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23 M New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Aug 12
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Student, polyglot, feminist, oriental classicist, history geek, board game aficionado and dirty fucking pervert in a responsibly and consensually non-monogamous relationship with the wonderful not_even_poets.

And yes, I look sexy in drag. Deal with it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finishing my degree after having taken some time off from school.

I want to be an expert on Sino-American relations and a responsible social activist. I'm getting a degree studying East Asia and the Middle East, with particular interest in military and political history. I also love: philosophy, Classical Chinese, literature, political theory, Arabic, German-style board games, and carousing with persons of questionable character--those who question the status quo.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Sharing love and laughs
Spending too much time poring over maps
Keeping the right kind of company
Intellectual conversation
Making a kickass Old Fashioned-- or just about anything else.
Arts & crafts
Playing Axis & Allies ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm warm and outgoing and unashamed of the things I love.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Heinlein, Murakami, Camus, Eliot, Beryl Markham, Yeats, Mo Yan, Ibsen, Woolf, Orwell, Hemingway, Pamuk, Kissinger, Whitman, Barbara Tuchman, et al. Yes, Guns of August is one of my favorite books of all time and it is historical nonfiction. I also dork out on Frank Herbert's Dune.

Kubricks, Hitchcocks, Scorseses and Tarantinos. Fritz Lang's Metropolis. The Empire Strikes Back.

Firefly, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Game of Thrones, Mad Men.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family; friendships; dignity; kink; adventure; avocados.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The important people in my life and the sacrifices of my loved ones; Alternate history; Courage; Systemic and historical injustice; Maps; Acocados; Power, fate, and tragedy; Moral/existential issues and the human condition; Cultural paradigms; How to get from where I am now to where I want to be; How to disempower my insecurities; Languages; Saving money for my next bottle of Islay; Hot, kinky sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time with my girl or with my friends, talking loudly about What Is To Be Done over a Sazerac, watching a foreign film, making sex toys, playing Diplomacy or Puerto Rico, poker, or indulging in my guilty pleasure of playing computer games where I get to chop down forests and abuse resources to build increasingly complex and hierarchical societies (because stratification and inequality is a sign of progress) that go to war with each other.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Okay, so maybe sometimes I can be a huge cheeseball.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–26
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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If you're interested in conversation, a date, or a play partner. If you like games or history or DIY or general dorkiness. If you like Paradox Interactive. If you like cuddles. If you fantasize about volunteering in the Spanish Civil War. If you've got a cool whisk(e)y you want me to try. You have to love talking, you have to love adventure, and you have to respect my primary relationship.