sex" in the traditional senses. I've been a few years without a "primary" partner, and I'd really like to find my "home"/lifemate/whatever -- but I'm more interested in exploring out where each relationship fits naturally, whether that's friends, lovers, playmates or otherwise, than in forcing any connection or relationship into a pre-defined shape.
I belong to the Glainn Sidhr Order of Witches, and help facilitate the goings-on of EarthSpirit. For the past several years, my most visible and demanding role has been as a staff department head for Rites of Spring, our annual May gathering of about 500 like-minded folks for song, story, ritual, and celebration. 2014 will be my 26th year, and the 36th Rites of Spring.
I'm about 90% Top and 10% Switch, if that question matters to you. My favorite toy is the mind, and my favorite ways to play are through stimulation and sensation, neither of which necessarily mean "pain" or "pleasure"...
Bottom line, I try to practice ethical hedonism.
I am charming, wyrd, and inscrutable.